Yesterday instead of avoiding eye contact I actually looked at this cute little electrician dude that came into work to fix some panels of some sort.
He signed in and when he came to sign out I had to turn on the fan because I was starting to get red and sweaty.
A week ago I would have been too scared to even look and him and I wouldn’t have realized he was cute and the fan would have stayed off.
That was my baby step.
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Every win is a step in the right direction, no matter the size.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
It has nothing to do with being nice.
It’s the part where they’re parroting and reinforcing your views of the situation (i.e, “I don’t have to change, I just need to be more confident and people will like me how I am”), views that are counterproductive to the actual goal [of getting men].[/quote]
I don’t think Spock needs to make drastic changes to her appearance. She does need to change bait or fish in different waters if she wants to meet someone of substance.[/quote]
I agree there’s no need for drastic changes.
However, almost everyone in their own way has said “changes to your appearance” is the cornerstone for attracting men.
Clearly preferences differ, but “hair, makeup, more form-fitting clothes” have been recurring themes. Enhance/show off what you have to offer to men. Use sexuality/sensuality/womanlineness to lure them in. You don’t have to go to extremes.
Once there’s several men to choose from, pick based on quality, not availability. Some will be into you for your personality and who you are, some won’t. But for now, you need to get to a point where you’re being regularly approached by men in the first place.
Sexual attractiveness and proximity are going to be the basis for that.
Yesterday instead of avoiding eye contact I actually looked at this cute little electrician dude that came into work to fix some panels of some sort.
He signed in and when he came to sign out I had to turn on the fan because I was starting to get red and sweaty.
A week ago I would have been too scared to even look and him and I wouldn’t have realized he was cute and the fan would have stayed off.
That was my baby step.
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Half the problem with the advice you’re getting on this thread is summed up here. You’re not confident, and yet I’ve probably read 10-12 different guys telling you how confident you are. By running away, refusing to talk to guys, and basically all the acctivities that your painful shyness causes you to undertake when around men you’re showing us that you’re not interested in talking to us. Violently not interested in talking to us.
Yesterday instead of avoiding eye contact I actually looked at this cute little electrician dude that came into work to fix some panels of some sort.
He signed in and when he came to sign out I had to turn on the fan because I was starting to get red and sweaty.
A week ago I would have been too scared to even look and him and I wouldn’t have realized he was cute and the fan would have stayed off.
That was my baby step.
[/quote]
Half the problem with the advice you’re getting on this thread is summed up here. You’re not confident, and yet I’ve probably read 10-12 different guys telling you how confident you are. By running away, refusing to talk to guys, and basically all the acctivities that your painful shyness causes you to undertake when around men you’re showing us that you’re not interested in talking to us. Violently not interested in talking to us.[/quote]
Excuse me.
Did not run away.
Talked to and turned on the fan is what I did.
Yesterday instead of avoiding eye contact I actually looked at this cute little electrician dude that came into work to fix some panels of some sort.
He signed in and when he came to sign out I had to turn on the fan because I was starting to get red and sweaty.
A week ago I would have been too scared to even look and him and I wouldn’t have realized he was cute and the fan would have stayed off.
That was my baby step.
[/quote]
Half the problem with the advice you’re getting on this thread is summed up here. You’re not confident, and yet I’ve probably read 10-12 different guys telling you how confident you are. By running away, refusing to talk to guys, and basically all the acctivities that your painful shyness causes you to undertake when around men you’re showing us that you’re not interested in talking to us. Violently not interested in talking to us.[/quote]
Excuse me.
Did not run away.
Talked to and turned on the fan is what I did.
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I didn’t realize just how shy you are with men Spock. That was a good baby step.
Yesterday instead of avoiding eye contact I actually looked at this cute little electrician dude that came into work to fix some panels of some sort.
He signed in and when he came to sign out I had to turn on the fan because I was starting to get red and sweaty.
A week ago I would have been too scared to even look and him and I wouldn’t have realized he was cute and the fan would have stayed off.
That was my baby step.
[/quote]
Half the problem with the advice you’re getting on this thread is summed up here. You’re not confident, and yet I’ve probably read 10-12 different guys telling you how confident you are. By running away, refusing to talk to guys, and basically all the acctivities that your painful shyness causes you to undertake when around men you’re showing us that you’re not interested in talking to us. Violently not interested in talking to us.[/quote]
Excuse me.
Did not run away.
Talked to and turned on the fan is what I did.
[/quote]
I didn’t realize just how shy you are with men Spock. That was a good baby step.[/quote]
It was indeed an excellent baby step and I’m thrilled she took it. Remember guys bigger boobs, tighter clothes, etc aren’t going to help if she can’t talk to guys who approach her. From what I’ve seen her general idea of flirting is to avoid eye contact, or physical contact, or conversation, and quietly create a disneyesque fantasy of her and the guy in her head for about a year until he finally does something to shatter it.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
“daddy, what does it mean to be white knighted”?
dad pulls up this thread and shows son[/quote]
Son becomes misinformed and confused lol. Did this happen to you?[/quote]
yes, clearly I was so off base that you didn’t even feel the need to acknowledge it.
denial[/quote]
That doesn’t make any sense, but regardless…
Look man I’m like TNation’s resident white knight, and I just want you to know you are misusing the term. You must have dropped out of 4chan 101 or something. Do your homework; learn the internet![/quote]
YOU need to do MORE homework homie…
I went to Urban Dictionary to check it out first before posting…the 5th description says;
“5. White Knight
Got some girls being butt-hurt? Got some white teenaged males with nothing to do?”
100% on the button no questions asked hand down…ok maybe you guys aren’t teeenagers (some)…and I guess Spar4tree is black (yea I said it) so there’s that too, but I digress.
so please, go on about how I am misusing the term…or admit denial, take your pick.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
so please, go on about how I am misusing the term.
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There is some happening now, but there really wasn’t when you posted first. Even orion said you were misclassifying. Everyone else agreed. Maybe you’re like a time traveler and you saw this thread in the future, but you have trouble distinguishing between past, present, and future.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
or admit denial, take your pick.
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[quote]csulli wrote:
Look man I’m like TNation’s resident white knight…
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You also have an interesting definition of denial. I’m not sure you understand how words work lol.
Don’t worry about it dawg; you’re just on a different wavelength or somethin.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
so please, go on about how I am misusing the term.
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There is some happening now, but there really wasn’t when you posted first. Even orion said you were misclassifying. Everyone else agreed. Maybe you’re like a time traveler and you saw this thread in the future, but you have trouble distinguishing between past, present, and future.
[quote]carbiduis wrote:
or admit denial, take your pick.
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[quote]csulli wrote:
Look man I’m like TNation’s resident white knight…
[/quote]
You also have an interesting definition of denial. I’m not sure you understand how words work lol.
Don’t worry about it dawg; you’re just on a different wavelength or somethin.[/quote]
I mean, had he said that we were pathethic, alright, but resent the misuse of technical terms.
