[quote]theBeth wrote:
[quote]stefan128 wrote:
These threads scare me because I never want this to happen to me after I am married…[/quote]
Marriage? F that.[/quote]
Yep! ^
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
For the most part this thread is a bunch of self serving moral bull shit… Like you guys dont stray from the path and eat at another buffet every now and then. Or for that matter have cheated… Men cheat and so do women get the fuck over it… As long as you love each other a little strange now and then may be a good thing…For a site thats supossed to be a bunch of Testosterone fueled dudes their sure is a bunch of soft ass bitches on here. [/quote]
I think maybe you need to accept that you’re just shittier than everyone else. It seems pretty clear from your posts in the last several threads I’ve seen lol. You suck.
[quote]flipcollar wrote:
You know what would have been a loving gesture? Handing over the damn phone to her husband and proving right then and there he had nothing to worry about.
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I am usually 100% in agreement with you Flip, but not in this case. I see this whole situation as one big trust issue. Let’s look at this from another perspective. I text my boss after hours about work, for example. My wife finds out and demands I prove it’s about work. Don’t I have the right to be pissed that she doesn’t trust me?
I’m not saying OP is in the wrong and I’m not saying OPs woman is Mrs. Clean, but as usual we are only getting one side of the story. Has OPs wife given other signs (I’m not sure how I feel about the shift change)? Has she cheated in the past? Is the OP a trusting person?
I don’t know about this either, I think it depends on the subject matter. What if she is texting a co-worker about taking one of her shifts? Again, if they trust each other this shouldn’t be an issue.
Maybe the thought never crossed her mind? Maybe her way of proving she’s faithful is completely changing her lifestyle for the OP?
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Love isn’t proven by apologies, it’s proven by not committing acts that require apologies.[/quote]
If love were based on not committing acts that require apologies many of us would be in BIG trouble…and often love is proven by apologies. It is very difficult to swallow your pride and apologize, but many of us do it for love.
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
For the most part this thread is a bunch of self serving moral bull shit… Like you guys dont stray from the path and eat at another buffet every now and then. Or for that matter have cheated… Men cheat and so do women get the fuck over it… As long as you love each other a little strange now and then may be a good thing…For a site thats supossed to be a bunch of Testosterone fueled dudes their sure is a bunch of soft ass bitches on here. [/quote]
So breaking your vows = soft now?
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
For the most part this thread is a bunch of self serving moral bull shit… Like you guys dont stray from the path and eat at another buffet every now and then. Or for that matter have cheated… Men cheat and so do women get the fuck over it… As long as you love each other a little strange now and then may be a good thing…For a site thats supossed to be a bunch of Testosterone fueled dudes their sure is a bunch of soft ass bitches on here. [/quote]
Equating promiscuity and masculinity tells me a lot about you.
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
For the most part this thread is a bunch of self serving moral bull shit… Like you guys dont stray from the path and eat at another buffet every now and then. Or for that matter have cheated… Men cheat and so do women get the fuck over it… As long as you love each other a little strange now and then may be a good thing…For a site thats supossed to be a bunch of Testosterone fueled dudes their sure is a bunch of soft ass bitches on here. [/quote]
So breaking your vows = soft now?[/quote]
The idea that infidelity = manliness is idiotic.
Your word is bond. Men keep their word and elevate themselves to a position were “strange” pussy isn’t worth integrity and the thoughts and feelings of those you choose to be close to.
Being a man has nothing to do with slaying pussy. An awesome side benefit sure, but not a defining action.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
For the most part this thread is a bunch of self serving moral bull shit… Like you guys dont stray from the path and eat at another buffet every now and then. Or for that matter have cheated… Men cheat and so do women get the fuck over it… As long as you love each other a little strange now and then may be a good thing…For a site thats supossed to be a bunch of Testosterone fueled dudes their sure is a bunch of soft ass bitches on here. [/quote]
So breaking your vows = soft now?[/quote]
The idea that infidelity = manliness is idiotic.
Your word is bond. Men keep their word and elevate themselves to a position were “strange” pussy isn’t worth integrity and the thoughts and feelings of those you choose to be close to.
