So I’m the best man, that means I have to plan the Bachelor Party:
It’s going to be this summer, in Chicago/Burbs, and I could use some advice.
So feel free to share your advice, good and bad bachelor party stories, and even bachelorette stories if they are entertaining.
Dont put twinkies on your pizza…
Pretty much the last word on the subject in this thread :
[quote]solafide55 wrote:
So I’m the best man, that means I have to plan the Bachelor Party:
It’s going to be this summer, in Chicago/Burbs, and I could use some advice.
So feel free to share your advice, good and bad bachelor party stories, and even bachelorette stories if they are entertaining.
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Well, as the best man, you probably know your buddy/brother/whatever and know what he likes, so first you should consider those things. Then when you get that figured out, if you’re planning on inviting a bunch of friends, figure out how to involve them in all of it.
I’ve been to way too many bachelor parties and the majority of them were a bunch of guys getting together, starting at a sports bar or regular bar or Hooters, drinking for a while, then going to a strip club and wasting alot of money on themselves and the groom, finally ending the night broke and usually spending the next day hungover playing golf or just hanging out. No big thrills there, but everyone usually enjoys themselves.
I’ve also been to a few where we ended up doing something active, like jet skiing or playing some sport, and usually drinking and generally being idiots together the whole time. Usually we’d also grill out and then again, end up at a strip club before the end of the night, usually leading to the same outcome as in the previous paragraph.
Sometimes alot of the people don’t care for doing anything other than hanging out with friends and having a camp out or something. Or maybe going to someone’s house and playing cards all night and drinking beer. Thats enough for them.
That describes the majority of the bachelor parties I’ve been to or helped plan. Except for one that really stands out as the ‘craziest’ one. For that one, we gathered up some cash and a friend who had a connection hired a couple of dancers to come to us. So, we went to a friend’s place, had drinks, and eventually the dancers came over and spent the next couple of hours or more giving everyone lap dances that were alot more personal than you’d get at a club. Which they followed up by putting on a ‘show’ involving toys and penetration that we all watched at incredibly close range. In the end, for the first and only time that i’ve ever seen, the others paid a few bucks for them to take the bachelor into the back room. I’m pretty sure something happened, but i’m not positive. It was definitely an interesting event overall. However, i’m not sure what effect it might have had on his marriage as they were just work friends and I changed jobs soon after.
But the point is that there’s definitely a variety of experiences available ranging from full on debauchery (and probably trouble or at least troubled consciences) to something more mild that focuses on friends doing stuff together. You need to figure out the bachelor and go from there. Thats the important thing. That and keeping everyone alive of course. If jet skis and batting cages are more his speed, you can rent them out in advance and maybe get a place to stay along with it. If he’s more into poker and beer drinking at the house, thats even easier to set up. If you think he’d like to have a couple of girls doing naughty things to each other in front of him and his friends in some privacy, you can probably check out the clubs and ask the dancers, find some online forum about it, or ask that one friend who’d know and get it set up for the right amount of cash.
And then there’s always Vegas or Mexico if you’re really looking to blow it out.
Just make sure you don’t end the marriage before it begins.
It’s all about the donkey show in Mexico.
only one of my buddies has gotten married. He lived in dc and we all lived in ny/ct (his parents lived in ct too.) We surprised him on friday by flying him up. The best man called his fiance and she called his work a week in advance to get him teh day off, but he didnt know until teh night before when his fiance started throwing his stuff into a suitcase.
We drove from la guardia up to a golf course near his house, played 18 holes, went back to his parents house. His father is a volunteer firefighter, so he rented out the fire hall and a bunch of, I dunno, family friends, male acquaintances from town, whatever, came over for this the party, along with two dancers. By the way, it is REALLY awkward to have a girl on your lap while a bunch of dirty old men are learing. Moving on.
After waking up hungover as shit we went to a mets game. That’s where the pg-13 party ended. A limo picked us up from shea and drove us to foxwoods where two strippers (who were actually hot this time) met us and did a show that was much better without the old men watching. Then one ate the other out. i would recommend payign the extra, whatever it is. Totally worth it. We gambled the rest of the night and split up to go home sunday morning. One of the best weekends I’ve ever had.
I would jsut say bear in mind that alcohol should play a prominent role, all guy things are good - paint ball, breweries, I liked the sound of the jet ski idea - and this is one where I feel like if you’re deciding whether or not to do somehting based on cost, just do it. It (is supposed to) only happens once.
As my older friends from the college days began getting married, I participated in some pretty good “bachelor parties” and some rather weak “bachelor events.”
So somewhere along the way, I redefined a proper “bachelor party” to strictly include an entire weekend in Vegas. (I still embrace my degenerate tendencies)
But then last July, a good friend had us all head to Vancouver for his bachelor party. WOW.
