It always kind of chills me when people shut down. Practically speaking, I’ve seen this a lot in recovery. Some people are really critical of a person who shows up to a meeting drunk or high, like “you have to be [-this-] sober to come through These doors.”. But they showed up. Sometimes for years. And eventually they get it. My one buddy did this for like 7 or 8 years, but now he’s one of the most helpful and understanding people I’ve ever met.
Forgive the lack of terminology, but- Relief from the bondage of self is one of, if not the hardest thing a person can ever hope to achieve. It requires an almost terminal level of determination, violence of action, and perseverance.