I am a father of two young boys 2 1/2 years and 7 months old. Sometimes I look at them and the responsibility seems almost overwhelming. Mulling this over in my mind I wonder what type of men they will become and how I can inspire them to become the type of men to hold the type of values that will make their mother and I proud.
Then I look at myself and my upbringing and how it shaped me and who I am today. There is much I didn’t have growing up and there are things which I would have done differently, I don’t hold regrets and in general really appreciate how lucky I have been.
I came across a blog which I wanted to share with those who may find themselves in a similar position to myself - it’s written by a man, a teacher who is anticipating the birth of his first child and is trying to rationalise being a father by coming up with lessons he would like to impart to his son to help him become a man.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
One of the greatest things you can do for your boys is to love and respect their momma.
(I take it you’re married)[/quote]
So true. A particular relative of mine is rather emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife, and now their son treats his mom the same disrespectful way. I imagine this will carry over to the way the boy will treat his future wife.
[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
pushharder wrote:
One of the greatest things you can do for your boys is to love and respect their momma.
(I take it you’re married)
So true. A particular relative of mine is rather emotionally and verbally abusive to his wife, and now their son treats his mom the same disrespectful way. I imagine this will carry over to the way the boy will treat his future wife.
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He needs his ass beat then. Any man that would do that is a pussy. I have had a few fights over that. One guy was verbally abusive to his girl in a restaurant where my wife and I were. Everyone could hear them. The girl was about to crawl under the table until he reached across and slapped her. I got up and three other guys did as well. He wanted to take us all on outside. The cops showed up though and they took them outside and they left.
NO!!! FUCKING!!! SENSE!!!
Many things in this world make me upset but abusing a woman or child is what makes me angry to the point of rage.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
One of the greatest things you can do for your boys is to love and respect their momma.
(I take it you’re married)[/quote]
And if you are divorced to never, ever bring up anything negative to say at all towards their mother. As a matter of fact, if at all possible you should strive to have a collaborative, respectful co-parenting relationship. Is it an ideal scenario? No. Does it drastically improve the chances your child grows up well-adjusted and obtains a healthy respect for women? I believe so.
Pretty cool stuff… I have a 6 year old daughter… and I’m 32… errr will be 32 this Sunday… and ya… I suppose it’s different… as I don’t want her to ‘be a man’… but the premise of proper upbringing remains…
[quote]randman wrote:
pushharder wrote:
One of the greatest things you can do for your boys is to love and respect their momma.
(I take it you’re married)
And if you are divorced to never, ever bring up anything negative to say at all towards their mother. As a matter of fact, if at all possible you should strive to have a collaborative, respectful co-parenting relationship. Is it an ideal scenario? No. Does it drastically improve the chances your child grows up well-adjusted and obtains a healthy respect for women? I believe so.[/quote]
Yes I am married all of 3.5 years. My experience has been that the more time goes past the more we grow in understanding and love for each other - I would never have imagined this would be the case if I was not experiencing it.
[quote]randman wrote:
pushharder wrote:
One of the greatest things you can do for your boys is to love and respect their momma.
(I take it you’re married)
And if you are divorced to never, ever bring up anything negative to say at all towards their mother. As a matter of fact, if at all possible you should strive to have a collaborative, respectful co-parenting relationship. Is it an ideal scenario? No. Does it drastically improve the chances your child grows up well-adjusted and obtains a healthy respect for women? I believe so.[/quote]
I agree with this statement for sure… My child’s mother is an idiot… but I still respect her… and treat her appropriately… for my kids’ sake…