[quote]chinadoll wrote:
…anyone else notice the girls’ posts are kinda ignored by the guys…the guys instead arguing with other GUYS about how women feel and think, rather than asking the GIRLS how women feel and think? Think about it. :)[/quote]
Sorry? Someone say something? j/k
In my experience, many women say one thing and say something else with their body-language (which you are expected to pick up on but don’t). As such I don’t trust women to comment 100% truly/accurately on what they feel or think.
I saw an interesting documentary once that examined the differences in the way men and women think. Although there were exceptions in both genders, women tended to show high levels of activity in the emotional centres of their brains when solving various tasks, whereas men used more the logical parts - some of the men used EXCLUSIVELY the logical parts.
What’s the result? Well, women would generally be far better at judging emotions and picking up subtle body-language signals - whereas men would go largely based on the logics of what had been said.
They found one couple who constantly argued about everything and showed that she was one extreme (emotional) & he was the other (logical). When she would say one thing but mean another, she thought she was communicating very clearly (as that is how her brain is wired up) but being ignored.
He was picking up solely what was said to him and none of the body-language stuff, and making decisions based on that. He thought she was overly-emotional, she thought he was cold. Apparently their relationship improved alot after they were told what was going on.
The same thing occurs within gender groups too - guys who use alot of the emotional parts of their brains (often artists, writers, drunks, etc.) will find the guys at the other extreme (often accountants, engineers, etc.) to be emotionless & overly logical. The sweet-point is somewhere in between (successful but popular, good business mind etc.).
I thought it was an interesting programme anyway, sorry for the total tangent.
TO THE OP, you’re not an asshole, but watch out - women can play wierd manipulative mind games. Maybe this client really needed YOUR help, maybe she didn’t.
Women can squirm their way in without you even knowing what’s going on & just wait for that one moment of weakness. Your wife will be much more aware of this than you are which is why she’s getting upset about it. It’s like when a guy starts going to work trying to nab your wife/girlfriend - it can be obvious to you but not to her. Same thing but in reverse.