Are the Wives Impressed?

Training Over 35 Lifter
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Wife and I had this discussion tonight. Turns out, she thinks I lift too much weight too impress other people. (I work out alone usually or with her so its not true, but thats her way of saying shes worried without having to admit it.)

Also she said tonight, I like the way you look when you looked like a stump (Im 5 9 and before a groin injury was pushing 250, really resembled a fire plug more than a stump). Either way, didn’t know she liked it or missed it until tonight.

Those of you that don’t have support? Dang sorry, guess some of us are luckier than others. Not a reason to quit though.

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[quote]Elaikases wrote:

If I were guessing, I’ll bet she likes what she sees, but …

She was probably happy with what she saw ten pounds ago. You’ve hit the point she is happy about you, now she wants to know just how much further this goes, how much time you are taking away from her, how much more money you are going to spend.

Kind of like implants. I had a neighbor. First set she got, her husband was happy. Second set she got, he kind of leered when he talked about. The third set (even larger) he was going “like ok, enough”, and the fourth set no longer enthused him.

Does that make any sense? Kind of like when a guy has a hobby. An hour a week, might make your wife smile and have her encouraging you. Forty hours a week, she is going to throw tantrums.

Five dollars a week? She may not even notice. Five hundred dollars a week, a surgeon making two million a year can get away with it, but the rest of us are going to be putting a major strain on a relationship.

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True enough. My commitment to lifting isn’t that obsessive, but you are right on all counts. I thank you for the ‘other’ perspective.

5.0

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Not sure about my wife of 28 years :slight_smile:

She saw me in the weight room one day doing bench presses, and only commented are you supposed to strain so hard.

After fininshing I sat up and went “yep” while smiling.

And while watching a strongman competition, there was a stout build short blonde headed guy (dont ask me his name aint got a clue LOL)

I told her thats the physique I want. and all she said was “I aint gonna let you leave the house”

Hopefully that was a sign of being impressed :slight_smile:

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[quote]Mr.Bill wrote:
I told her thats the physique I want. and all she said was “I aint gonna let you leave the house”

Hopefully that was a sign of being impressed :)[/quote]

Either that, or fear of public shame!

…Kidding, man. Kidding. :slight_smile:

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My wife could give a shit about how I look or how much weight I lift. I’m 47, 5’7", 215-220lbs. 33" waist with 6 pak abs, and 20" plus arms. Been training like an animal for 27yrs. All she could say is you’re getting too big. I’m not impressed with muscles. That’s just one of the reasons why we’re separated.
Maybe I’ll find a good woman someday like some of you guys on this thread.

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My girlfriend (of 3+ months) loves my muscles. It turns her on to feel my arms, running her fingers over the veins when they’re sticking out.

When we’re making love she said she likes to look at the reflection of me in a picture on her bedroom wall; she also likes to run her hands over my butt muscles.

I’ve seen her ex-husband - he’s a scrawny biking/running-type; balding too (poor bastard).

My ex-wife never appreciated my work towards fitness. I’ve found a good woman this time - she helps inspire me to workout.

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[quote]Midwest_Man wrote:
I’ve seen her ex-husband - he’s a scrawny biking/running-type; balding too (poor bastard).

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balding is sexy…

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Whilst not 35 y ex-wife was not the least bit interested in training herself nor any training I was doing.

my new girlfriend loves training and is in the gym training constantly. She is interested in what I do and often trains with me. This has made my life sooo much better !!

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Great thread. My soon-to-be ex almost hated seeing me right after I came back from the gym, all pumped, looking great for 56. I think it made her insecure, because she’s been a gorgeous woman who is doing nothing to stay that way, is gaining weight, dealing with aging, and hating me for looking better than when we met! And, can’t get why I am eating so much, thinks it’s weird. Making real physical changes–which working out does–can threaten your partner. That’s ok, when I’m dating again, I’d rather be looking this good, than how most men my age look.

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[quote]Rockscar wrote:
Midwest_Man wrote:
I’ve seen her ex-husband - he’s a scrawny biking/running-type; balding too (poor bastard).

balding is sexy…[/quote]

Word

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[quote]Superman ElCid wrote:
My wife could care less and is not impressed by my lifting or physique…[/quote]

My girlfriend is the same way. She could care less.

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Hello Everyone,

New to the forum and relatively new to the iron. However I have made some noticeable gains. Especially my forearms, biceps, and triceps. After losing 30lbs of fat and gaining for the first time in my life a nice firm gluteus maximus(I am 52yr old). All my husband could comment on was to tell me not lose anymore size from my previous 40D breasts. He is not impressed.

