[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Wow this getting a guy thing is gonna run me up quite the tab, heh.
This has given me a lot of food for thought though. It’s weird that I put in so much effort into my body, but wont take two minutes to really put on eye shadow. [/quote]
Bingo. Guys like different things, just like girls, so you’re going to get some conflicting opinions: “dye your hair, great idea” “don’t dye your hair, I don’t like girls like that” etc.
Key though is find something YOU like, and do put some effort in the style that YOU like. If YOU feel like experimenting with dying your hair, go for it. If you want to experiment with some serious make-up, do it. If you like the rocker look, do it. Same for whatever style. Chances are that as long as you do things because you like how they look on you, your effort is going to be appreciated by guys looking (surreptitiously). Nobody pleases 100% of people in the way they look or their personality–best thing is to put the effort in for looks that YOU like, and a large chunk of people will agree with you.
[quote]RATTLEHEAD wrote:
I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass.
You are decent enough looking, seem interesting BUT you seem really unambitious in life (different matter in the gym tho).
I’ve read you saying how you are happy living with your parents with your kid and having your dad drive you everywhere…
Thats more so of a turn off in terms of relationships than just looking to get my hole off you though.[/quote]
I am not happy living with my parents I HATE living with my parents. I stay here because my kid wants to live in sherwood park where his school is and the cheapest rent is like 1500 dollars a month, which I cannot afford.
I am also terrified to drive and have no one to teach me how and cannot afford to spend thousands of dollars on driver’s training
Forget black hair or blonde hair. Go brown. Not light brown but a darker rich,warm brown. It stands out a lot more than blonde. I was blonde for years and my hair dresser talked me into brown and it feels much more glamorous and sexy. Plus if you have blue eyes, they really pop.
Learn makeup skills. I won’t even compete without makeup. You don’t have to look like a hooker or that you’re going out on the town. Good makeup looks fairly natural and somewhat understated. Balance it a bit. I like neutral eyeshadow and BAM red lips. Highlight either eyes or mouth. Both look too much. Practice.
Attitude is everything. If you’re not feeling confident, it shows. I was out with an old friend last week and she commented that I was getting lustful stares. That’s because I was with her, I was happy and we were laughing and having a great time. Other people see your enjoyment and that’s a big attraction.
This doesn’t just apply to attracting the opposite sex, it applies to attracting people (and dogs :). When you look happy with who you are and enjoying what you’re doing, people gravitate to you.
Okay I’m not a guy or even a lesbian but I thought I’d throw my two cents in.
Finally, don’t alter your tits. Get a defcon 4 pushup bra. I’m pretty low bodyfat and have zero boobs so I put a couple of La Senza muppets on my chest.
[quote]RATTLEHEAD wrote:
I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass.
You are decent enough looking, seem interesting BUT you seem really unambitious in life (different matter in the gym tho).
I’ve read you saying how you are happy living with your parents with your kid and having your dad drive you everywhere…
Thats more so of a turn off in terms of relationships than just looking to get my hole off you though.[/quote]
I am not happy living with my parents I HATE living with my parents. I stay here because my kid wants to live in sherwood park where his school is and the cheapest rent is like 1500 dollars a month, which I cannot afford.
I am also terrified to drive and have no one to teach me how and cannot afford to spend thousands of dollars on driver’s training [/quote]
Well thats good then, bits and bobs of your log led to me to concluding other wise.
Now, there a two ways you can go with this, simultaneously.
Not only can you a solid girl next door by day, oh noez, but if you got a visagist or two to glam you up and show you how to do it, you can be a ROCK SOLID 8 by night.
It should not matter, but being envied because of the woman on your arm may be superficial. but is nice.
[quote]RATTLEHEAD wrote:
I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass.
You are decent enough looking, seem interesting BUT you seem really unambitious in life (different matter in the gym tho).
I’ve read you saying how you are happy living with your parents with your kid and having your dad drive you everywhere…
Thats more so of a turn off in terms of relationships than just looking to get my hole off you though.[/quote]
I am not happy living with my parents I HATE living with my parents. I stay here because my kid wants to live in sherwood park where his school is and the cheapest rent is like 1500 dollars a month, which I cannot afford.
I am also terrified to drive and have no one to teach me how and cannot afford to spend thousands of dollars on driver’s training [/quote]
Well thats good then, bits and bobs of your log led to me to concluding other wise.
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No, trust me, I feel very stuck in my current life situation and try to make the best of it, but the thought of forcing my kid to move to edmonton (where I can afford rent) really bothers my heart, so I leave it as is.
I do have a very good job now though so I see myself being able to save up and move out within a years time.
Now, there a two ways you can go with this, simultaneously.
Not only can you a solid girl next door by day, oh noez, but if you got a visagist or two to glam you up and show you how to do it, you can be a ROCK SOLID 8 by night.
It should not matter, but being envied because of the woman on your arm may be superficial. but is nice.
[quote]RATTLEHEAD wrote:
I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass.
You are decent enough looking, seem interesting BUT you seem really unambitious in life (different matter in the gym tho).
I’ve read you saying how you are happy living with your parents with your kid and having your dad drive you everywhere…
Thats more so of a turn off in terms of relationships than just looking to get my hole off you though.[/quote]
I am not happy living with my parents I HATE living with my parents. I stay here because my kid wants to live in sherwood park where his school is and the cheapest rent is like 1500 dollars a month, which I cannot afford.
