[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She’s about 5’6 135lbs.[/quote]
I hardly see that as an unreasonable weight.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
btw for the ones asking she’s not a whale (just yet). She’s about 5’6 135lbs. I think her ideal weight is 120lbs. [/quote]
So this is considered fat by the kids these days? Jesus.
[quote]nighthawkz wrote:
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
btw for the ones asking she’s not a whale (just yet). She’s about 5’6 135lbs. I think her ideal weight is 120lbs. [/quote]
So this is considered fat by the kids these days? Jesus.
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I know, right? My girlfriend’s about the same size and she’s not fat at all. Maybe the OP could get her to be motivated to lose weight the way mine is. My goal is to be able to do a pull-up with her hanging on to me. Currently, I can get about 2/3 of the way up. She offered to lose 10lbs to make it a little easier on me.
if she is about 15 lbs. over what you believe to be her ideal weight and it sounds like it is an issue
DUMP HER
get new girl friend
a long term relationship has to be about more than weight, or apperance
this is not a video game shit happens
find a girl that the little things do not matter
so when the big shit happens you will endure
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
I know, right? My girlfriend’s about the same size and she’s not fat at all. Maybe the OP could get her to be motivated to lose weight the way mine is. My goal is to be able to do a pull-up with her hanging on to me. Currently, I can get about 2/3 of the way up. She offered to lose 10lbs to make it a little easier on me.[/quote]
I used to date a 5’3, 120lbs girl (so a tad heavier relative to height) and that seemed about perfect to me.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
I spoke to her today. I decided to indirectly talk to her about it. I asked her lets play the truth game. We both have to tell each other our insecurities. Not surprisingly she said her weight is one of her biggest insecurities. I obviously said, " I think you look perfectly fine." She then denied it and I went on to ask her if she’d like a workout plan. She said that would be nice but I doubt she’ll follow thru with it. btw for the ones asking she’s not a whale (just yet). She’s about 5’6 135lbs. I think her ideal weight is 120lbs. [/quote]
Lets play the truth game?? How old are you both? 12? Maybe she is going through puberty hence the weight gain?
135 at 5’6" is a pretty normal weight…
It really depends on how much muscle she is carrying (and to a lesser extent what frame she has). Women who don’t work out much don’t carry much muscle at all. At that point 135 5’6" is carrying extra weight. As the OP said, it’s not land whale territory. And for an older woman, particularly after having some kids, it’s perfectly reasonable. But we’re talking early 20’s (I think), and at that height and weight most women look better if they drop 10-15lbs.
To a certain extent, it also depends on where the girl carries the extra weight. A little junk in the trunk is fine, but if she’s getting flabby around the middle it’s definitely lowering her physical attractiveness.
As everyone said, it’s the OP’s call if this is important enough to him to make a thing of it, but I don’t think he’s a freak for thinking she’ll be hotter minus some weight. (He is a pussy for playing the truth game and then not having the balls to tell the truth).
[quote]nighthawkz wrote:
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
I know, right? My girlfriend’s about the same size and she’s not fat at all. Maybe the OP could get her to be motivated to lose weight the way mine is. My goal is to be able to do a pull-up with her hanging on to me. Currently, I can get about 2/3 of the way up. She offered to lose 10lbs to make it a little easier on me.[/quote]
I used to date a 5’3, 120lbs girl (so a tad heavier relative to height) and that seemed about perfect to me.
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my wife’s 5’1" @ about 130-135 and she looks damn good (more muscular than an average babysoft chick).
A question to the OP is how does she carry the weight? Why does he find a girl who’s 5’6" @ 135 increasingly unattractive? Not sure if he’s addressed this.
BUT, those stats are hardly anything to be worried about. OP kind of dropped the ball when he offered to set her up with a workout plan rather than asking her what she wanted to do about it. Inspire her to do it herself, don’t hold her hand or push her to do it - that breeds resentment. Teach a man to fish theory.
my .02
You guys are misunderstanding me. I never said she was a whale just yet. I said she’s ‘gaining’ not has ‘gained’ weight rapidly. She was much leaner when I met her. If I had piece of mind knowing she’d stay the same size she is now, tbh I’d still be very attracted to her. However I know that’s likely not going to happen, so the scenario keeps being played over and over again in my head. She’ll continue to gain weight until she becomes whale status.