Being a man has nothing to do with slaying pussy. An awesome side benefit sure, but not a defining action. [/quote]
Better said than my post.
All I got from this thread is that I need to find a nurses bar ASAP
[quote]RampantBadger wrote:
All I got from this thread is that I need to find a nurses bar ASAP[/quote]
Good. At least someone is getting something out of the thread. lol.
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]flipcollar wrote:
You know what would have been a loving gesture? Handing over the damn phone to her husband and proving right then and there he had nothing to worry about.
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I am usually 100% in agreement with you Flip, but not in this case. I see this whole situation as one big trust issue. Let’s look at this from another perspective. I text my boss after hours about work, for example. My wife finds out and demands I prove it’s about work. Don’t I have the right to be pissed that she doesn’t trust me?
I’m not saying OP is in the wrong and I’m not saying OPs woman is Mrs. Clean, but as usual we are only getting one side of the story. Has OPs wife given other signs (I’m not sure how I feel about the shift change)? Has she cheated in the past? Is the OP a trusting person?
I don’t know about this either, I think it depends on the subject matter. What if she is texting a co-worker about taking one of her shifts? Again, if they trust each other this shouldn’t be an issue.
Maybe the thought never crossed her mind? Maybe her way of proving she’s faithful is completely changing her lifestyle for the OP?
Oh man. Broken down quotes are so much work, lol. But I can address each point.
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A big part of the problem here is that the OP has told us that A) the texting was frequent, B) it was often not work-related, and C) the OP was unaware of the interaction for a significant period of time. If I discovered my wife was texting someone involved with her work, boss or co-worker, and I knew it wasn’t work-related, this would be a problem. If there were women at my work, it would go both ways (all employees at my shop are male). Let’s say I had a female secretary, my wife didn’t really know her, I was texting her frequently about personal stuff, and my wife found out. Obviously most would consider this a problem, regardless of history. Why should the same standards not be held to a nurse and her boss?
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This wasn’t what happened. OP said the wife admitted this was not the case. I don’t deal in ‘what ifs’.
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Maybe. Unlikely though. It’s been over a week. She’s had time to think about a lot of things. I’m confident this solution crossed her mind.
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I wasn’t clear here, and you’re right. If I forget to mow the yard, fix the sink, clean the dishes, forget her birthday, get mad without good cause/ get in an unreasonable fight with the wife, etc. then apologies are in order. Infidelity is an issue that doesn’t get solved by apologies in my book. I know not everyone agrees with this. I didn’t vow to be perfect, but I did vow to be faithful in mind and body.
A lot of what I’m talking about here comes from good research available on why marriages fail, why individuals stray from their spouses, etc. What the wife did here is almost universally considered a major problem in most marriage psyc books I’ve read. It tends to indicate a strong potential for infidelity. How the OP deals with this is up to him, and it sounds like, based on some things he’s said, that if there was even interest between his wife and boss, that he would prefer that the relationship end.
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
Or it could be you are WAY over reacting… If marrige means no texting or talking to people of the opposite sex then poof you will always be having drama. I never let my wife mess with my phone FB or other comunication devices & in return I dont play FBI with her shit. I have a buddy hows wife is always doing that shit to him F that, I’d leave her where she stands. Unless you catch her with some dick pics maybe you should chill before you scare a nice woman away by being a controlling douche… If you lay the pipe and pay the bills you shouldnt have shit to worry about any how[/quote]
…leave it to a liberal
surprised no one addressed this joke of a post yikes!
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
[quote]thehebrewhero wrote:
Or it could be you are WAY over reacting… If marrige means no texting or talking to people of the opposite sex then poof you will always be having drama. I never let my wife mess with my phone FB or other comunication devices & in return I dont play FBI with her shit. I have a buddy hows wife is always doing that shit to him F that, I’d leave her where she stands. Unless you catch her with some dick pics maybe you should chill before you scare a nice woman away by being a controlling douche… If you lay the pipe and pay the bills you shouldnt have shit to worry about any how[/quote]
…leave it to a liberal
surprised no one addressed this joke of a post yikes![/quote]
Does it really need addressing. Judging by some of his other posts im almost certain HH is either 13 and/or a troll.