Taken out of context that sounds terrible haha.
This applies to both of us, we give eachother plenty of space, and have rule about never raising our voices at eachother. In 8 years neither one of us have ever yelled at the other. Not that were argument free, but we choose to keep them calm, is my point.
I get the feeling that this thread was for the op to opnely complain/vent about this (understandably frustrating) and not to actually gather useful feedback
True. But weāre all raging narcissists and we ALWAYS make other peopleās shit about ourselves ā¦ what are you, new?
I donāt think anyone is saying ādonāt use the internet,ā excepting the OP who asked āwhere else?ā The other suggestions are the āwhere elseā?
Also, itās pretty easy to focus age groups (and, by default, increase the number of singles). Every house of worship has the āBible study for young singlesā (or some equivalent). I had a buddy who went searching for a āBaptist babe in a tight sweater with a bible coverā and found his wife.
Every āyoung profession Xā group is between 21 and below 40.
In seriousness, the most serious quality people Iāve met in a group, excepting certain combat units, has been the gym at 6:00 am. Itās people with dedication ā and a job.
Edit: I would add that a crossfit gym is ideal because of the social aspect.
I think meeting mature people is simply a matter of luck. I donāt think it had anything to do with education, class, or profession. Iāve met mature poor or previously poor people and Iāve met well-to-do people who act like children, literally! Come to think of it, the most immature, lazy, scatter-brained and babyish person Iāve ever dealt with was a former close āfriendā worth several million dollars by his thirties (having a rich and powerful parent helped with this though).
I agree, but you can find the people to date in person at dating sites. You donāt talk with them through IM and then get married, you have a couple of exchanges and then meet in a public place for coffee or lunch or whatever, and from there get to know one another.
I live in an area with low population density and donāt go to bars. Work is not a good place for me to meet people, and when I used a gym I went there early in the morning to work out, not to socialize. I didnāt see a ton of people there when I was going, but when there were men there (and I was single at that time, actually) I was not tuned into their marital status, and probably didnāt really look at them at all. Becauseā¦
ā¦I had to go to work.
Iām not sure what the point was, but the OP doesnāt appear to even be reading. Luckily
So it doesnāt matter.
We donāt need the OP to continue the discussion, clearlyā¦
We donāt even know what she meant by āmore mature peopleā and it doesnāt seem like we care!
Aside from online dating and the workplace, out of all the places Iāve frequented Iāve met the most high quality people in jiu jitsu class and volunteering. Next up would be the upscale bar I bounced at. Then the dive bar I bounced at. Gym comes dead last, but perhaps Iāve lifted with a disproportionate number of weirdos and unbalanced individuals.
People travel and act in herds based on common interests.
One time my family decided to go to the local science center the day after Thanksgiving thinking it would be empty, only to find the 50 thousand other people that thought the same thing.
Honesty! Insight. Applause, applause.
disclaimer: lots of good, on topic posts in this thread
OMG, it took reading that to remember that I met my first husband at the gym! I sold him a membership.
I shouldnāt have. He was weird and unbalanced. I guess thatās why I stopped making eye contact with people at the gym, lol.
Oh for sure ā¦ but there are a lot of (usually interesting) tangents, side bars, etc ā¦ to me, it adds to the charm usually and keeps me coming back.
I believe threads pertaining to romance (and jobs and politics) take on a narcissistic flavor is because they allow for people to show their competence, attractiveness, and morality. On other boards on which I only lurk here and there, it seems that every other poster knows everything, pulls or pulled in a minimum of 250k per year, has to fight women off with a stick, retired or will retire in their 40s, has no debt, is more moral and tolerant than your average bigot, and so on.
Ever notice people will divulge near entire life stories but never mention the times they got rejected by women, took a beating by another man, lost a job, were dissed, etc?
I think thatās your bias, though. Why would I post to a thread about earning more with āmy income is stagnantā? A lot of people complain about the deceptiveness of Facebook - āOh, sure, everyoneās lives are PERFECT but mine!ā - but I donāt see it that way. Do we expect a woman who drank too much last night and wound up fighting with her husband until 3 am to wake up all bleary and bloodshot and take a selfie to post? No, that would be silly. She posts the photos sheās pleased with; not to shame others or pretend life is perfect, but because thatās the stuff she wants to share. āI loved my vacation, here is a selfie of us on the best day ever!ā
In this thread the question was asked āhow do I meet peopleā and the answers are basically āhereās what worked for me.ā Should we offer a disclaimer with each positive post that āI suck, you should know that I havenāt earned the right to advise anyoneā?
I think most people assume that. Who has not been helpless or degraded? Which of us has not earned disrespect at one time or another? I think most of the people youāre talking about would probably engage just as freely in a thread entitled āHave you ever fucked things right up?ā or āEver been a fool for love?ā
It is.
Am I doing something wrong here? Iām open to other suggestions. Tennis racket? Hard foam roller?
I know one that did, on numerous occasions. She was playing a failed strategy of taking herself hostage and wrecking herself with booze and drugs in order to show everybody that āall of that stuff you hear about me is bullshitā.
Literal lulz. 