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@OP - I am sorry I pointed out a small math error in your thread, didn’t expect it to hit the fan for that :slight_smile:

@Dianab - I guess this explains the phenomenon :slight_smile:

Why Men Don’t Write Advice Columns

Dear Walter:
I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband watching the TV as usual. I hadn’t gone more than a mile down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband’s help. When I got back I couldn’t believe my eyes. He was in our bedroom with the neighbor lady. I am 32, my husband is 34, and we have been married for twelve years.

When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that they had been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won’t go to counseling and I’m afraid I can’t get through to him anymore. Can you please help?
Sincerely, Sheila

Dear Sheila: A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.

I hope this helps.
-Walter
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Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!!

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[quote]PimpBot5000 wrote:
This thread has been polluted with the gheyity of math and other such numeral-learnin’

The fact remains that we have a Brazilian wife as the topic of discussion, and yet so far these 4 pages are completely devoid of pics.

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[quote]Fat Bastard. wrote:
@OP - I am sorry I pointed out a small math error in your thread, didn’t expect it to hit the fan for that :slight_smile:

@Dianab - I guess this explains the phenomenon :slight_smile:

Why Men Don’t Write Advice Columns

Dear Walter:
I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband watching the TV as usual. I hadn’t gone more than a mile down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband’s help. When I got back I couldn’t believe my eyes. He was in our bedroom with the neighbor lady. I am 32, my husband is 34, and we have been married for twelve years.

When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that they had been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won’t go to counseling and I’m afraid I can’t get through to him anymore. Can you please help?
Sincerely, Sheila

Dear Sheila: A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.

I hope this helps.
-Walter
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Hilarious!
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[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Like I said, usurious rates.

Lol, Jimmy Five Fingers from the corner Deli has similar rates…[/quote]

street rate is 30% :slight_smile:

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[quote]Grneyes wrote:
Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!![/quote]

America isn’t Brazil.

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[quote]Fat Bastard. wrote:

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Ah yes, the lovely Winnie Cooper. I heard she had become a math teacher.

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[quote]Grneyes wrote:
Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!![/quote]

I disagree with the whole concept of the uber wedding/party, unless the person throwing it is wealthy and able. Some people get a kick out of throwing lots of money around. Good for them!

If a person has to start tapping family resources and stressing the budget just so their friends have somewhere opulent to barf and screw, then there is some severe lack of balance in the mind of the person making those financial decisions.

I got off cheap with my wedding. You would be shocked. Everybody had a good time though, and it was all paid for in cash beforehand.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]Grneyes wrote:
Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!![/quote]

I disagree with the whole concept of the uber wedding/party, unless the person throwing it is wealthy and able. Some people get a kick out of throwing lots of money around. Good for them!

If a person has to start tapping family resources and stressing the budget just so their friends have somewhere opulent to barf and screw, then there is some severe lack of balance in the mind of the person making those financial decisions.

I got off cheap with my wedding. You would be shocked. Everybody had a good time though, and it was all paid for in cash beforehand.
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Crazy. I wouldn’t be caught dead spending that type of money on a damn wedding. Current gf is with me in this, we’d both be fine with a tiny wedding with only close family invited, go out to a decent restaurant for food with some family and close friends, then have them come to our place for some drinks and such. Spend under $2000, great success!

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^ Fuck spending money on wedding, spend money on Honeymoon.

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It’s funny how “we” want a small wedding, but then you end up with parents and relatives who want to invite all their friends, and you have a lot more friends and family then you realized, and suddenly you’re trying to feed 200 people, most of whom you actually do like. And the girl who would never be a bridezilla is being pulled in 90 different directions trying to please everyone. If I had it to do over again, I’d elope.

In 2004 my wedding for 125 guests was $12,000, with a sit-down dinner. And I did A LOT of work on my own. I’m a fucking bomb-ass calligrapher.

As for the OP and his wife, I still think we need pics. I think the trust issue is probably going to impact the rest of your marriage negatively. And I don’t fucking touch math for a reason.

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[quote]hungry4more wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]Grneyes wrote:
Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!![/quote]

I disagree with the whole concept of the uber wedding/party, unless the person throwing it is wealthy and able. Some people get a kick out of throwing lots of money around. Good for them!

If a person has to start tapping family resources and stressing the budget just so their friends have somewhere opulent to barf and screw, then there is some severe lack of balance in the mind of the person making those financial decisions.