If you are like me, you will not go wrong in Vancouver or Vegas.
My brother is getting married later this year and his fiance has banned him from having strippers.
Now I thought that the only reason that a man actualy got married was so that he could have a bachelor party that included a stripper. What is the point of getting married if you don’t get to have the stripper.
What has this crazy world come to.
[quote]Helga wrote:
My brother is getting married later this year and his fiance has banned him from having strippers.
Now I thought that the only reason that a man actualy got married was so that he could have a bachelor party that included a stripper. What is the point of getting married if you don’t get to have the stripper.
What has this crazy world come to.[/quote]
Yikes. It’s usually the overeducated women who try to pull this stunt.
I’m not sure what would be worse: if your brother actually allows his woman to call the shots in his life, or if you stand aside and allow your brother to concede any of this.
[quote]chillain wrote:
Yikes. It’s usually the overeducated women who try to pull this stunt.
I’m not sure what would be worse: if your brother actually allows his woman to call the shots in his life, or if you stand aside and allow your brother to concede any of this.
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I couldnt agree with you more.
As his best man I feel that it is my obligation to arrange a stripper despite her wishes, but he has reluctantly agreed with her and asked me not to arrange a stripper.
What should I do, do I get a stripper, do I resign from the role as best man in protest or do I let him have a half assed bucks party with no stripper?
[quote]Helga wrote:
chillain wrote:
Yikes. It’s usually the overeducated women who try to pull this stunt.
I’m not sure what would be worse: if your brother actually allows his woman to call the shots in his life, or if you stand aside and allow your brother to concede any of this.
I couldnt agree with you more.
As his best man I feel that it is my obligation to arrange a stripper despite her wishes, but he has reluctantly agreed with her and asked me not to arrange a stripper.
What should I do, do I get a stripper, do I resign from the role as best man in protest or do I let him have a half assed bucks party with no stripper?[/quote]
Why does the wife to be know what is going on? That’s part of the problem. You don’t tell them anything ahead of time, and it’s never spoken of in mixed company afterward (if it’s a really crazy party, it’s never spoken of period).
I agree with earlier posts to not do anything the bachelor wouldn’t get into. I’ve been to and planned really crazy parties, but if the person it’s for is not into it, the keep it to something they would like.
If you do go the crazy stripper route, there are two things to remember. First, you are not obligated to invite anyone, especially family. Just because she wants her brother or father to be there doesn’t mean you should invite them. If their presence makes the bachelor uncomfortable, then you are better off dealing with the consequences of not inviting them. I have done this, so get some balls and do what is right for the bachelor.
Secondly, do not agree to anything where the bachelor and bachelorette parties are going on simultaneously, and plan on meeting up at any point in the night. That will always ruin a good night out. Tell her that you will be out all night, the bachelor will sleep at a buddies house, and she will see him tomorrow. Then, turn off the fucking cell phone and do it right. Those are two big mistakes that can be easily avoided.
Vegas, Vancouver, or Montreal…can’t go wrong with any of them. I am a bit partial to Montreal in the summer. Plus, when the US Dollar is strong against the Canadian Dollar you definitely get more “bang” for your buck.
[quote]Helga wrote:
chillain wrote:
Yikes. It’s usually the overeducated women who try to pull this stunt.
I’m not sure what would be worse: if your brother actually allows his woman to call the shots in his life, or if you stand aside and allow your brother to concede any of this.
I couldnt agree with you more.
As his best man I feel that it is my obligation to arrange a stripper despite her wishes, but he has reluctantly agreed with her and asked me not to arrange a stripper.
What should I do, do I get a stripper, do I resign from the role as best man in protest or do I let him have a half assed bucks party with no stripper?[/quote]
waitaminute, waitaminute, waitaminute … why is this even a question? Let me put it this way - one of my best friends is getting married and his girlfriend is a P-R-U-D-E puuuhhhhruuude. I was at his place a week or two ago and we were reliving the bachelor party I wrote about above with the two lesbian strippers and he goes “yeah … I thought about it … I dont think I really want strippers at my bachelor party…”
between bouts of hysterical laughter his roommate adn I managed to squeeze out “Dude, exactly what makes you think that your bachelor party is about what YOU want?” So yeah, we’re having strippers, whether he likes it or not
I’m gonna be serious here for a second
i think it’s a pretty big red flag if this cannot be discussed with his fiance and she comes around. thats probably neither here nor there, because thats between him and his girl not you and him
I can understand being somewhat uncomfortable in teh sitution, I was single at teh time of my buddy’s bachelor party, if i had a fiance, yeah I can understand … but whats ACTUALLY going to happen? A naked girl will sit on his lap for 2 minutes and then pay much more attention to his friend. No stripper has EVER forced a guy to let her give him a blowjob/handjob, whatever. If he does, well, thats a whole other scenario
in all honestly, he needs to think of his friends too. I am betting you guys will be dropping a considerable amount of money for this, and some of the guys will really look forward to it. It’s one of those stupid guy things that youre SUPPOSED to do, and in all honesty, it’s pretty much harmless fun. Nothing happens unless you want it to. A bunch of looking and thats it. Girls always think its silly/cute/strange how guys are into lesbians, but all of a sudden this is not ok?
