[quote]165StateChamp wrote:
Professor X, you state my points as well as or better than I can. I’ll still give it a shot though.
If a child is doing something wrong, they need to learn to no longer do that thing. Looking back to when I was a child, I didn’t need to know WHY I shouldn’t do something; what was important was just making sure I did not do it. Sometimes physical punishment is the best option for teaching this.
Why would I not go this route? I don’t think I have it in me to hit a child. That’s my personal weakness. I do like the idea of digging holes or running though. [/quote]
Agreed. I now know how rough that neighborhood was growing up. My parents had certain rules set up for a reason and the average 8 year old is not going to understand all of these reasons. I doubt the average eight year old know which houses are selling drugs or is aware of which street someone got stabbed on last week. “Don’t go down that street on your bike” was enough…until you come to this website and people act like the child should be a part of that decision making process.
This is a “disturbed” foster kid and if anyone thinks this is the worst many foster kids or their guardians deal with then their world must be all roses and butterflies.
No, I do not see the big deal about hot sauce or even a cold shower in the grand scheme of things. I think that if this woman had a different demeanor, she wouldn’t be getting as much of the reaction against her. I doubt even one spanking most of us got growing up would look good if it were televised. It would look like torture…and then the world would be calling for your parents to lose their kids.
Abuse is NOT telling a kid what they did wrong yet punishing them anyway.
Abuse is leaving lasting WOUNDS on a child.
Abuse can also involve psychological trauma that I feel is even more common today in the form of NEGLECT.
Do some of you want to know some forms of abuse that seem to be tolerated? Parents giving their kids everything they want to their own physical decay…like I see often with parents allowing a kids’ mouth to rot out completely because the kid likes candy and will cry if you tell him no.
Yes, there is a trend in society of the next generation being more relaxed than the previous when it comes to physical discipline. Castor Oil might be seen as abuse today when it was not when our grandparents were kids. Washing a kids mouth out with soap literally sounds ridiculous to me. Soap is not meant to be eaten. Hot sauce is.
I would have traded a couple of swats with a branch growing up with hot sauce any fucking day of the week.
If THIS is the worst parenting some of you have seen, then many of you must not get out much. Like I said, I see NEGLECT as the larger issue in society along with giving into kids simply to shut them up…but hey, since this looks nice on youtube, I guess that makes it more tolerable than getting cold water because you acted like an ass at school and then lied about it.
Will I personally spend the time doing this? I would hope I wouldn’t have to with a kid I raised from day one…but raising someone ELSE’S kid is a different bag all together.
