I actually don’t like chili or beef in general for that matter.
If I could, I’d eat 1-2 rotisserie chickens a day
Love crispy skin
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Gaining fat is FAR far different from “getting fat”
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Very hard to get fat by accident.
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I genuinely wonder if imprecise language has once again led to significant confusion, similar to the use of “Powerlifting” and this entrie time what was meant by “getting fat” was “gain any bodyfat”
Would absolutely explain then disconnect.
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Or that any fat gain is mentally equivalent to getting fat for her specifically
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The phrase “I don’t want to gain any weight” has been repeatedly used, and overlooked/misinterpreted/ignored. I don’t believe there is much of a disconnect. I believe @anna_5588 is reasonably clear on what she wants in terms of physical goals, however it seems to be something that none of the parade of well meaning “coaches” that come and go in this log know how to provide.
I include myself in that 100% by the way. I occasionally slip up, but in general I’ve had to acknowledge that I don’t have the skill set to affect any change in this log, so I try to avoid offering advice.
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I understand and appreciate the sentiment. However, I don’t understand why you guys are so against me not wanting to gain weight?
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I sincerely apologize for the majority of the advice I have offered up until this point: it was offered entirely under the wrong context
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Do you want me to answer this question sincerely?
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Yes.
If that means that I offended you I’m sorry.
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Put simply, because I believe you’re damaging your health and productivity which in turn has detrimental effects on your mental health. I don’t believe there is any part of your life that wouldn’t improve with adequate nutrition.
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No you have not offended me.
I’m just a bit annoyed with your tone when you talk about me. It comes across as very pessimistic and resigned, like someone talking about trouble child. It feels quite patronizing, especially when some of the conversations here are conducted as if I’m not part of the conversation
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In my line of work frustrated therapists are often told “you’re working harder than they are.”
Giving advice to someone whose goals are not aligned with yours (for them) is a losing game.
We are also taught that behavior is purposeful, so if behavior seems contrary to the stated goal, you should look for a secondary gain. Something less apparent that offers greater reward than the stated gain.
“Fix my child” may be the stated goal, so frustration ensues when a parent follows through on none of the advice you offer so earnestly. When you look for a secondary goal, it may be that the parent gains greater perceived reward from being victimized by the situation, or simply likes having the therapist’s attention.
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My apologies, I understand how it can come across as that and that is not my intent.
I am sincerely apologetic, and you might not care for how this has come to be. I believe it is my frustration that is showing, as I too, believe you are damaging your health and productivity. Sometimes I get the sense you care more about your productivity than health, but appeals to either doesn’t seem to register.
Maybe I’m expressing care in a bad way.
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I get that, which is why I’m not offended.
I’m particularly sensitive to this kind of treatment because it’s how school counselors and therapists have treated me since elementary school
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Lol, you’d be surprised how stupidly you may be thinking “oh this definitely fits my macros” for like 3 weeks straight and you’ve gained 10 lbs because you didn’t weigh yourself every and also didnt look at yourself shirtless that often.
Source: true story, gained 10 lbs in like 3 weeks thinking Pizza Hut was “only” 2200 calories (in reality the thing I ordered was probably 5000+)
That’s like countering “It is very hard to set yourself accidentally on fire” by countering with “Lol, you’d be surprised” and telling a story of how you were smoking while being inside a chem lab.
And 10 lbs doesn’t really take a person from lean to fat.
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