I like the suggestions so far what I’m really needing is the middle of the day activity to tie it all together.
So far I got it planned like this:
Noon: No Limit Hold 'em $20-40 buy in. Winner keeps his buy in, rest of the money goes into the pot for payment of later activities. Obviously hold 'em will entail pizza, or grilled items, as well as cigars and plenty of beer.
3:30 - 6 ???
Here’s were I need suggestions. I was thinking bar hoping, a sporting event, but if there is something better let me know. I would golf, but the groom is not a golfer.
6 - 10 Strip club and or bar hoping, possibly more cards. I’m not 100% sure here either, but I know we won’t have much trouble figuring out something here.
10-??? Hotel room, girl on girl show.
Another question is what to do for transportation. Obviously a “U Haul would be sweet,” but is it cheaper/better to take a limo, trolley, bus?? Any suggestions here would be appreciated as well.
[quote]solafide55 wrote:
3:30 - 6 ???
Here’s were I need suggestions. I was thinking bar hoping, a sporting event, but if there is something better let me know. I would golf, but the groom is not a golfer.
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Is a game of paintball an option? Nothing like getting the groom all bruised before his wedding.
Being an Australian I would fill this time with a Barbeque and copious amounts of beer but considering it is a perfect time of year for it in the southern hemisphere I guess it is not so great on the top part of the world.
Anything relating that can include either sport or drinking or eating will be perfect for that time of day.
[quote]Helga wrote:
chillain wrote:
Yikes. It’s usually the overeducated women who try to pull this stunt.
I’m not sure what would be worse: if your brother actually allows his woman to call the shots in his life, or if you stand aside and allow your brother to concede any of this.
I couldnt agree with you more.
As his best man I feel that it is my obligation to arrange a stripper despite her wishes, but he has reluctantly agreed with her and asked me not to arrange a stripper.
What should I do, do I get a stripper, do I resign from the role as best man in protest or do I let him have a half assed bucks party with no stripper?[/quote]
Get the stripper and show him what it’s like to have balls. Seriously, I’ve dealt with this myself and held firm. along with buddies. I conceded on the lap dance thing, btu still saw boobies.
[quote]solafide55 wrote:
I like the suggestions so far what I’m really needing is the middle of the day activity to tie it all together.
So far I got it planned like this:
Noon: No Limit Hold 'em $20-40 buy in. Winner keeps his buy in, rest of the money goes into the pot for payment of later activities. Obviously hold 'em will entail pizza, or grilled items, as well as cigars and plenty of beer.
3:30 - 6 ???
Here’s were I need suggestions. I was thinking bar hoping, a sporting event, but if there is something better let me know. I would golf, but the groom is not a golfer.
6 - 10 Strip club and or bar hoping, possibly more cards. I’m not 100% sure here either, but I know we won’t have much trouble figuring out something here.
10-??? Hotel room, girl on girl show.
Another question is what to do for transportation. Obviously a “U Haul would be sweet,” but is it cheaper/better to take a limo, trolley, bus?? Any suggestions here would be appreciated as well.[/quote]
shooting ranges are awesome. You would have to go to the shotting range first, and then play poker/drink beer, but shooting ranges are awesome if there are any around you
About the only thing that I can add is NO PICTURES!!! No cameras, no video, no cellphone pics, no nothing. It may seem like a good idea at the time, but it’s way too easy for problems to “develop” when some pics start showing up later on. No matter if the groom-to-be is in them or not.
Just my 2 cents.
this is the perfect thread for me because am also incharge of a bachelor party coming up this summer… the only question is how much does a bachelor party with the strippers and the girl/girl show cost? me and my friends are all poor kids just getting out of college so cost does concern me. any suggestions on how much this is gonna be? im just talking about the girls at the party though.
[quote]lfa10 wrote:
this is the perfect thread for me because am also incharge of a bachelor party coming up this summer… the only question is how much does a bachelor party with the strippers and the girl/girl show cost? me and my friends are all poor kids just getting out of college so cost does concern me. any suggestions on how much this is gonna be? im just talking about the girls at the party though.[/quote]
I’ve been researching that and in the Chicagoland area it is between 4-600 dollars for a 2 girl show for about an hour.
Prices will vary by location and day of the week. I’m pretty sure I can get it cheaper because the bachelor party is on a Thursday.