[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]Professor X wrote:
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]SILVERDAN7 wrote:
Also, while much of strength training and BB training in particular has grown from empirical evidence and is only starting to grow in terms of clinical research, much thought and observation has gone into the study of human interaction and development. Because of this, I would argue that research only woud make you more knowledgable of parenting and child dev. than it would of BB. Meaning, if youve never lifted a weight ore dealt with a kid, reading a BOOK on both would teach you more about the latter than it would with the former.[/quote]
Which Book?
There are loads of bad advice about kids out there, either bad outright or bad for the parent and/or the kid involved. I am a researcher and I stopped reading books about kids because most of it did not seem ‘right’ with me. So I have been raising my kid based on my kid.
Last week I explained to her that Mommy and Daddy needed to sleep more so she had to wait until we came to her door in the morning before making noise. Ever since she is waiting quietly when I open her door an hour later than she had been getting up. So, explaining it to her worked. Now, find me a book that says that will work with a kid who just turned 2.
My point, people need to raise the kid, not just some model kid they read about in a book. The women in the video should have had that kid evaluated long before she got to Tabasco and cold showers. My guess that kid needed something more than her other kids but she was too hung up on things that ‘worked’.[/quote]
Wait, how do you or anyone else know she DIDN’T have the kid evaluated?
That is what I was referring to before. None of you know what she has been through, how many times that kid has acted out or what she has tried before or how many times. You took ONE instance and used that to form a whole opinion of everything about the woman.
Like was said before, my guess is, if cameras were around at all times in 99% of your homes growing up, I am betting there would be at least ONE instance where your parents’ actions would garner criticism from many of the same people in this thread acting like she killed the kid with cold water and hot sauce.
If that ONE instance was used to define everything about your parents skills at raising you, how well would that definition fit?[/quote]
I answered you on the parents growing up assumption (or am I that 1%?) In that same post I mention growing up in a household where there were mental health issues, so I can empathize with the women if that is the case. In fact a neighbor family in particular with whom my family was close, the mother and two of the kids had different emotional/developmental issues. I have seen the frustration and the limits of outside help. And I have also seen the need from outside guidance, and even the change in environment, as well.
I assume she had not had him evaluated because having done so would have given her outside support and guidance and she would not have had to turn to Dr. Phil.
What we have ignored to this point in this debate is the amount of pressure parents have to do everything right ans the potential shame that is involved in reaction out for help. My guess that is partially at play in her situation. But then, the kid probably should have already been evaluated by the school psychologist by now as well. But then again, drawing from MarvelGirl’s experience, that could be an unnecessary mainline to medication.
My argument that each kid needs to be raised to THEIR needs still stands. The women’s frustration seemed to come from what had worked in the past was not working in this child’s case. Am I wrong in that assumption?[/quote]
Look, I see MANY kids who are medicated and nearly all of them could probably benefit from more direct parenting than more medication…which is the most likely course of action from a health care professional. Maybe she wanted to avoid that.
She DID have the kid evaluated and my guess is, she had no clue the entire country was going to act like she needed to be burned at the stake because she used water and hot sauce. Hell, I still can’t believe some of these responses. I have seen real child abuse and this ain’t it.
You have no clue what overall effect this had. Maybe he actually did stop lying after this. You don’t fucking know. All you do know is that this woman video taped herself using what she felt was a last ditch effort on her part and then she asked for professional help on NATIONAL STAGE. Look at the reaction she got for that.
Tell me, do you think any other parents will be coming forward now after this even if the situation is way more mild?
You would think she beat the kid up and left his jaw hanging from some of the comments here.
Rushing to judgment on this woman does not make any of you look like thinking adults. It looks like some rash emotional response based on half assed info.
