[quote]fncj wrote:
The guy was a pussy anyway. He made plans and instead of following through or returning a call in the middle of the day to cancel/reschedule at a reasonable hour, he lets her know the evening of - at 8:30p when it is too late to go play mini golf - that he is doing something else. Through text message, no less.
Bitch. Move.[/quote]
Definitely.
(and the fact that dude smashed already is likely not insignificant)
edit: smashed = hookedup
[quote]debraD wrote:
I am not a hardass but I would not give a second chance to this. In my experience, this is the kind of behavior that repeats itself. Also, if a guy is as into me as I am into him, it just wouldn’t happen unless he is the self-sabotaging type which is not something I’d want to be a part of.
Completely unacceptable IMO.[/quote]
I second this.
This IS the kind of behavior that repeats itself. The only shitty thing about this is that you have to accept the fact that he is probably not as into you as you are into him.
There will be the one, that no matter how much his friends make fun of him or what ever other reason, he will not miss that date with you.
Also, I’m from Alberta and my name is Jen 
i vote more bacon
[quote]Spock81 wrote:a single.
-I met a boy a little while ago and we banged[/quote]
Problem solved. Two pages really!?
[quote]jchenky wrote:
[quote]debraD wrote:
I am not a hardass but I would not give a second chance to this. In my experience, this is the kind of behavior that repeats itself. Also, if a guy is as into me as I am into him, it just wouldn’t happen unless he is the self-sabotaging type which is not something I’d want to be a part of.
Completely unacceptable IMO.[/quote]
I second this.
This IS the kind of behavior that repeats itself. The only shitty thing about this is that you have to accept the fact that he is probably not as into you as you are into him.
There will be the one, that no matter how much his friends make fun of him or what ever other reason, he will not miss that date with you.
Also, I’m from Alberta and my name is Jen
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I have much more respect for Canadians who actually live north of me as opposed to all those fakers in Ontario and Quebec who live south of me.
[quote]Johnny T Frisk wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:a single.
-I met a boy a little while ago and we banged[/quote]
Problem solved. Two pages really!?
[/quote]
All the attention this thread is getting you’d think that this site is full of white knighting teenagers.
This is what this thread should be about!
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
sounds like he is inconsiderate, and you are very needy.
No good can come of this. I would move on if I were you.[/quote]
Why do you say very needy? I’m not seeing that. I’m seeing uncertainty and insecurity, but “needy” suggests other things.[/quote]
you’re right, I should’ve said “insecure.” My apologies.
I still think the combo of inconsiderate and insecure is a bad idea though
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Jenn is remarkably open and forthcoming about herself, that shows great security. How open and forthcoming do you think you would be if you hadn’t had a date by 26? I think most people would be bitter and angry and too prideful to talk about these things like Jenn does.[/quote]
I’m not making sweeping judgments of her overall character, but I do think when it comes to sex and romance Jenn is tremendously insecure. Who wouldn’t be insecure in her shoes? Do you see her as having this stuff nicely in hand?
If we’re going to discuss semantics, I think you’re talking about character qualities I might label “courage” or “self-respect,” both of which I agree she exhibits.
I have a great deal of self-esteem (which is to say that I like and respect myself) but if I said I was not insecure when it comes to relationships I would be lying.
Hey everyone!!!
Thanks for all the advice and insight, lotta really good food for thought.
And like I said, he asked me the past saturday to hang out, then again on wednesday, and then on thursday we decided what we were going to do (mini golf on saturday afternoon).
No, there was no official @2:00pm, but the way it was discussed led me to believe that it wasn’t something that was still up in the air. Why bring it up so many times without even mentioning like “we’ll see”. ANY other friend and I would assume that those plans were going through, and if something were to change, they would let me know the day before or the morning of at least.
I don’t know if it’s different for this type of dude/chick situation though?
Anyway, I dunno.
I truly believe that he is a kind person. He texted me good nights all week and asked me how my day was going and shit. (I’m very easy to please, ha-ha)
APPARENTLY, we’re hanging out later today. I guess if it falls through I’ll have a fairly good idea that this isn’t going to work out. I felt pretty miserable thinking that I’d never see him again…
ANd yes my heart is making this decision not my head, blah blah blah.
[quote]jchenky wrote:
Also, I’m from Alberta and my name is Jen
[/quote]
WHEEEE!!! Are you from edmonton?! THAT WOULD BE SO COOL!