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[quote]Ironmademe wrote:
Hello Everyone,

New to the forum and relatively new to the iron. However I have made some noticeable gains. Especially my forearms, biceps, and triceps. After losing 30lbs of fat and gaining for the first time in my life a nice firm gluteus maximus(I am 52yr old). All my husband could comment on was to tell me not lose anymore size from my previous 40D breasts. He is not impressed.[/quote]

Don’t mess with the breasts!!

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[quote]fiveoh01 wrote:
Ironmademe wrote:
Hello Everyone,

New to the forum and relatively new to the iron. However I have made some noticeable gains. Especially my forearms, biceps, and triceps. After losing 30lbs of fat and gaining for the first time in my life a nice firm gluteus maximus(I am 52yr old). All my husband could comment on was to tell me not lose anymore size from my previous 40D breasts. He is not impressed.

Don’t mess with the breasts!![/quote]

breasts are overrated. a nice round set of “glutes”, great set of legs… now that’s the real deal!

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[quote]pushharder wrote:
My wife and I were at a swinger’s resort in CA recently. Wrote about it on other threads in SMA. Anyway there was a drop dead gorgeous 25 year old Puerto Rican chick who was employed there who chased me down a couple of times.

The second time she caught me. Told me, “I just love the way you’re put together” as she stroked my upper body and ass while we kissed.

Played with her some. Even got her off a couple of times. Didn’t fuck her. She said she was late for a date and would return the next day to finish what we started.

She didn’t.

Received this email from her today, however:

[i]Hey there (Push), it’s susana from ____________.
I’m here with one of the guests and he was talking about the night i was ‘corrupted’ by the guests. He was there that night and saw … some of what happened, and showed me the way to you.
Anyway, just thought i would say hello. i did want to come back the next day, but the vibe i was getting from some of the girls here wasnt ideal for me to come back and play. once one of us plays, then guests will think we all play, and lines will be crossed and blurred… that kind of thing.
sorry.
i wish i had let you fuck me that night, i wouldn’t still be thinking of you if i had.

hope to see you out here again. im sure its cold in montana![/i]

Now the reason I went to the trouble of posting all this, besides the opportunity to brag of course, is to make the point that yes, a lot of the hard work spent in the gym IS WORTH IT! Shit, I’m 47 and I aint ashamed to say that I feel good.[/quote]

BULLSHIT…this was strictly for bragging purposes! Fu@k$r!

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[quote]pushharder wrote:
Rockscar wrote:
pushharder wrote:
My wife and I were at a swinger’s resort in CA recently. Wrote about it on other threads in SMA. Anyway there was a drop dead gorgeous 25 year old Puerto Rican chick who was employed there who chased me down a couple of times.

The second time she caught me. Told me, “I just love the way you’re put together” as she stroked my upper body and ass while we kissed.

Played with her some. Even got her off a couple of times. Didn’t fuck her. She said she was late for a date and would return the next day to finish what we started.

She didn’t.

Received this email from her today, however:

[i]Hey there (Push), it’s susana from ____________.
I’m here with one of the guests and he was talking about the night i was ‘corrupted’ by the guests. He was there that night and saw … some of what happened, and showed me the way to you.
Anyway, just thought i would say hello. i did want to come back the next day, but the vibe i was getting from some of the girls here wasnt ideal for me to come back and play. once one of us plays, then guests will think we all play, and lines will be crossed and blurred… that kind of thing.
sorry.
i wish i had let you fuck me that night, i wouldn’t still be thinking of you if i had.

hope to see you out here again. im sure its cold in montana![/i]

Now the reason I went to the trouble of posting all this, besides the opportunity to brag of course, is to make the point that yes, a lot of the hard work spent in the gym IS WORTH IT! Shit, I’m 47 and I aint ashamed to say that I feel good.

BULLSHIT…this was strictly for bragging purposes! Fu@k$r!

You know me too well! Ha!

Seriously, after all the “Girls Like Metros” and “Brad Pitt in Fight Club is the Physique I Want” bullshit, I had to offer up some authentic anecdotal evidence to the contrary.[/quote]

I dont know about you other guys, but alot (most women) that I meet are intimadated by big men. In most settings, I have to alays keep it in teh front of my mind that I have to go out of my way to make people feel comfortable.

Having said all that, you’ve got the Rock Star life! Damn Playa! lol.

I’ve lucked out. I have a beautiful woman who really get’s me (well most of the time). That’s worth it’s weight in gold.

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Alas, my wife is also rather unimpressed. I’ve been having her help me check my bodyfat every other week and one day she told me she thought it was a waste of time.

I’ve been trying to get her into training, which I think she’d enjoy, but she seems completely uninterested. Even just discussing it with her, and showing her stuff from MWA, her eyes get all glazed over, so I’m just gonna stop talking about it.

However, other attractive women have been noticing my physique changes and I’m finding that quite motivating. Nothing as interesting as push’s Rican chica story (yet), but I’ve had some blatant suggestions from some lady friends.