Hey CT my hubby was diagnosed with coronary artery disease and dr is going to discuss surgery. I couldn’t sleep last night and just frickin lifted so heavy full body because I thought I could kill the anxiety but didn’t. Any recommendations to be strong and keep my shit together so I don’t upset him? I can’t take prescriptions except for benzos but they make me nightmare irritable. My psychologist told me to meditate, but It didn’t work. I’ve tried alteril, melatonin, valerian root and theanine in the past and hasn’t helped me relax. Would it be terrible to be a cardio bunny or lift twice in a day? Any suggestions? Thnx
Sorry to hear that. You can slap a bandaid on it but the anxiety will persist until you deal with the root of the issue.
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I’ve been the one who gets taken care of, and now it’s my turn. He’s always been so strong, I forget he’s human. After sitting here petting my dogs I realize I have to suck it up and be there for him. No whining, negativity…it’s my turn to be strong. I’ve got to put “my big girl undies on” and suck it up. His health is number one, it’s out of my control…serenity…I’ll do what I can for him
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Sorry to hear about your situation, you have a lot on your plate. I live with anxiety so I understand.
I can only relate my personal experiences here. Sometimes if you are having an extreme anxiety attack, and you try to “burn off” the crazy, it just releases more cortisol and makes it worse.
I have found that knocking down inflammation helps more than anything. Take whatever you can to reduce inflammation and up magnesium. I prefer epson salt for this, just soak in a bath, or at least your feet.
You could try passion flower extract. It did not work for me ( just made me angry) but a lot of people swear it helps.
Hope CT will be able to help.
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I’ll give the Epsom salts a try, ty. My old coping skill was exercise basically until I pass out if extreme anxiety but I’ve given up that self-destructive behavior. So all advice is appreciated. 
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For supplementation I’ve used ashwagandha, theanine, and magnesium. Avoid alcohol and other depressants like benzos if possible since you’ll end up feeling worse when their effects fade.
Good luck!
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Thanks for the feedback. I avoid cns suppressants if at all possible
Ty guys and no worries if you see this ct. I know what makes me happy. I went and volunteered at a place I used to frequent more, a shelter for abused horses. Nothing like the smell of hay. I brushed, fed, cleaned stalls with a couple of friends. I got to ride some to at the main house. Nothing like riding on a beautiful day even if it was hotter than heck…
Productive fun day. Now we’re headed to my neighbors pool. Don’t worry I’ll be home to feed hubby. I feel so much better. Thnx guys
Congrats on baby. My hubby will not change diet. I’m calm but any recommendations to not get stressed. I know you’re busy, but I’d like your advice however harsh it could be.
Ty
With 418 views, I would’ve hoped for more advice. But such is life. I’ve been following the approach my dr advised me with amazing results. Eat more, lift in am and pm 5 days a week and other two days, walk for 30 minutes am and pm. You’d think I’d crash and burn but I am more in tune with myself and my body is so ready for anything life throws my way. Take care ct, thought ya would’ve at least dropped a line of blunt advice. But best of luck to you and your family. Just wait, your kid will hit a crossroad whether to swim or climb a tree. Hopefully, you’ll give some advice that can help them overcome an unexpected hurdle even if they have an attitude of a teenager.
Anxiety is a complex issue that is difficult to advise on with minimal information. Several suggestions for supplements were given. I would suggest finding a forum geared toward anxiety if you’re looking for good information and support.
I know all the tools for my toolkit. I just know ct knows neurotyping and best way to train in various situations. No two people are alike. I was hoping for some advice from him due to what would be most beneficial for my type. Drs don’t know everything or else we wouldn’t get second opinions. I trust his judgement that’s all. I can handle life and my anxiety, but he has vast knowledge on this type of thing that perhaps could be more beneficial. When I’m faced with a situation, I look at all angles. He has acquired many key strategies in order to suit a persons needs. I respect his advice in some regards more than my drs…he does this for a living. I want to be the best person I can be and I like to have as much knowledge as I can…you can only get so much through reading articles. No biggie.
Breathing exercises are the best place to start. Try and find some grown up advice on the web showing Yoga type breathing exercises. Then do them a lot until they become natural to you. Has never let me down yet.
Usually it goes like this: well meaning person recommends breathing exercises. Anxious person responds that they have REAL problems to deal with right now in their life that require ACTUAL SOLUTIONS and that they would appreciate if you would go away and bother someone else with silly talk of “breathing exercises”. Anxious person eventually tries them, and almost immediately says: “oh yeah, that really works, who’d have thunk?”…
Hope it works out well for you…
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Ty very much for responding and this critical exercise is wonderful feedback because I’ve already been doing the breathing in and exhaling at a slower rate. Its very difficult for me to slow down enough to do this but has proved to be helpful. This breathing exercise sucks me into a more focused universe. I’ll expand on it, really appreciate it.
The intriguing thing is that I’ve come to realize my body probably genetically has been able to dial up a notch. I’ve been able to lift heavier and pull out all the stops free from health problems and pain. I really wanted an answer that would stop the pain of the unknown, but never got it which is probably a good thing because I’ve had to do what I’ve always done. I just know what needs to be done and do it. Why else would I have been on a guys’ site? I want a different perspective.