[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Your ex is content and happy being a home wrecking whore. She is not getting cheated on, her bf’s wife is, and she knows. That’s why she told you to butt out. She doesn’t want you to keep nosing around and screw up her meal ticket that she is spreading her legs for right now. So just butt out and consider that one a bullet dodged. [/quote]
I disagree. I know her very well and I just don’t believe she actually knows what’s going on.
[quote]MaximusB wrote:
[quote]TheKraken wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Your ex is content and happy being a home wrecking whore. She is not getting cheated on, her bf’s wife is, and she knows. That’s why she told you to butt out. She doesn’t want you to keep nosing around and screw up her meal ticket that she is spreading her legs for right now. So just butt out and consider that one a bullet dodged. [/quote]
This^
One of the few smart decisions I’ve made around relationships was to make a clean solid break. Over is over, so over on. She is technically an adult and can take care of herself. If she can’t, that’s all the more reason to move on. I know this is harder because everyone is on display through social media so you’ll inevitably be reminded and tempted to look and act, but don’t. Man up and move on.
Two side benefits form this. First, you have a chance of keeping some dignity. Second, breaking off contact drives attention whores crazy. You’ll be the one that got away, the good one, the classy one, etc., that has gotten me laid more than once. Women have no respect for begging, even in the guise of “White Knights.” [/quote]
THIS.
I have had both experiences of pining after a girl who dumped me, and not chasing after one who dumped me.
If you simply vanish, her wonder and curiosity will drive her nutty. I would much rather give her that, than my deflated self-respect by chasing her around.
Stop total contact, she will probably come back around when this shit with the new guy fizzles out. [/quote]
Yeah, I doubt she’ll come back around.
[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Your ex is content and happy being a home wrecking whore. [/quote]
Seriously, who would want to be associated with her?
Pretty clear to me that the real issue is the OP is not over the ex and sees this complication as an opportunity to try to white knight it back into her vagina.
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No, that is not the case. I am not trying to white knight anything.
I might not be over her, but even I know there’s a lot better ways of earning her back. Telling her that he bf is cheating and being there with open arms is a fucking wacked way of rebuilding a relationship.
I just want this to be clear to everyone…IF, IF I’m going to get my ex back it’s going to be because I make her heart pump wildly, her panties soak uncontrollably, and her mind intrigued at every turn.
NOT because she happens to date a guy who cheated on her and I just so happen to be the last guy who didn’t cheat on her…that’s a shitty way into any relationship let alone one that’s already been established.
Please, go search the archives for the thread of a guy who GPS tracked his fiance. Read in its entirety.
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Your ex is content and happy being a home wrecking whore. She is not getting cheated on, her bf’s wife is, and she knows. That’s why she told you to butt out. She doesn’t want you to keep nosing around and screw up her meal ticket that she is spreading her legs for right now. So just butt out and consider that one a bullet dodged. [/quote]
I disagree. I know her very well and I just don’t believe she actually knows what’s going on.[/quote]
You can disagree but you are making yourself look foolish by doing so. Ask yourself these questions.
Does your ex know the guys real name?
Does your ex know how to use a computer?
Does your ex have facebook?
Assuming the answer is yes to these (It is), what makes you think she doesn’t know at least as much as your friends wife?
And since we have established that she knows, if your ex knowingly sleeping with another woman’s husband, which woman is getting cheated on?
There, I have walked you through the steps of realization that everyone in this thread has used to come to the conclusion your ex is not being cheated on, she is a home-wrecking whore, you should count yourself lucky to have discovered the type person she is and move on. And if the right events transpire, PIIHB and still move on. (added the last part for humor, don’t do that because I don’t think you can handle it)
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m trying to parse this business of the ex having NO IDEA and NO WAY OF KNOWING what’s on her boyfriend’s FB page.
OP, can you explain this? [/quote]
If she’s not FB friends with his wife/ex-wife then she can’t see what the lady posts. And as far as his FB he can control who see’s and doesn’t see his pics, posts, etc.[/quote]
Yes, I’m familiar with Facebook. My incredulity is for you - you seriously think the “POS” is working that hard? He’s spending his days making sure he’s not visible with his wife and business partner - who’s broadcasting him as if they’re still married and also happy - to his young girlfriend, with all of the overlap FB creates in communities? Or maybe you figure she won’t notice she’s blocked?
Dude. Seriously?
Good luck to you in pursuing this thing right to its miserable end.
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Your ex is content and happy being a home wrecking whore. She is not getting cheated on, her bf’s wife is, and she knows. That’s why she told you to butt out. She doesn’t want you to keep nosing around and screw up her meal ticket that she is spreading her legs for right now. So just butt out and consider that one a bullet dodged. [/quote]
I disagree. I know her very well and I just don’t believe she actually knows what’s going on.[/quote]
You can disagree but you are making yourself look foolish by doing so. Ask yourself these questions.
Does your ex know the guys real name?
Does your ex know how to use a computer?
Does your ex have facebook?
Assuming the answer is yes to these (It is), what makes you think she doesn’t know at least as much as your friends wife?
And since we have established that she knows, if your ex knowingly sleeping with another woman’s husband, which woman is getting cheated on?
There, I have walked you through the steps of realization that everyone in this thread has used to come to the conclusion your ex is not being cheated on, she is a home-wrecking whore, you should count yourself lucky to have discovered the type person she is and move on. And if the right events transpire, PIIHB and still move on. (added the last part for humor, don’t do that because I don’t think you can handle it) [/quote]
Yup. ^^^
The capacity of young folks (including myself) to rationalize things like this (only I possess this valuable information that can save someone from something bad happening! I must act or all shall be lost, puppies will drown, children will starve, and the world will cease to exist as it did before!) is astounding.
