Why Can't Spock Get Men?

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[quote]mbdix wrote:
Your baby step with the guy and the fan is a step in the right direction. I think if you keep doing things like that, it will happen soon. You seemed confident enough to me, you believe you have a nice big tight ass, and the past lovers were their loss not staying with you. I think if you are true to yourself and if a guy that sparks your interest and doesn’t make the first move and you step out of your comfort zone and do it yourself it will work out the way you want soon. Some people might say that is being white knight(esk), I say it’s just fact.

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Talking dat dere sense.

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[quote]Bauber wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Spock - You are adorable, and you have a cute personality and sense of humor to boot. A lot of the things you think about yourself are turned upside down.

[etc.]
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Great post.[/quote]

x2[/quote]

X3. If you were not a thousand miles away, I would definitely take you out on a date and wear my TMNT shirt. Just saying.[/quote]

I’m pretty sure Orion os more than a 1000 miles from you.

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[quote]on edge wrote:

[quote]Bauber wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Spock - You are adorable, and you have a cute personality and sense of humor to boot. A lot of the things you think about yourself are turned upside down.

[etc.]
[/quote]

Great post.[/quote]

x2[/quote]

X3. If you were not a thousand miles away, I would definitely take you out on a date and wear my TMNT shirt. Just saying.[/quote]

I’m pretty sure Orion os more than a 1000 miles from you.[/quote]

-_-

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Most of the stuff getting thrown back and forth now seems to just be repeating itself. I agree with thirdruff that throwing in some sexy can help. People are often driven to do things by their unconscious, and if you give off even a small aura of feminine or sexiness, that could be the deciding factor that helps a guy to man up, get over some fear or shyness, and ask for your number. You’ve already admitted that this could help though.

Most people pointed out a lack of confidence, but I’ll cut deeper and say you seem poor at sharing emotion, or maybe even being honest with your own emotions. I think that’s why your posts seem so SUPER ENERGETIC AND IN MY FACE is because you force some stuff. Many people called you genuine, and while I don’t think you seem “un-genuine” or fake, the vibe I get from your posts is that you’re not as in tune with yourself, or at the very least have trouble communicating that to others.

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[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:
The question poised was: “how do I get guys to want to sleep with me?”
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See, and I think she’s not looking for answers on how to get fucked, I think she’s looking for answers on how to attract a man who wants to be with her. Sure, if she got fake tits and dolled up real slutty like and dyed her hair she would get some sexual interest, but would that help her attain the relationship she was talking about earlier, going for walks in the park and the zoo and looking at dinosaurs and shit? Is she going to have to churn through some more dudes who just want to get laid in order to find that special guy?

Is she going to have to play that numbers game? Is she stuck in a rut waiting and hoping for that one disneyfied prince charming motherfucker to show up in her life and sweep her off her feet? Does she realize that you can endeavour to be the best you you can be without losing who you are? Does she realize the difference between dressing to look good and show off your assets, and dressing to look like you want your asshole stuffed in the nearest bathroom? Am I capable of actually providing advice and not just asking questions?

I don’t know if any of this makes sense or is helpful or whatever, I’m pretty tired right now, all I know is that if this was just about getting guys to want to fuck her and her getting laid I’d be seriously considering making that drive this weekend (I’ll probably be going halfway there anyways) but I don’t believe right now that meaningless sex will help her mentally or emotionally or whatever and I wish I had more to offer in terms of real advice but really, I have less game than a homeless person, I got nothin.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:
It has nothing to do with being nice.

It’s the part where they’re parroting and reinforcing your views of the situation (i.e, “I don’t have to change, I just need to be more confident and people will like me how I am”), views that are counterproductive to the actual goal [of getting men].[/quote]

There is a difference between recognizing that you are indeed, enough, and not selling yourself short and insisting that you are enough when you are really not.

Not too long ago she described herself as “uggo” and she has let men walk all over her.

I have seen women far less attractive than her that think they are the bees knees.

So in this case it is not about reinforcing her beliefs, because she does not hold them, actually she is told that her beliefs are wrong.

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Hey Spock,

I haven’t read through all of the 10 pages, but my 2 cents:

-Be direct and honest: “Hi, I’m not really good at this but…wanna grab a coffee sometime?”

-Look for guys in similar social circles: you’re not the only 20-something with kids… the “nerd” thing should work in your favor.

-Expect the awkward: There is a heck of a lot more awkward silliness in dating than is seen in the movies/etc. You will be awkward and weird… so will he.

-Expect rejection and don’t let it destroy you: I’ve seen a lot of guys who get destroyed when they finally ask a woman out and she says no… try not to do that.

-Let your friends hook you up: This is connected to the “social circles” advice…Tell your girlfriends that you are shy and looking to date. Let them look around for you. Make sure they tell the potential guy that you are super shy.

-Use the internet (carefully): Tons of people find others on the internet these days. Match.com, etc. Go on some dates and set expectations low… maybe “looking for a friend and maybe more” or something like that. Stay public for awhile until you know the guy. BE HONEST. “I’m a shy, nerdy mother looking to date a nerdy guy who can help me get past the awkward or just be awkward with me.”

eh, my 2 cents. good luck. Dating sucks when you’re not just out for sex.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
Just walk up and say “I want your penis.” and then walk away.

Works every time. [/quote]

Yes, encourage her to take more random cock,That will fix her issue of never finding a fulfilling relationship.
Option 1) Casual sex annually
Option 2) see if Dr.Phil would even attempt to help this single Mom with Peter Pan Syndrome to break out of her fantasy world long enough to be in a real life adult relationship.