Everyone knows at this age your basal metabolic rate slows down significantly and therefore you can’t always live the same life style if you want to keep the same body. Also I’m not good at predicting height, I would venture to say she’s probably between 5’4-5’6. Oh also for what it’s worth her mom is 60 something and still in great shape. I’ve been told to look at a girls mother in order to predict the chances of her becoming a whale.
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
Also, have you tried hitting her, and make sure to put it in her pooper.[/quote]
FFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKK it took this long for someone to say this.
Jesus this fucking site.
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
You guys are misunderstanding me. I never said she was a whale just yet. I said she’s ‘gaining’ not has ‘gained’ weight rapidly. She was much leaner when I met her. If I had piece of mind knowing she’d stay the same size she is now, tbh I’d still be very attracted to her. However I know that’s likely not going to happen, so the scenario keeps being played over and over again in my head. She’ll continue to gain weight until she becomes whale status.
Everyone knows at this age your basal metabolic rate slows down significantly and therefore you can’t always live the same life style if you want to keep the same body. Also I’m not good at predicting height, I would venture to say she’s probably between 5’4-5’6. Oh also for what it’s worth her mom is 60 something and still in great shape. I’ve been told to look at a girls mother in order to predict the chances of her becoming a whale. [/quote]
We’ve been a bit hard on you but I guess that’s the style of this board. And, of course, it’s not really our job to rate your taste in women - any man whining about his woman gaining weight suffers from first-world problems by definition, so it doesn’t matter just how much she’s gained.
The whole “look at her mum” bit can be right but weight is heavily dependent on lifestyle. If she inherited her mum’s habits along with her genetics, sure, it is some valuable data. But if her mum is a gy bunny and she enjoys family guy marathons, not so much.
Since she sees it as a problem herself, half the battle’s really won. One piece of advice: if she asks for help, send her links to tnation articles (or quote them). Much more credible than you telling her directly - also, you’re a dude trying to get bigger - that’s not her goal.
Are you serious?.. 135 instead of 120? I’m sitting here thinking she added like 50 pounds or some shit.
What makes you so sure that she’ll keep adding weight? She may just be settling into her adult weight. Especially given the comments about her mom.
In my experience and from what I’ve seen, that kind of stuff happens at some point in your mid 20s, give or take. There’s a good chance that you’re worrying over nothing.
Has the whole extra 15 pounds all been added to her belly or something? Are you sure she’s not pregnant? (I don’t remember you ever answering that question, but am too lazy to reread to see if you did)
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
Also, have you tried hitting her, and make sure to put it in her pooper.[/quote]
FFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKK it took this long for someone to say this.
Jesus this fucking site. [/quote]
The question: have we evolved? or just lost our way?
I can remember a time when every thread felt empty without said comments. But then again, it was really mostly a SAMA thing and we all should have moved on from that beautiful place by now… sniff…
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TDub301 wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Broncoandy wrote:
Also, have you tried hitting her, and make sure to put it in her pooper.[/quote]
FFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKK it took this long for someone to say this.
Jesus this fucking site. [/quote]
The question: have we evolved? or just lost our way?
I can remember a time when every thread felt empty without said comments. But then again, it was really mostly a SAMA thing and we all should have moved on from that beautiful place by now… sniff…[/quote]
We’ve lost our way or there would be POGTFO.
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Ah yes, the legal tender of said former forum
You know, I think some pics in this thread are probably more useful than the majority of other threads. Not that we didn’t use to always demand pics, anyway.
Oh, and…
[quote]pushharder wrote:
There is just no possible way to dispense appropriate advice to “patients” on this forum without the “counselors” being armed with the most significant “facts”.
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Fixed. It’s subtle, but I still feel it to be an important clarification.
[quote]scoots2 wrote:
Either embrace it, warmth in the winter and shade in the summer, or tactfully have a conversation about it. If that can’t be discussed then not much future for the relationship. Good luck[/quote]
If you marry a fat tattooed woman, you have shade in the summer, heat in the winter and moving pictures all year long!
[quote]Justliftbrah wrote:
She’s about 5’6 135lbs. I think her ideal weight is 120lbs. [/quote]
I am sorry, but I think you are delusional. At that height and weight, she’s perfect, enough meat to take a pounding, then not bitch about being sore, while she’s cooking you breakfast.
I thought you had a real issue, like, she sits on your face and you can’t hear the radio. Or worse yet, her fupa has rubbed a callous on your forehead from goung down on here.