However, you may also chose to live by the Golden Rule and make the decision whether your actions are causing distress to others.
I’d follow Iago’s advice:
Your “best conscience
Is not to leave’t undone, but keep’t unknown.”
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Not sure if it appropriate to answer to this because I wasn’t part of the initial conversation:
This sounds very sad. Although that is probably influenced by my own believes and you don’t judge it the same way. I actually couldn’t look at myself in the mirror if it was me who behaved as you have described. Which doesn’t mean that I dislike you for acting this way. I disrespect such behavior because by my own moral standards it is wrong. Btw. since religion came up: I am not religious and I don’t think that my actions will be judged by god. They certainly will be by me though. It is very interesting though to have a look at other people’s opinions.
Out of interest: How old are you, Yogi?
I don’t know if I have ever posted in your log but I am following along from the beginning on. Please don’t take my debut post too harshly. I just found this conversation particularly interesting.
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Not the person you asked but I recently found out that I have access to one and used it a few times since:
It is pretty relaxing if you ignore your ankles. I don’t if it is because of the model (which is ancient) but it feels uncomfortable and after some time even painful on my ankles. Might have something to do with my weight though. Probably less pain for lighter people?
The table itself stretches out my groin area in a comfortable way and in general feels pretty nice. I doubt that it really reliefs pain though. I don’t have chronic back pain though, so I can’t judge for that.
Still it is nice to hang out on there after squats an deadlifts. All in all, if your back problems stem from pure spinal compression it might be worth a shot but otherwise I wouldn’t really make that investment.
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I’ve got a good college friend that was very similar. I always told him the same thing:
If it’s a random girl - High Five
If it’s my sister - Fuck you, you piece of shit
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love it
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you have a sister?
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Absolutely appropriate to answer, and your opinion is absolutely valued. I realise that might sound a little insincere given the context but it’s really not.
Most people couldn’t. I totally get that. The problem is I just feel indifferent for the most part, although that’s not to say I do always. Thing is I have, over the course of my lifetime, used up pretty much every piece of self-loathing and criticism there is. If you call me a piece of shit then fair enough! I have had that conversation so many times with myself that hearing it from someone else has no impact whatsoever.[quote=“Koestrizer, post:624, topic:221798”]
Which doesn’t mean that I dislike you for acting this way. I disrespect such behavior because by my own moral standards it is wrong
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I didn’t take it as such, but I would respect your decision to if you did.
It’s weird: the way I rationalise not really giving a shit about 99% of people is that in my life I have been lucky enough to make some friends with whom I know I’ll be close forever. These people have been there for me through some shit (we’ve all been through some shit) and helped me every step of the way. I love them and would do anything for them. I’d happily give away a kidney if one of the people in that small circle needed it. They’d not even have to ask; I’d offer. That’s a level of caring reserved for a select few.
And it’s not like I think I’m this totally awesome dude that everyone should strive to be accepted by! Far from it. I have absolutely no problem with people not giving a shit about me the way I don’t give a shit about them.
I actually thought everyone was like this and I was just one of the few to have the guts to say it, although it seems like I was wrong about that (although I suspect that @Benanything knows what I’m talking about).[quote=“Koestrizer, post:624, topic:221798”]
I don’t know if I have ever posted in your log but I am following along from the beginning on. Please don’t take my debut post too harshly. I just found this conversation particularly interesting.
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It’s all good, mate, and I really enjoyed the contribution! I don’t think you and I have spoken all that much on the forum but I have read a lot of your posts and always enjoy them.
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No…
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I’m very similar. I suffer from Ataraxia. Things that should upset me do not anymore. My wife ends up more upset for me, than I am.
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Yup, I get where you’re coming from.
I would say I pretty much do the same thing, especially in regards to not caring about most people. In my case, it’s something I just do, can’t really seem to control it. I tend to be rather black/white about things. In the aspect of friendship(how much shit I give about you), you’re either expendable or invaluable.
That and generally speaking, things don’t really bother me as much cause in my head there’s always the thought of “don’t worry bout it, in the long run, none of this matters. you’re gon end up like dead like every other person in this room.” Dang, that sure seems more morbid when you type it out.