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[quote]K.F.P wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
Just walk up and say “I want your penis.” and then walk away.

Works every time. [/quote]

Yes, encourage her to take more random cock,That will fix her issue of never finding a fulfilling relationship.
Option 1) Casual sex annually
Option 2) see if Dr.Phil would even attempt to help this single Mom with Peter Pan Syndrome to break out of her fantasy world long enough to be in a real life adult relationship.
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I’m pretty sure Jen knows me well enough to know I’m joking. I thought that would be pretty obvious, in general.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]K.F.P wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
Just walk up and say “I want your penis.” and then walk away.

Works every time. [/quote]

Yes, encourage her to take more random cock,That will fix her issue of never finding a fulfilling relationship.
Option 1) Casual sex annually
Option 2) see if Dr.Phil would even attempt to help this single Mom with Peter Pan Syndrome to break out of her fantasy world long enough to be in a real life adult relationship.
[/quote]

I’m pretty sure Jen knows me well enough to know I’m joking. I thought that would be pretty obvious, in general. [/quote]
Not to 4 posts in 2 years Kenny Fucking Powers it wasn’t.

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WOW POWERPUFF!! That’s for all of the information, you’re a wonderful gal.

I’m proud to have women like you and Emily as part of my gender.

I also need to stop shopping with my mommy cause she tells me to buy everything huge…

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]K.F.P wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
Just walk up and say “I want your penis.” and then walk away.

Works every time. [/quote]

Yes, encourage her to take more random cock,That will fix her issue of never finding a fulfilling relationship.
Option 1) Casual sex annually
Option 2) see if Dr.Phil would even attempt to help this single Mom with Peter Pan Syndrome to break out of her fantasy world long enough to be in a real life adult relationship.
[/quote]

I’m pretty sure Jen knows me well enough to know I’m joking. I thought that would be pretty obvious, in general. [/quote]
Not to 4 posts in 2 years Kenny Fucking Powers it wasn’t.[/quote]

hahahhah it’s okay Beth, I was catchin’ what you were throwin’.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]K.F.P wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
Just walk up and say “I want your penis.” and then walk away.

Works every time. [/quote]

Yes, encourage her to take more random cock,That will fix her issue of never finding a fulfilling relationship.
Option 1) Casual sex annually
Option 2) see if Dr.Phil would even attempt to help this single Mom with Peter Pan Syndrome to break out of her fantasy world long enough to be in a real life adult relationship.
[/quote]

I’m pretty sure Jen knows me well enough to know I’m joking. I thought that would be pretty obvious, in general. [/quote]
Not to 4 posts in 2 years Kenny Fucking Powers it wasn’t.[/quote]

hahahhah it’s okay Beth, I was catchin’ what you were throwin’.[/quote]

Pickin’ up what you’re puttin’ down

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[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]Bauber wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Spock - You are adorable, and you have a cute personality and sense of humor to boot. A lot of the things you think about yourself are turned upside down.

[etc.]
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Great post.[/quote]

x2[/quote]

X3. If you were not a thousand miles away, I would definitely take you out on a date and wear my TMNT shirt. Just saying.[/quote]

X4. Home run. Out of the park.
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Thank you.

<---------- Apparently rocks at giving a boat load of unsolicited advice to people I barely know on the internet. I’m pretty sure this is something I should not brag about. :slight_smile:

Spock, look at how many people responded to this thread. And look at how many people like to read your log. You come off as cute, and quirky, and some of your self-deprecating humor and honesty make you sound very sweet and likeable. And yes, neurotic as hell. :slight_smile:

You’ve heard some of this stuff from me before. For people with extreme shyness or social anxiety, there’s often a lot of skewed perceptions in the way they view themselves, or in the way they think others view them. Figuring out how to get that personality of yours to come out in your real life shouldn’t be so hard. It’s already there.

A lot of people have given you good advice about trying to get out there in places where you can meet people. My friend who wears a prosthesis because she lost a leg to childhood bone cancer just met her fiance in-----get this----a rock climbing class. Yeah, I think she blew him away with her courage. Lots of people meet someone in a church group for singles, and so forth. Getting out there where you are forcing yourself to be in social situations.

There are probably even youtube videos on coping with shyness or social anxiety. Start learning everything you can, and tackle it. Develop a plan. I recall Jake recently had a thread about how he was trying to meet women. Here’s a handsome guy with a Ph.D. and a great job, and struggling with some similar issues, and he’s dealing with it instead of hoping it will just somehow go away on it’s own. Be that girl.

About skewed perceptions -

Being short - It’s almost NEVER a deal for women. I’ll bet there isn’t a man on here who wouldn’t date a petite chick who was cute and super nice.

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[quote]Spock81 wrote:
WOW POWERPUFF!! That’s for all of the information, you’re a wonderful gal.

I’m proud to have women like you and Emily as part of my gender.

I also need to stop shopping with my mommy cause she tells me to buy everything huge…[/quote]

You bet. And thanks for the kind words, Spock. Back at ya.

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[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Being short - It’s almost NEVER a deal for women. I’ll bet there isn’t a man on here who wouldn’t date a petite chick who was cute and super nice.
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It definitely opens up options as far as footwear is concerned.

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[quote]LoRez wrote:

[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
Being short - It’s almost NEVER a deal for women. I’ll bet there isn’t a man on here who wouldn’t date a petite chick who was cute and super nice.
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It definitely opens up options as far as footwear is concerned.[/quote]

Don’t provoke the shoe fetish that nearly all women succumb to.

Seriously, women can have over 50 pairs of shoes while only having 2 feet, along with her man whose wallet looks like a starved chicken paying for all those shoes.