[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
You are a cruel woman; it would have been better to never know that I missed an opportunity to see DebraD’s boobies :([/quote]
[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
You are a cruel woman; it would have been better to never know that I missed an opportunity to see DebraD’s boobies :([/quote]
I obviously can’t speak on everything your girl might be thinking, but I have had moments like this in the past.
We live in a very passive aggressive society and if you spend a lot of time around those type of people, every comment begins to sound that way. You might not have meant anything from your comment aside from a courteous question about her day, but she may hear that question half a dozen times a day from people with much different intentions.
Your girl may know that she is going to be “cheating” on her diet when she sees you and is feeling conflicted about it. That’s one of those catch-22s about being a chick. The guy wants to go out, drink, eat greasy foods, stay up too late, etc. He wants his girlfriend to do the same with him. Yet he does not want his girlfriend to gain too much weight so the girl has to toe the line between having fun and adhering to some sort of diet. (Not saying this is true of the OP, just generalizing).
I enjoy a burger and cold beer as much as the next person, but my BF’s frame is a lot more forgiving with the occasional indulgence than mine is. For that reason, I always ramp up the exercise as the weekend approaches to offset any potential damage I might do. When I can’t do this I will sometimes feel guilty. Then, if BF asks an innocent question about working out it exacerbates the feelings I already have inside and the anger I was focusing on myself turns outward.
Look, I’m not saying that I have any good excuse for reacting the way I do. I openly admit I still have my demons but can at least acknowledge what they are. I think most people have similar problems except instead of it being about working out it is about money, or family, or cleaning your house. For example, every time BF comes home from bartending I ask him how his night went. He always replies by telling me how much money he made. That’s not why I ask, but it is how he interprets it. We all have our neuroses.
[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:
I obviously can’t speak on everything your girl might be thinking, but I have had moments like this in the past.
We live in a very passive aggressive society and if you spend a lot of time around those type of people, every comment begins to sound that way. You might not have meant anything from your comment aside from a courteous question about her day, but she may hear that question half a dozen times a day from people with much different intentions.
Your girl may know that she is going to be “cheating” on her diet when she sees you and is feeling conflicted about it. That’s one of those catch-22s about being a chick. The guy wants to go out, drink, eat greasy foods, stay up too late, etc. He wants his girlfriend to do the same with him. Yet he does not want his girlfriend to gain too much weight so the girl has to toe the line between having fun and adhering to some sort of diet. (Not saying this is true of the OP, just generalizing).
I enjoy a burger and cold beer as much as the next person, but my BF’s frame is a lot more forgiving with the occasional indulgence than mine is. For that reason, I always ramp up the exercise as the weekend approaches to offset any potential damage I might do. When I can’t do this I will sometimes feel guilty. Then, if BF asks an innocent question about working out it exacerbates the feelings I already have inside and the anger I was focusing on myself turns outward.
Look, I’m not saying that I have any good excuse for reacting the way I do. I openly admit I still have my demons but can at least acknowledge what they are. I think most people have similar problems except instead of it being about working out it is about money, or family, or cleaning your house. For example, every time BF comes home from bartending I ask him how his night went. He always replies by telling me how much money he made. That’s not why I ask, but it is how he interprets it. We all have our neuroses.[/quote]
Well im impressed. A self actualized lady. Nice to see those elusive ones exist.
[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
So you’re dating a stripper, she has body issues, and she overreacts to comments that may or may not pertain to her body? I think the image speaks for itself.
[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
[quote]debraD wrote:
Don’t you manage strippers for a living or something? I don’t think “normal, acceptable” can really apply in that case.
It’s not a way of life I can relate to so I can’t tell you what is going on with her, or the vibe you might be giving her.[/quote]
Deb, I know you have your haters, and I’m really not one of them but GTFO.
You posted your tits in SAMA an hour ago. Strippers get a much smaller audience than the internet.
(and before you menz out there get too excited, she took it down already. I could hear the right-click-save going on from here. Yes they are real and they are spectacular)[/quote]
Deb has haters?[/quote]
I know! What’d I ever do? :`([/quote]
You mean aside from taking down a photo of you topless?
[quote]SmilingPolitely wrote:
I obviously can’t speak on everything your girl might be thinking, but I have had moments like this in the past.
We live in a very passive aggressive society and if you spend a lot of time around those type of people, every comment begins to sound that way. You might not have meant anything from your comment aside from a courteous question about her day, but she may hear that question half a dozen times a day from people with much different intentions.