As for the guts and saying it, yup that too. Learnt quite some time ago that apparently my level of cynicalism/skepticism isn’t shared by everyone and there are actually people who have kindness in their hearts and such. It was quite a shock to be at first if I were to be honest.
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Despite my love for strip clubs and casual relationships with like-minded girls in my younger days, I’ve always viewed a non-casual relationship as a form of “contract”, in which exclusivity would be one of the terms mutually expected and agreed upon by both parties upon entering into such a contract. Rather than violate this term, I believe one should either terminate the contract or attempt to negotiate different terms and hope the other party agrees to it(not advisable, just making a point). Note that I am not passing judgement on promiscuity itself, but rather, the actions of a man knowingly violating an agreement he has entered into. Not being able to stop himself from such actions shows a weakness on his part and then the old cliche about the irony of lifting weights would apply. Why train yourself to be physically strong when you’re weak inside?
For example, I only fucked girls I more or less knew would not bind me to, nor desire any form of conventional relationships. I have fucked whores who were willingly providing a service which I paid for. I have entered into open relationships where the term of non-exclusivity was expressly agreed upon prior but they always ended up with the girl wanting exclusivity eventually but, then, I had reason to terminate since they were in violation of the terms initially agreed upon. When I met my wife, I made sure I was willing to accept and bind myself to a contract because she fit the exact criteria I was looking for. I have not broken any terms for 12 years. If I had not met her I would simply still be doing the same thing as I described above. I would not enter into a conventional relationship for the sake of it if I know I am not going to honor the agreement.
Granted, there will be gray areas. There will be misinterpretations of the other party’s intentions. Stupid shit happens at parties with booze and drugs and you wake up with naked bimbo shoving a teddy bear in your face going, “I wuv you… do you wuv me? Bear Bear wuvs me!” despite your only recollection of the past night’s events being a lengthy existential conversation with a toilet bowl. Whatever. We’re human. The idea is to minimize shit like this as much as humanly possible attempting to uphold certain principles and making reparations when we fail to.
In the words of Tony Montana in Scarface:
“All I have in this world is my balls and my word and I don’t break them for no one.”
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This is basically what I’m talking about. How would you deal with situations where there’s a chance it’ll turn out… Bad. I’d like to think I’m speaking on behalf of some of us here but hot damn, my dick thinks way more than I’d like it to. Am I supposed to avoid it like the plague?
I don’t know what your exact situation is. If it’s a problem with keeping your dick in your pants, go rub one out and avoid alcohol. Shit, if I can practice self control on 1g of testosterone, how is it possible for you to be unable to do that lol?
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This kinda blew my mind,cause not only I have the same view,but also in a recent conversation I framed it exactly the same way
I don’t know if it’s lifting and writing about it online that attracts certain types of people,but one of the main reasons I love being here is cause I’ve found so many people I can relate to
Although,unlike Yogi and probably you Ben,major part of that behavior starting was insecurities
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I guess I probably shouldn’t hop on test anytime soon then haha!
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Great that you took it the way I meant it.
Like I said it is really interesting to share thoughts with different-minded people who understand that such statements aren’t meant as an attack or to make others feel bad or put yourself on a shelf as something superior.
Unfortunately most people aren’t that mature and probably not that intelligent. Don’t know if intelligence is the right expression but you could probably not say what I did to most peoples face without starting a fight.
I don’t think so either but I have read a lot of your contributions all over the forum, since you seem to have been around forever. Half of it was interesting and the other half straight up hilarious!
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In a comment you mentioned you did GVT,and I thought it’d be better to ask there
How were the results?How would you structure it for a natural lifter?
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haha, I was natural when I did it.
I just did 10x10 front squats one day, 10x10 trap bar deads another. It was a few years ago now. Not strictly GVT I suppose.
Bloody good, it was. It just gets really old limping ALL THE TIME! Haha. Like seriously, all the time.
You should try it though dude. Be an interesting break from the sort of training you normally do.
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I’m pretty bored with my leg training. may give 10x10 a go tonight on back squats.
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you could use it; those little twigs of yours are just embarrassing…
Har har. Jokes. You’ll probably use like 500lbs or something ludicrous like that.
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