Casual sex is not the issue here.
Oh wow…
This thread feels oh so weirdly appropriate for me to be posting in, as I just happen to be a fairly young (24) single parent with some recently pierced nipples LOL.
Here’s what my experience has taught me:
There have been a reasonable number of women that have been interested in me despite knowing about my kid. There have also been a bunch who have been turned off instantly because of him. There are some rare ones who seem to like it. I’m sure there are tons of people for whom it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, especially if he’s a nice kid. Now maybe it’s different because I’m a guy, but I still think there’s a bunch of people with whom you’ve got a shot. And single parents are common enough nowadays that you could probably find a single dad if you wanted. So a kid’s no excuse.
I think confidence is your biggest hindrance. Which has probably led to you lacking some social skills. I know this because I used to be the same way and I’m only just figuring this shit out. If you think of yourself as undateable and inferior to everyone else, you will act in ways so that everyone else will see this too. It’s a nasty cycle of self-fulfilling prophecy. All you have to do is make small changes. Things that might make you a little uncomfortable. Hold someone’s eye contact, be the center of attention for a bit, say something a little more daring than you’d ordinarily say. Over time you will build confidence and these will become routine. Then it’s time to push the envelope a little more.
I’ve noticed a dramatic improvement in my social skills since I started this. People I meet now describe me as “confident” and “personable”. Much improved social life. I’m also seeing steady improvements in my dating life/skills, but to a lesser extent. That said, I’m not really trying very hard in that department because the demands of trying to get into a competitive med school are more than enough shit to have on my plate for the next little bit.
Trust me, if I can do it, so can you. Good luck!
Spock,
You should do what anonym said, and ignore everyone else. Coming to a place where desperate losers like pushharder and gettnitdone think solely about complimenting you, in the futile hope you’ll sleep with them or give them attention, is not the best method to go about this.
Seek professional help.
[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
Spock,
You should do what anonym said, and ignore everyone else. Seek professional help.
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Yep. I would also caution you about posting pictures of yourself online with so much deeply personal information since you are a parent and also someone who says she wants to be more successful in the workaday world.
In my opinion, your issues have nothing to do with your breast size or what clothes you wear or the fact that you still live with your parents. They are internal and need to be addressed. You have much to offer once you conquer your self-esteem challenges.
I (heart) Meester Push~
I (heart) him lotz~
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]legendaryblaze wrote:
Spock,
You should do what anonym said, and ignore everyone else. Seek professional help.
[/quote]
Yep. I would also caution you about posting pictures of yourself online with so much deeply personal information since you are a parent and also someone who says she wants to be more successful in the workaday world.
In my opinion, your issues have nothing to do with your breast size or what clothes you wear or the fact that you still live with your parents. They are internal and need to be addressed. You have much to offer once you conquer your self-esteem challenges.[/quote]
best post of this thread~
other than the nekkid tramploiners~