OP, if you really think your ex - who is knowingly sleeping with a married (?) man that owns a business with his (ex?) wife - cannot obtain the same information that you have access to through a friend of a friend who saw it on Facebook…please, just think about how absurd this sounds.
All of those Dateline murder mysteries my girlfriend watches start off just like this. None of them end well.
Just so we’re clear, I’m not saying YOUR twisted rationalizations will lead to murder, just that twisted rationalizations LIKE YOURS seem to lead to murder.
this guy is just looking for ANY excuse to start hollaring at this stank bitch again. she took your v huh? i cant figure why else you would be so fucking pressed.
[quote]ActivitiesGuy wrote:
The capacity of young folks (including myself) to rationalize things like this (only I possess this valuable information that can save someone from something bad happening! I must act or all shall be lost, puppies will drown, children will starve, and the world will cease to exist as it did before!) is astounding.
OP, if you really think your ex - who is knowingly sleeping with a married (?) man that owns a business with his (ex?) wife - cannot obtain the same information that you have access to through a friend of a friend who saw it on Facebook…please, just think about how absurd this sounds.
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This has been brought up a couple of times and I want to clear it up. They supposedly were never married. They share the same last name because it was better for their kid…(less questions I guess?)
But either way they weren’t married.
So I guess I’m just wondering if people would view it differently knowing that she’s not sleeping with a married man, or a man who was previously married that still has relations with his ex. She’s just sleeping with a man who has a business with his ex and that ex is now going around posting pics on FB to make it seem like they’re back together.
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
This has been brought up a couple of times and I want to clear it up. They supposedly were never married. They share the same last name because it was better for their kid…(less questions I guess?)
But either way they weren’t married.
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How did you come about this little bit of information? As in who told you this?
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
This has been brought up a couple of times and I want to clear it up. They supposedly were never married. They share the same last name because it was better for their kid…(less questions I guess?)
But either way they weren’t married.
So I guess I’m just wondering if people would view it differently knowing that she’s not sleeping with a married man, or a man who was previously married that still has relations with his ex. She’s just sleeping with a man who has a business with his ex and that ex is now going around posting pics on FB to make it seem like they’re back together.
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They “supposedly” were never married but share the same last name. Right. Are you even listening to yourself? People LIE. Especially older men who bang side chicks while they still live and sleep with a woman that the have a child with.
What is the more plausible explanation: that this gentleman has told a few half-truths to your ex (or that she has told YOU a few half-truths along the way, hardly unheard of for a woman to tell her ex, especially when that woman is SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER MAN AT THIS VERY MOMENT), or the scenario that you are still willing yourself to believe - that your ex is a poor unsuspecting victim of an older man who still sleeps with the mother of his child while also whispering sweet nothings into the ear of your ex and telling her that it will all work out one day and they’ll be together with a castle and a moat and live happily ever after?
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
This has been brought up a couple of times and I want to clear it up. They supposedly were never married. They share the same last name because it was better for their kid…(less questions I guess?)
But either way they weren’t married.
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How did you come about this little bit of information? As in who told you this?[/quote]
My ex and my buddies wife told me. I actually didn’t think it was true when my ex told me, but apparently it is.
[quote]ActivitiesGuy wrote:
Please, go search the archives for the thread of a guy who GPS tracked his fiance. Read in its entirety.[/quote]
This is the only good thing about this topic, other than the sound (and often humorous) advice that is and will be ignored by OP. Thanks for noting it: GPS Tracked My Fiance - Off Topic - Forums - T Nation
Sadly, most of us older guys have been in denial and acted stupid like the OP here at some point in our lives. I will throw my voice behind the wise crowd that has tried to tell you to move on. Ignore at your peril.
There are better ways to spend your energy than this, regardless of the outcome.
Even the best case scenario here holds very little benefit for you. Or her. Or anyone else.
You’d be better off picking something else to focus on and put your thoughts and effort toward.
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]Phoenix44e wrote:
This has been brought up a couple of times and I want to clear it up. They supposedly were never married. They share the same last name because it was better for their kid…(less questions I guess?)
But either way they weren’t married.
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How did you come about this little bit of information? As in who told you this?[/quote]
My ex and my buddies wife told me. I actually didn’t think it was true when my ex told me, but apparently it is.
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I find that hard to believe. How does your buddies wife know? And even so, ok not legally married but by all appearances that you have given us, his ex is obviously not his ex (some type of arrangement that all but equals marriage sounds like) and your ex obviously wants you to butt out and let her do her new man.
Stop acting desperate which is what trying to give her advice about her sexual encounters basically is. Stop talking to her period. A man should never check on or contact an ex if she broke up with him. There is absolutely no way to do it and keep your manhood/dignity/pride/test levels in full order, which means that you have lost some of that (at least in the eyes of anyone who knows of this situation) so pick up what amount of that you have left and leave her the hell alone
Stop checking her Facebook.
Tell your buddy’s wife to stop checking her Facebook(why is that happening anyways?).
Stop communicating with your ex completely.
Stop worrying about her and her potential heartaches.
She is not your responsibility.
Walk away.
You dated for a whopping 1.25 years and broke up…There is absolutely no reason you need to be involved in anything in her life anymore.
You can lead a horse to water but you still need to drown it. There is no point in continuing this discussion, there is only the impending train wreck to watch.
OP, I will leave you with only this… Sometimes people are not who we make them out to be. We get it wrong. She’s nothing special, sorry brah.
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Mind your own business. She is your EX. Her life decisions are no longer your concern. Let it go. There is nothing to be gained by sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong.[/quote]
THIS. And all the other variations of “Stay the fuck away from her”.
But, will the OP listen? I think not.