I got off cheap with my wedding. You would be shocked. Everybody had a good time though, and it was all paid for in cash beforehand.
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Crazy. I wouldn’t be caught dead spending that type of money on a damn wedding. Current gf is with me in this, we’d both be fine with a tiny wedding with only close family invited, go out to a decent restaurant for food with some family and close friends, then have them come to our place for some drinks and such. Spend under $2000, great success![/quote]

We ended up going with a company that did the catering, hall, staffing, decorations, and clean-up as an all inclusive per plate price once you exceeded so many people, which was like 50 or something. Ended up with like 100 some people, bought the booze and cake ourselves and ended up at like $30 something bucks a plate.

Coincidentally, we had go-karts, which was a riot.

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[quote]countingbeans wrote:

[quote]debraD wrote:
Holy fuck, why do you guys marry these dipshits?? [/quote]

There is a Hot v. Crazy scale…

The hotter the chick, typically the more crazy you are willing to put up with.

As a man gets older (and especially if he has been married in the past) the less total crazy he is willing to put up with, irrelevant of hotness.

Now with chicks, they have a Hottness v. Bitchyness. As in the hotter they are, the bitchier they think they can be and get away with it.

Now if they are hot enough, dude will put up with the Bitchiness, mainly because it basically equals crazy in our world, and as long as she fits under the slope of the Line of Unacceptability, she is fine.

Now if she thinks she is hotter than she is (OP’s wife) and tries to be crazier/bitchier than will be tolerated (borrowing 10 fucking K at usurious rates on the sly) she will score above the Slope of Unacceptability and promptly be dropped like a bad habit by most men with a spine.[/quote]

Damn, reading this post gave me a headache but it kinda make some sense.

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20k on a 20 min service and a 3 hour reception? I hope there were hookers.

We spent maybe 2k on ours, and I bet the amount of fun had by our 100+ guests was comparable to any 20k wedding ever.

Hell, a guy I worked with dropped 16k on just an engagement ring… for his 2nd wife… that was forcefully making him convert to Catholicism…

Some guys are just slaves to the pooner.

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I didn’t bother to read through the thread, but the fact that she A. Lied to you and B. Borrowed money of that amount without your knowledge shows there are serious issues going into your marriage. She has shown that she can not be trusted and has poor financial judgment which are the two things that break up most marriages, and I speak from experience.

I also think that spending that much damn money on a wedding, unless you have that much excess money that it isn’t a financial burden is ridiculous. When I got married we had a double wedding and it cost less than $3000 in total. That $20K could have been used as a down payment on a house, setting up some type of nest egg for you and your family, or even just stashed in the bank until you figured out what you two wanted to do with it.

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[quote]AlexC1 wrote:
Some guys are just bitches.[/quote]

Corrected that for you

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The deceit is a huge problem. You two should be discussing your future together, not her informing you after the fact. Trouble ahead if you just let this slide.

BTW $10,000 plugged into a mortgage calculator with payments of $500 per month is 18.16% interest. Not quite loan shark rates, but close.

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[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:

By the way, OP, you both should have eloped. Weddings (especially big ones) are a HUGE waste of money, and are just a big show of nothing. It’s the day after that the real work begins… as you have just discovered.[/quote]

Absolutely fucking agree. My wife and I got married by ourselves at a place called The Hitching Post. It wasn’t a true elopement, as we sent announcements and all, but it was just the two of us and it might have cost 50 bucks. My company paid for our night in the honeymoon suite at The Resort in Coeur 'd Alene. So, for fifty bucks we had a stress free wedding that was probably just as, if not more, memorable and precious to us as a

TWENTY FUCKING THOUSAND DOLLAR WEDDING.[/quote]

Edit: should have read second page before posting.

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[quote]DJHT wrote:
^ Fuck spending money on wedding, spend money on Honeymoon. [/quote]

This thread reminds me how awesome my wife is. When we discussed buying a ring, she said she wanted one that was 1/5 or so the price that I was thinking. I was shocked and said we could afford a lot more. She then, literally, listed off our financial obligations and goals for the next few years and said with enthusiasm: I want this one.

Later, discussing the wedding, she used the same logic as DJHT here. For her a wedding equals a nice dress, a beach, a photographer friend of hers, and plane tickets for the honeymoon.

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[quote]Grneyes wrote:
Okay, I’m just shocked at the people who think 20K is expensive for a wedding. Where I come from it’s a minimum of 30K. And I worked at a hotel where bar/bat mitzvahs were on average 60K. One, which was a dual mitzvah (son and daughter were a year apart), was a black tie affair, sushi as the main course (how many 12-13 y/o do you know who like sushi?) and a tequila luge for 100K. The dad passed out in our bathroom after 18 shots of tequila and had to be taken to his room on a luggage cart! And that’s for just a 13th birthday party!!![/quote]

Well, they are Jews.