[quote]RhunDraco wrote:
However, other attractive women have been noticing my physique changes and I’m finding that quite motivating. Nothing as interesting as push’s Rican chica story (yet), but I’ve had some blatant suggestions from some lady friends.[/quote]
Your wife’s attitude might change should she witness this.
I am pleased that I started this thread. I’ve followed along the whole time. I envy most of ya’ll.
But now my wife has noticed my powerlifting for another reason besides being impressed. She is now very worried about me. Some of ya’ll may have read another thread I posted in the over 35 Lifter, “Blown Eye Blood Vessles”?
I’ve told her that it is normal when we all go that heavy for our bodies. Now, when I come home, she’ll ask me how much I lifted today. Not cuz she’s impressed, but cuz she’s worried and ready to blow the time out whistle on my ass. Shit, now she’s nagging at me for the wrong reasons!
But, funny thing is, the girls at the nearby Starbucks think my eyes look evil,…in a Naughty way! According to the two college students. LOL. 
This will be fun flirting back:O
So what have we learned?
The moral to the story is that you will never need to be “built” to find your mate, nor does it really matter in the end. We also know that in general, women prefer a slimmer, less bulky look anyway.
So all the guys working out in order to get chicks or think it makes them look “better” to the opposite sex is actually counterproductive to getting a woman…
Imagine that.
[quote]chasing2400 wrote:
fiveoh01 wrote:
Ironmademe wrote:
Hello Everyone,
New to the forum and relatively new to the iron. However I have made some noticeable gains. Especially my forearms, biceps, and triceps. After losing 30lbs of fat and gaining for the first time in my life a nice firm gluteus maximus(I am 52yr old). All my husband could comment on was to tell me not lose anymore size from my previous 40D breasts. He is not impressed.
Don’t mess with the breasts!!
breasts are overrated. a nice round set of “glutes”, great set of legs… now that’s the real deal! [/quote]
Amen brother!
Just wanted to chime in here to say…some girls like muscle
I dated a brad-pitt skinny ripped type for 5 years, but when it came time for marrying- well, I chose brawn over scrawn!
I met my husband in the gym, and working out together is a great part of our lives. I know he appreciates the work I put in in the gym, as I do his. The only drawback is when he tries to do the “teabag” maneuver when spotting me on the bench. Dammit, that wrecks my concentration every time! Moral of the story? Pick up girls in the gym!
[quote]Rockscar wrote:
So what have we learned?
The moral to the story is that you will never need to be “built” to find your mate, nor does it really matter in the end. We also know that in general, women prefer a slimmer, less bulky look anyway.
So all the guys working out in order to get chicks or think it makes them look “better” to the opposite sex is actually counterproductive to getting a woman…
Imagine that.[/quote]
I’m begining to believe this more, and more. I can’t get any play to save my life. Since I’ve dialed my diet in I look like an extra form the movie ‘300’. My facial features don’t resemble Brad Pitt by any means, but I ain’t no Quasimodo, either. It appears to be all about skills, not looks. I’m wondering if there’s an age component to this. Do younger chick dig hard bodies more than older ones?
DJ
[quote]jenemmar wrote:
Just wanted to chime in here to say…some girls like muscle
Pick up girls in the gym![/quote]
Hilarious that you mention this. We have a thread dedicated exclusively to this subject.
DJ
[quote]Rockscar wrote:
Northcott wrote:
There’s an odd balance to it, I think. On the one hand, when I started lifting I was 6’3" and floating in the 145-150 lb range. I was one of those bastards who was so skinny that I could suck in my gut and count my ribs all the way up my torso. My wife met me when I was 20 lbs heavier than that, which still had me thin as a rake.
Now I float in the 235-240 range. I don’t have a gut, but I’m far from ‘cut’. Abs are just sparse shadows. I’m currently trimming down a bit while trying not to lose gains in strength and size.
But the truth is that, for all this, while my wife periodically comments on the change in size I’ve acheived over the years, I don’t know that I’d call her attitude one of being “impressed”. When it’s beneficial to her, like in needing furniture moved or in my presence making her feel a little safer, she appreciates it. The flipside is that she complains about how much I eat and the way I wear out furniture.
Other women seem to appreciate my build (which, apparently, goes right over my head as I’ve never noticed it), but it’s enough to turn her into a green-eyed little monster now and then.
