I fear that you have a horrible misunderstanding of male computer geeks if you think they’re asexual.
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Well… that would require staying up past bedtime… 
I’m glad she was okay
@hustlinghat93 @magick @rroo @dagill2
Noted. I don’t plan on doing anything that would compromise myself and will be careful.
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@dt79
Had a horrid and strange night last night. I fell asleep quickly enough, but sometime in the night, my knees really started hurting… sometime later, I had to use the restroom so I went to get up and both my hamstrings cramped hard but I was still half asleep. I tried o let out a string of expletives and thought I did, but apparently I didn’t actually make any sound??
When I actually got to the bathroom, I swear I heard the TV on but it wasn’t…
Eventually feel asleep again and surprisingly don’t feel too crap
My son shared a house with 4 girls and 3 guys while he was an undergrad in San Diego.
He was a math major, and the rest were engineering/computer science majors. There were no sexual related issues, they were all so busy with school,homework,video games, and they didn’t party hardly at all.
His biggest issue is that they never did the dishes, and didn’t allow him to wear shoes in the house, lol
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Damn! I have so much respect for those
Yeah… that’s the trend, especially at my school. A lot of them also TA a couple of courses and some have internships year round
@SkyzykS don’t worry. No drano involved
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Being a former fraternity president, I have monitored/bounced numerous house parties. Nobody every had anything slipped in their drink under my watch, but I did have to kick out a number of people (only a hand full had to be physically removed) for making the ladies there feel uncomfortable.
If you know these guys pretty well or trust at least one of them to watch out for you, you should be okay.
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I know you are pretty strong and athletic for your size, but get this out of your head. It doesn’t work like that. I am only saying this so that you don’t get some false sense of security, not a commentary regarding your weight lifting prowess.
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It was meant as a joke and I wasn’t the one who made it
If something were to actually happen, I’m 90%sure I wouldn’t actually try and resist
Good, that makes me feel a little better. EDIT: I MEAN YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY RESIST.
Also, another unifying trait of male computer nerds is sociopathy. They do not know how to relate to other humans. That is not a harmless trait.
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Hmm… I’m working with a small sample size but quite a few of them have openly talked about being on the spectrum or having “problems understanding people”
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Why do you think they put their energy where they put it? It has nothing to do with asexuality. Not to put too fine a point on it, but these guys are every bit as sexually charged as anyone else you come across, and often more so. You probably don’t want to know what much of their time online is spent on.
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Someone call PETA because alot of chickens are being choked!
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They pretty much invented the internet for that purpose.
I mean, yeah, technological enlightenment, communication, yaddayaddayadda.
Pornhub.
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I went to a school whose demographic probably matches the stereotype Anna describes, maybe even more so to be honest. I don’t like stereotypes, but generally, there were more than a few guys there who truly are/were so absurdly invested in academic pursuits and geeking out on them with their buddies that doing something would never even cross their minds. That’s not to say that they are asexual and or don’t seek out certain types of content, and surely there are exceptions among these “nerds.” It’s also not difficult at these places to find young men who fit the more typical college male demographic; I simply doubt Anna pursues their company.
It doesn’t seem like Anna knows any of these people, regardless of their sex or gender identity. I agree that observing someone in a public space and knowing them intimately are two very different things. Anna’s mother is concerned about her daughter’s well-being in many respects, even besides this issue, and not in crazy ways. Definitely warranted.
The unfortunate reality is “nOt aLl MEn!!!1111” but, unfortunately, a lot of them. And even if that number skews lower than normal at her institution, that is no reason to not be on the defensive. It’s just the reality for women in all situations, really. I’d say it’s a very low-stakes way for Anna to practice that skill because she is not going to be at her university forever. The real world is different. I’m sure Anna knows that, and given her personality, she’d probably be fine. Whether she can convince her mom or not is something else.
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Boys, not men. I think a lot of the guys who are all saying the same thing here are doing so for a reason, which is that while we may be wonderful, well adjusted people now, we weren’t always like that. We remember what we were like as teenage boys, what our thought processes were, what the pressuees acting on us were like etc. and in most cases, that was without the influence of massive amounts of internet porn. I’m sure there are exceptions to the rule but you don’t get rid of all the fences at a zoo just because some of the animals might not be dangerous.
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I don’t think anything I said disagrees with that.
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I know everyone is different and we’re not always able to control how we react in such a situation, but everything I’ve ever read has been in the direction of ‘if you’re able, resist with every fiber of your being.’ Leave marks so you can eliminate the he said/she said aspect that gets so many sexual predators off the hook.
I don’t want to scare you above and beyond reasonable and rational caution, but consider this: Of the women I know who I got close enough to in 56 years, to talk about such things, 75% of them had been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. To put it another way for the guys out there: If you think you don’t know any women who have been sexually assaulted, you actually don’t know any women who trusted you enough to share with you that they’ve been sexually assaulted.
As a father to daughters and grandfather to granddaughters, this is the thing that keeps me up at night. It made me sick before I had kids, but that feeling ramped up to 11 after my first daughter was born.
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Seeing you guy’s experiences or those of a lot of my female friends makes me realize how lucky I was with the social environment I grew up in.
That stuff is really scary. One night I was out with my flatmate at the time in a club in Munich and we noticed a girl who was basically unconscious but standing upright. Like lost most cognitive function was lost and she was in a delirious state, like a Zombie. We tried to talk to her to figure out if she was in distress, knew where she was etc. but she couldn’t really speak.
So eventually we decided to take action. My roommate just offered her his hand like you would do to a child and without questioning his intentions, she took it an followed him. I made way for us and we brought her to the police (who was outside for different reasons). The bouncers ran in and tried to find the dirtbag who spiked her drink but no dice.
The incident is so ingrained in my mind because while I’ve seen people on all kind of drugs, I have never seen someone so powerless and I’m really really happy it was my flatmate’s hand she took that night.
this is absolutely horrifying.
As is this:
The best I can do is to stay out of compromising situations. Not staying up after 10pm and not drinking should help there
It makes me very very mad that this is still the case today. That you have to play an active part as a woman in not becoming a victim.
As ist is NEVER under absolutely no circumstances the victim’s fault, it should really not be her burden to be on the look out and scared at all times.
Unfortunately that is not the world we live in.
I personally think a lot of those issues start with toxic masculinity and even the little things like “locker room talk” do matter. But that’s a whole new barrel I’d be opening, so I’ll stop here with my little rant.
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