Your buying into all of that does yourself and every other woman zero favors.
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I know. My argument was biased too since it’s a special population lol
But yeah, being able to deal with cut throat environemnt is a good skill to have. Just don’t become cut throat yourself lol
I like to look at things at an individual level for just this reason.
It really does depend on the individual. Even if it proves out in the bigger picture, that doesn’t provide much of a solution or path forward for the individual.
What are you going to do 5 years and a couple hundred K deep into an education?
Give up and go home?
I am very bad with the sunk cost fallacy. I’ve literally done projects where I realize that I’m going in the wrong direction halfway through and coerce things to fit the rubric rather than start over JUST because I don’t want to start over.
I refused to drop diff eq even though I had NO idea what the homework was even asking
There’s no way I’m giving up on something I actually enjoy 
I believe this is mostly due to lower societal productivity standards for women; if a girl is dumb but pretty, she’ll still likely find her way into an easy life if she chooses to. If a guy is dumb and pretty, he’s probably not making it anywhere in life (meaning his life will likely be difficult). Women also bring more inherent value to society via procreation though, but I’m going to stop before I get myself in trouble.
As far as changing this: i believe it is entirely based on perspective. I have only anecdotal arguments to support my beliefs, but here goes… if you and I make a bet on flipping a coin, one of us is going to win and the other loses - this situating is mere chance. I like to compare this a bit to genetics/intelligence/wealth (let’s call this the Genetic Luck Spectrum); following a bell curve where Mean=100iq and SD=10iq (hypothetical numbers, kinda) half of people will be the ‘smart/gifted/wealthy’ and half will be ‘dumb/untalented/poor’. There is nothing you can do to change where you landed in this spectrum. The 3rd axis of this curve, in terms of being successful, is effort… this is where competition comes into play IMO.
You can be gifted or smart or wealthy, but if you never fucking apply yourself - you can lose it all. Conversely, you can be poor or dumb or untalented and still Forrest Gump your way through life, if you put your whole ass into everything you do.
I don’t know if you’re smarter than me, more talented, or were born into wealth. What I do know is that if we’re on par in the Genetic Luck Spectrum, and you’re working harder than me - you will theoretically do better in life than me. I don’t say this to mean that I look at everyone (or you) as my opponent, simply that if I had to choose which side of the ‘coin’ I wanted to be on, I would do my best to make sure I’m on the ‘successful’. The ONLY say I have in where i land, is how much effort I put into what I’m doing.
If you’re not competing against anyone/everyone else, I hope you can learn to compete against yourself.
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I’m very competitive with myself. I hate being forced to compete with others. I quit XC in large part bc I hated racing. I was always the first to practice, last to leave and did all the extra workouts.
That’s whats so great about my school. profs actively encourage you to push yourself but do everything in their power to make sure ppl work together. It’s the furthest from cutthroat I could imagine and that suits me; however, I also realize that after graduation, things are going to get a LOT more cutthroat and I don’t feel prepared
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“Don’t half ass two things. Whole ass one thing” - Ron F**king Swanson
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That’s great that they realize the value of collaboration and try to pass it on to the students.
When me & my buddy started cutting trees it was an extremely competitive environment. Dudes with chainsaws and trucks cutting their own throats all over the place by trying to beat everybody on price. So we hooked up with landscapers and others who wanted to cooperate, and built a reputation through out the region with customers and fellow business owners as doing great work. When the yard guy and 3 neighbors tell a homeowner to hire the same guys, guess who get that job? Not the throat cutter.
Anyhoo, too late for a long story short, but the person holding the knife isn’t going to be a fellow student or program candidate. It’s going to be the professors and department heads.
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Indeed it’s amazing and I’m very lucky
Collaboration is also efficient in most cases
Yep!
On a tangent, a good number of my profs blame the whole “publish or perish” paradigm for incentivizing shoddy research and contributing to the replication crisis
It makes sense and things do seem to be changing (pre registering studies, calls for replication…), but also, replications are boring- why not have undergrads interested in researching do them?