I wonder if there is a psycological play to this thing. While my wife openly admires bodies on her soaps, she does not go ga ga over the sight of mine, which, I must say at times is MUCH more admirable than some of these ab twits on TV.
I will also say that by far…her comments about my change have been about 1 thing…the size of my ass. She calls it “Black Ass”. It’s too large and sticks out too much for a white boy.
Is it that the wives want to keep us in check? Keep the married t-man modest by not overstating or overdwelling on our accomplishments?
Or does it really not matter to them in the grand scheme?
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She probably just wishes you’d stop pointing all the time, which makes her no different than the rest of us. Why are you always pointing? 
I don’t think my wife gives two shits about my lifting. In fact, she wonders why I can’t fold the laundry between sets instead of just “standing around doing nothing”.
DB
Ok guys I have to admit when my man comes in and says he did a new P.R. that means nothing to me. What he looks like and how the girls come on to him is of greater importance to me.
If I see some hot babe checking him out then I know it’s all worth it!!
For all you skinny guys out there. You don’t impress me. I look at most of you and think to myself there’s a guy who could not lift me and throw me on to a bed and make me feel like a real woman.
Sorry but I feel I would be throwing you on to a bed and that is a absolute turn off.
Hard built guys rock!!! Keep it up boys!!
Mine dont care at all.
[quote]RhunDraco wrote:
I’ve been trying to get her into training, which I think she’d enjoy, but she seems completely uninterested. Even just discussing it with her, and showing her stuff from MWA, her eyes get all glazed over, so I’m just gonna stop talking about it.
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Check out this thread…the OP is some sort of mad genius…
My wife seems only interested in the numbers when I go up in lbs in different sets. She is more so impressed with the results of those increases. I was a rib counting 150 lb. 6’ guy when we met. I am now at 204 lbs. When I’m consistent with my workouts, that alone turns her own per my wife. So much to the point that she has bought me those competition briefs to where at night. What an ego boost!
Ironmademe, my wife is well blessed up top too. I have placed the same request to her to not loose them. I, as most men, love them too much to do without. Plus as she works out and improves her body, she just looks so sexy with those curves! She gets a lot more compliments now also.
[quote]meesuspush wrote:
Ok guys I have to admit when my man comes in and says he did a new P.R. that means nothing to me. What he looks like and how the girls come on to him is of greater importance to me.
If I see some hot babe checking him out then I know it’s all worth it!!
For all you skinny guys out there. You don’t impress me. I look at most of you and think to myself there’s a guy who could not lift me and throw me on to a bed and make me feel like a real woman.
Sorry but I feel I would be throwing you on to a bed and that is a absolute turn off.
Hard built guys rock!!! Keep it up boys!! [/quote]
That is exactly how my wife sees it too. It seems that it turns her on more to see another chick flirting with me. She likes to see me “hit” on girls she picks out to see if “I still have it”. Even so far as to challenge me to pull her phone #!! THAT is a challenge!
Sometimes, if I’m too much of a puss, I cop out by saying “I woundn’t go for her anyway” …then…she’ll do it FOR ME, then all of a sudden I’m being sandwiched on the dance floor. There’s no saying no.
It’s a strenuous, pressurized and demanding job to go out with her!!! I’m 37, and she wants me to hit on these 22-28 YO’s!!!
I’d like to think my better than average body helps her fantasy club crusades!
yes she is. she likes to through out that we still have state powerlifting records.
My wife could give a fuck.
She’s more impressed when I do laundry. I bet she’d care a lot if I let go and got fat. Bet ya money she would.
The wife is not so impressed with the weight, but loves the bedroom results…as well as the stamina for the chores around the house!
[quote]heavyequipment wrote:
The wife is not so impressed with the weight, but loves the bedroom results…as well as the stamina for the chores around the house![/quote]
Agree with this totally and my kids think its cool to load me up with all the groceries from the store at the same time! We have 5 still at home with us so this is no small amount.
The wife is impressed if I REMIND her how much I am lifting, otherwise she just tells me that I am being too loud in garage.
I don�??t know how impressed my wife is with my lifting. 3 months into my return to the gym, (from a 25 year hiatus) my wife did ask me if I was having an affair. I explained to her my business was in an industry that I have no control over the market. I have minimal control over how well my plant runs. I have absolutely no control over her or my daughter. The only thing I could control was my health and I was doing that in the gym.
That seemed to make her understand. I was out of soy milk and went to the store. On the way I called my mistress to cancel our next meeting�?