I am also terrified to drive and have no one to teach me how and cannot afford to spend thousands of dollars on driver’s training [/quote]
Well thats good then, bits and bobs of your log led to me to concluding other wise.
[/quote]
No, trust me, I feel very stuck in my current life situation and try to make the best of it, but the thought of forcing my kid to move to edmonton (where I can afford rent) really bothers my heart, so I leave it as is.
I do have a very good job now though so I see myself being able to save up and move out within a years time. [/quote]
The move will be worth it. I’ve been stuck in various ways for a long time, the move is always worth it. Your kid will make new friends even though it will be hard.
RE: driving. Find a way. That’s kind of a big deal especially for a move. Plus, it makes you automatically feel less “trapped”. Because, hey when it comes right down to it…you don’t have to be.
How often do you go to nightclubs or late bars?
If you don’t put yourself out there you’re limiting your chances.
Go to enough nightclubs consistently & you will meet someone you like.
Finally, don’t alter your tits. Get a defcon 4 pushup bra. I’m pretty low bodyfat and have zero boobs so I put a couple of La Senza muppets on my chest.[/quote]
Get a Brazilian wax
Shave your legs as often as you can
Get some sexy panties and bras and wear them all the time - you have to start FEELING sexy
Talk to THREE strangers a week (preferably of the opposite sex)
Get off the computer and figure out where you can be social with people - make some new friends, expand your social circle
Get involved with your daughter’s school (PTA, bake sale, volunteer for something) and make friends with the married wiminz. They will eventually set you up with guys
There is nothing at all wrong with your looks, your hair or your tits. If you really need to change something, get subtle highlights and MAINTAIN them.
Once you meet a guy who you may feel is worthy, ASK him if he’d be willing to give you a few pointers with driving. Don’t be embarrassed
What do you do for a living?
How financially independent are you?
Do you receive child support for your kid?
What are your daycare/sitter options?
You DO realize that there are MANY “nerds” (who probably share common interests with you) who would put you on a pedestal, right? My advice is to avoid them. You don’t want a “nice guy beta provider”, you want a man who isn’t afraid of his own balls. Take the time to find a good one. Don’t be in a rush. You seem like a sweet young lady, but there is something you are doing that is making you unapproachable. Figure out what that is.
Err, well I, uh, I don’t go out to clubs or anything ever…
I don’t really have anyone to go with.
And cause training is #1 most important thing I get to bed at a reasonable hour and don’t consume alcohol.
What would my idol John Meadows think of me if I did such things?!?!!
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Get a Brazilian wax
Shave your legs as often as you can
Get some sexy panties and bras and wear them all the time - you have to start FEELING sexy
Talk to THREE strangers a week (preferably of the opposite sex)
Get off the computer and figure out where you can be social with people - make some new friends, expand your social circle
Get involved with your daughter’s school (PTA, bake sale, volunteer for something) and make friends with the married wiminz. They will eventually set you up with guys
There is nothing at all wrong with your looks, your hair or your tits. If you really need to change something, get subtle highlights and MAINTAIN them.
Once you meet a guy who you may feel is worthy, ASK him if he’d be willing to give you a few pointers with driving. Don’t be embarrassed
What do you do for a living?
How financially independent are you?
Do you receive child support for your kid?
What are your daycare/sitter options?
You DO realize that there are MANY “nerds” (who probably share common interests with you) who would put you on a pedestal, right? My advice is to avoid them. You don’t want a “nice guy beta provider”, you want a man who isn’t afraid of his own balls. Take the time to find a good one. Don’t be in a rush. You seem like a sweet young lady, but there is something you are doing that is making you unapproachable. Figure out what that is.[/quote]
Well I cannOT STAND having any hair in my girl area, so that parts covered. LOL
I have lots of really nice underwear that I have literally not worn once, so I guess I could dust it off…
The making friends with the moms thing kinda scares me I must admit, but I can try.
I work for the city at a gym/pool. I register people and crap. It’s not super fancy or anything, but I make good money and I actually really enjoy it.
I get child support sometimes… UMM What else…
I really do believe it’s ‘me’ and not them that’s the issue though. Maybe I give off wrong vibes or something
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Get a Brazilian wax
Shave your legs as often as you can
Get some sexy panties and bras and wear them all the time - you have to start FEELING sexy
Talk to THREE strangers a week (preferably of the opposite sex)
Get off the computer and figure out where you can be social with people - make some new friends, expand your social circle
Get involved with your daughter’s school (PTA, bake sale, volunteer for something) and make friends with the married wiminz. They will eventually set you up with guys
There is nothing at all wrong with your looks, your hair or your tits. If you really need to change something, get subtle highlights and MAINTAIN them.
Once you meet a guy who you may feel is worthy, ASK him if he’d be willing to give you a few pointers with driving. Don’t be embarrassed
What do you do for a living?
How financially independent are you?
Do you receive child support for your kid?
What are your daycare/sitter options?
You DO realize that there are MANY “nerds” (who probably share common interests with you) who would put you on a pedestal, right? My advice is to avoid them. You don’t want a “nice guy beta provider”, you want a man who isn’t afraid of his own balls. Take the time to find a good one. Don’t be in a rush. You seem like a sweet young lady, but there is something you are doing that is making you unapproachable. Figure out what that is.[/quote]
I agree with all of this except the brazilian wax. I still think that would hurt like hell, and it’s expensive. I think grooming well is enough in the circles Spock will be running in (and that I run in). Many men can’t tell a child’s drawing from a Picasso.