Your girl may know that she is going to be “cheating” on her diet when she sees you and is feeling conflicted about it. That’s one of those catch-22s about being a chick. The guy wants to go out, drink, eat greasy foods, stay up too late, etc. He wants his girlfriend to do the same with him. Yet he does not want his girlfriend to gain too much weight so the girl has to toe the line between having fun and adhering to some sort of diet. (Not saying this is true of the OP, just generalizing).
I enjoy a burger and cold beer as much as the next person, but my BF’s frame is a lot more forgiving with the occasional indulgence than mine is. For that reason, I always ramp up the exercise as the weekend approaches to offset any potential damage I might do. When I can’t do this I will sometimes feel guilty. Then, if BF asks an innocent question about working out it exacerbates the feelings I already have inside and the anger I was focusing on myself turns outward.
Look, I’m not saying that I have any good excuse for reacting the way I do. I openly admit I still have my demons but can at least acknowledge what they are. I think most people have similar problems except instead of it being about working out it is about money, or family, or cleaning your house. For example, every time BF comes home from bartending I ask him how his night went. He always replies by telling me how much money he made. That’s not why I ask, but it is how he interprets it. We all have our neuroses.[/quote]
Well im impressed. A self actualized lady. Nice to see those elusive ones exist.
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Don’t give me too much credit. Its all just a clever plan to absolve myself of any blame should the shit hit the fan; kind of like the warning on a pack of cigarettes.
SP you are too hard on yourself. I think it’s perfectly sane and normal to have that kind of thinking when you’re trying to achieve something and life is getting in the way. If I was trying to be fit and healthy at a time in my life where I was surrounded by burgers, fries and beers and boyfriends who loved them all I would implode with conflict.
[quote]debraD wrote:
SP you are too hard on yourself. I think it’s perfectly sane and normal to have that kind of thinking when you’re trying to achieve something and life is getting in the way. If I was trying to be fit and healthy at a time in my life where I was surrounded by burgers, fries and beers and boyfriends who loved them all I would implode with conflict.[/quote]
[quote]dianab wrote:
Tell her to eat a cookie, take up powerlifting and grow some self esteem.[/quote]
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Very good advice, especially for all the treadmill-jogging, pink dumbbell-lifting, soy latte-sipping girls out there.
MY GF and I are always talking about if we’ve gone to the gym and what we did while there. It’s not any kind of disguised criticism. Thankfully, her self-esteem is very much intact, and she earns major points because she is actually well qualified to give ME lifting advice.
[quote]debraD wrote:
SP you are too hard on yourself. I think it’s perfectly sane and normal to have that kind of thinking when you’re trying to achieve something and life is getting in the way. If I was trying to be fit and healthy at a time in my life where I was surrounded by burgers, fries and beers and boyfriends who loved them all I would implode with conflict.[/quote]
[quote]dianab wrote:
Tell her to eat a cookie, take up powerlifting and grow some self esteem.[/quote]
x2
Very good advice, especially for all the treadmill-jogging, pink dumbbell-lifting, soy latte-sipping girls out there.
MY GF and I are always talking about if we’ve gone to the gym and what we did while there. It’s not any kind of disguised criticism. Thankfully, her self-esteem is very much intact, and she earns major points because she is actually well qualified to give ME lifting advice.[/quote]
I think you missed the part where the OP said she is a stripper and that he’s her pimp I don’t think your relationship experience is that applicable, assuming you’re in a normal relationship where neither of you work in the ‘looks’ industry.
What she really needs is a boyfriend who works in a bank or something.
But I have a sneaking suspicion this whole thread was a setup so we can talk about the OP’s hot bikini babe because if you are in the business of managing strippers none of this should be a surprise IMO.
[quote]Meni69 wrote:
By the way, every time I am with her, I tell her how great she looks, how beautiful, how I love to see her without make up… [/quote]
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This sounds like you are “trying” to make her feel good and like you, and trust me women can smell that and they don’t like it. It stinks of BETA.
[quote]Meni69 wrote:
…So I think the me judging her is her fabrication.
And if she thinks I like “skinny” girls, she’s incorrect, i have a girl who’s maybe 5’5" 134 lbs. great body, works out.
oh well, thanks for the input so far guys. [/quote]
Why are you beating around the bush???
-you DO NOT like her current body yet you tell her she is pretty. You say you don’t like “skinni girls” but you want her to loose weight. However you are not dumping her even though she clearly refuses to change/listen to you.
==> More Beta
It sounds to me like you are afreaid to loose this chick, you don’t like her body (and maybe something else) but won’t put your foot down (on this an posibly other issues) becuase you are afraid she will leave you.
…and THAT is why she gives you SHIT.
I don’t think your relationship experience is that applicable, assuming you’re in a normal relationship where neither of you work in the ‘looks’ industry.