At least in my field, undergrads are perfectly capable of running the studies. I mean, even a middle school student could do it.
It’s a win win.
I think quality matters.
Like, running replication of results actually gave birth to the saying “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.
So if you run something with a high fidelity to established practices and produce replicable results or conclusions or what ever, why re-do?
I’m a bit pragmatic in that regard. I run tests using the same or similar parameters for different reasons though. Like if I’m testing a new filler wire or when I recently got a new welding machine, I did some bend/break tests to ensure that the displayed parameters were adequate, and that the as welded results were up to par on strength and durability. But that’s not nearly as sophisticated as an academic process.
I just make a certain but typical type of weld, cut a section, and beat it with a hammer.
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The study results are probabilities. If the probability falls below a rather arbitrary threshold, it’s considered significant and whatever the ppl were testing “exists” or “has an effect “-> paper
The problem is that just bc something is statistically significant doesn’t mean it wasn’t a fluke or that the differences are meaningful. There are also shady ways of reaching significanc for the sake of publication that virtually gaurentee significance but the results are meaningless
Replication makes sure that whatever results are achieved are not flukes and identify in what contexts they hold
Just put yourself in more competitive environments and force yourself to compete.
Many studies have showed this. A lot of research into gender pay gaps have showed men tend to have a higher starting salary just due to them negotiating and not accepting the 1st offer where as women were more likely to accept the first offer.
Due to how uncommon physical repercussions are. Women are less likely to get punched by other women for starting shit then men are starting shit with other men are. It’s also why there is a huge amount of women who get physical with men and then act surprised when the man hits back.
I agree and to be honest quite surprised you are not comfortable being cutthroat considering you openly state you base friendship on utility.
I think you need to force yourself to be ABLE TO BE cutthroat and do what is best to get ahead regardless of the cost to others in case you need to. Perhaps morally it does not sit well with you? But the way I think you should look at it is the same way I look at the quote “A man who is incapable of violence is not peaceful he is merely helpless, Only a man who is capable of great violence can be peaceful”. You shouldn’t aim to be cutthroat, immoral, manipulative etc but you should work on having the tools needed incase you find yourself in a situation where you need to be like that to survive
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That’s interesting, and good point!
I don’t like the pressure, having constantly to watch out and dealing with drama instead of focusing on my work. It’s an inefficient use of my mental energy
- that is only for males. It prevents unnecessary attachemnts/potential heartbreak to frame things that way. My female friends are real friends. Most of them are academically or emotionally useful by coincidnece. I’d still be friends with them even if they were just “fun”
- Utility goes both ways. If I don’t feel useful to the other person, I’m not comfortable
LOL no 
Add in a few quantitative metrics, controls, and documentation (like force applied, materials used, and recording test results) and you’ve got a decent startup for a study! The statistics side that @anna_5588 is mentioning with probabilities is the portion where you’d have to do everything you just did - but 100 times and see what variances you find.
When you’re trying to read through studies and their sample size is some bullshit like 3 
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or even worse (and VERY common), “significant” models with r^2 values of <.3…
THis shit is why I’m gravitating more towards theory
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You deal with this stuff FAR more than I do. Did you ever come across any studies that said their results aren’t statistically significant, but are still significant in practicality? I think i ran across a couple studies where this was my opinion on the matter (not like my opinion really matters much)
I’m not aware of any such papers, but I’m very sure they exist.
The thing about Behavioural science papers is that it’s pretty much impossible tk publish one without a significant result.
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I’ve done this! In school I did this with coupons of a specific type of hardened steel alloy. One batch had been pre-heated and another batch had not been. With force applied through a standardized bending jig, yadda yadda yadda. Turned out that pre-heat was critically important, and 100% of the pieces that weren’t preheated broke due to lack of fusion, whereas 100% of the pieces that were bent fully but remained intact.
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Steel alloys and heat treatments are amazingly interesting to me. I don’t know anywhere enough about them, but I always found it fascinating!
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Is there? What counts as behavioral sciences?