Stop banging dudes before you’ve been on a date and stop dating duded who sleep with toys.
hey Jenn,
I think you are on the right track - although it has been brought up that ‘if he was into you he wouldnt have forgot the date’ - I dont agree, I’ve been out with buddies drinking and lost track of time. and I am a super swell guy, just ask anyone.
and, if he was out with his freinds, and said to them “hey I got to get going, and meet this awesome chick later tonite”, he undoubtly got an endless amount of shit from his freinds, and peer pressure made him stick around - yes, this happens to me too, and again, I am a super swell guy.
I think that some people are able to sense if a person is kind or not, and I think that you have that gift. you just need to quit listening to all those voices in your head that are telling you that you are not lovable/sexy/hot/awesome/wonderful and tell them all to fuck off - cause there are hundreds on this site that think you are something special.
btw - I sleep with Thors hammer also. and I am a super swell guy, as I have stated in the preceding comments.
If you give him another chance, don’t give him Saturday nights.
[quote]HeavyTriple wrote:
Stop banging dudes before you’ve been on a date and stop dating duded who sleep with toys.[/quote]
^This x 100
[quote]Edgy wrote:
hey Jenn,
I think you are on the right track - although it has been brought up that ‘if he was into you he wouldnt have forgot the date’ - I dont agree, I’ve been out with buddies drinking and lost track of time. and I am a super swell guy, just ask anyone.
and, if he was out with his freinds, and said to them “hey I got to get going, and meet this awesome chick later tonite”, he undoubtly got an endless amount of shit from his freinds, and peer pressure made him stick around - yes, this happens to me too, and again, I am a super swell guy.
I think that some people are able to sense if a person is kind or not, and I think that you have that gift. you just need to quit listening to all those voices in your head that are telling you that you are not lovable/sexy/hot/awesome/wonderful and tell them all to fuck off - cause there are hundreds on this site that think you are something special.
btw - I sleep with Thors hammer also. and I am a super swell guy, as I have stated in the preceding comments.[/quote]
Damn, dude, you make me laugh.
I’m surprised Orion didn’t chime in to say it sounds like she’s getting played. I know the ‘beta apologies’(and they really kind of sound that way) are usually a quick way to NOT get laid, but in this case if he had already pegged her as insecure he might’ve just thought he could get away with going out and fucking someone else knowing that some ‘I’m so sorry’ and ‘I promise I’ll make it up to you’ would go a long way with her.
It’s not exactly textbook but look at her reaction, it clearly worked. The only reason she’s even on the fence about it is because outside eyes can see through to the fact that he’s a dickhead(or that she legit forgot some detail or is leaving something out).
[quote]red04 wrote:
I’m surprised Orion didn’t chime in to say it sounds like she’s getting played. I know the ‘beta apologies’(and they really kind of sound that way) are usually a quick way to NOT get laid, but in this case if he had already pegged her as insecure he might’ve just thought he could get away with going out and fucking someone else knowing that some ‘I’m so sorry’ and ‘I promise I’ll make it up to you’ would go a long way with her.
It’s not exactly textbook but look at her reaction, it clearly worked. The only reason she’s even on the fence about it is because outside eyes can see through to the fact that he’s a dickhead(or that she legit forgot some detail or is leaving something out).[/quote]
I dont know, he might be, but that would be so bad and inconsistent with the apologies and all…
Either he is a dick or really a little aspie.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Hey everyone!!!
Thanks for all the advice and insight, lotta really good food for thought.
And like I said, he asked me the past saturday to hang out, then again on wednesday, and then on thursday we decided what we were going to do (mini golf on saturday afternoon).
No, there was no official @2:00pm, but the way it was discussed led me to believe that it wasn’t something that was still up in the air. Why bring it up so many times without even mentioning like “we’ll see”. ANY other friend and I would assume that those plans were going through, and if something were to change, they would let me know the day before or the morning of at least.
I don’t know if it’s different for this type of dude/chick situation though?
Anyway, I dunno.
I truly believe that he is a kind person. He texted me good nights all week and asked me how my day was going and shit. (I’m very easy to please, ha-ha)
APPARENTLY, we’re hanging out later today. I guess if it falls through I’ll have a fairly good idea that this isn’t going to work out. I felt pretty miserable thinking that I’d never see him again…
ANd yes my heart is making this decision not my head, blah blah blah.
:D[/quote]
No, no game involved on his part.
You actually outgame him, I have no idea what to think of that.
That could actually be two shy nerdtastic people falling in love.
…?
Fuck me…
Well, it will probably all end in tears anyway, sooo…
But if it does not, could he mount his hammer and a few shields on the walls of your bedroom?