I’ve been really stressed out lately and to be honest I’ve been feeling a little depressed. Not depressed like those people who need medication and a trip to the crazy house, but just a case of the blues.
I was recently in a car accident, totalled my car and that basically ruined a lot of things. Nobody was injured, but without a car life is difficult.
I need my parents to drive me to school and work. They don’t have the time to drive me to the gym so I haven’t worked out much this week, only once on Sunday. I haven’t missed a workout in such a long time so I’m hurting because of that.
When I try to train at home I lose my motivation quickly, and I’ve been lacking sleep so I’m tired, I’m also very easily angered. Fuck. I’m dieing to workout, but I can’t. I injured my lower back deadlifting 2 weeks ago. Did heavy rack pulls the day after my accident about a week ago and now my lower back is worse than it was, so over head pressing and deadlifts are out of the question.
What I’m really looking for is how do you guys pick yourselves up when you feel like pure shit. I hate feeling sorry for myself too, it’s not healthy, but I can’t seem to help it and let things go.
Not having a car has made life so difficult I really should stop taking shit for granted. I also have such a problem with taking time off working out, but I figured I’d take off til monday and pick it back up from there, what do you think? Any help would be great.
I think the best thing to do is to stay the course, let your body heal, and pick up where you left off when your body allows you to.
I’m certainly no Doctor, but make sure your mild form of depression is just the Blues; clinical depression can wreak havoc on you.
I’m sorry to hear about your car and the subsequent injury. Take it from an old guy - there will be more low points along the road. Learn from this one and you’ll be quicker to rebound in the future.
Perhaps this little set-back is a gift. You’ll soon heal, you’ll have a car again, and you’ll be effin’ FIRED UP to train like never before. Everyone has down-time. It takes real character to use that time wisely.
I’ve had so many setbacks in my 46 years (2 knee surgeries, chronic bursitis in shoulder, rotator cuff issues, torn right bicep, chronic bursitis in my left brachia, chronic low-back pain, and recently 6 months of tendinitis in both knees and elbows), but I’m still here happily enjoying a full life which includes training.
The gym shouldn’t be your EVERYTHING. But when you’re there, you give it everything. Now do the same with this down-time. Find things that make you happy.
As much as I hate running, whenever I have times like you’re in I find a solid run outside at night, when it’s just quiet and all I can hear is the voice in my head and my feet on the pavement, is the best thing in the world.
Take this weekend to relax, maybe go get a massage, eat some good food(sometimes your best growth is when you’re doing nothing, let your body heal up).
You can let stuff like this be depressing or you can let it make you stronger; you still have your parents there to help you through shit like this, so learn how to deal with it so when you’re on your own it’s all good and you don’t get down about it.
I was feeling the same recently dude my girl friend moved to uni i decided to train at her uni gym but its 30miles away so could only train fri,sat and sunday.I got kicked out me house and was desperately trying to find somewhere else to live i was very lonely.
But what you have got to remember is its not going to last forever.Let your injuries heal properly go to a new gym or get a new car or an arangement and come back stronger and better than ever.Let me know how you get on take it easy,think clearly,every thing will be fine
So… from what I get you feel both psychologically (relying on your parents in a way you didn’t have to before) and physically (not able to work out) disempowered. It’s very normal to feel depressed in this situation. Been there.
You are young. This is not an end all situation. You may feel like it is, but look at your goals for yourself, both in a short time and long time in the future, and try to figure out how you can deal with this situation and what you can learn to help you achieve these goals. If taking time off helps you… it’s OK. Don’t get caught up in doing everything perfectly this second.
Get enough SLEEP!!! Are you not sleeping because you don’t sleep when you get into bed, or because you don’t have the time?
Even if you can’t get to a gym, do what you can at home. Know you will feel better afterwards and predetermine a goal for each workout.
Get enough time outdoors. Get vitamin D from either the sun or a supplement.
Do you have friends you can talk to when you need to?
[quote]sluicy wrote:
Get enough time outdoors. Get vitamin D from either the sun or a supplement.
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I was going to say this. I noticed you’re in NY, where the weather has been cold and shitty, lately. I get that seasonal depression shit, and I started taking about 6000iu of vit-D/day for the past 5-6 days, and I’m already feeling way better.
[quote]rrjc5488 wrote:
sluicy wrote:
Get enough time outdoors. Get vitamin D from either the sun or a supplement.
I was going to say this. I noticed you’re in NY, where the weather has been cold and shitty, lately. I get that seasonal depression shit, and I started taking about 6000iu of vit-D/day for the past 5-6 days, and I’m already feeling way better.
Give it a shot.[/quote]
A few years ago I spent the winter in New Brunswick and had almost no time in the FREEZING COLD outdoors, except for runs, usually near frostbite, and didn’t take a Vit. D supplement. I was a wreck. Diet was fine, relationships were fine, but it was cold and gray all the time and I was miserable. People really underestimate seasonal depression.
When I spent a winter in NY it was the only time I tanned and after a time I really just went for how very calming it was to soak up some UV rays.
[quote]sluicy wrote:
rrjc5488 wrote:
sluicy wrote:
Get enough time outdoors. Get vitamin D from either the sun or a supplement.
When I spent a winter in NY it was the only time I tanned and after a time I really just went for how very calming it was to soak up some UV rays. [/quote]
Seriously sun/fake sun does WONDERS for me. Enough that my GF bought me a month of tanning and told me to go tan after the gym because I was being a grump all the time.
Consider that NOBODY on this planet, regardless of the myriad combinations of circumstances each of them are in, is truly unique.
What I am saying is that, no matter what, someone is out there with your EXACT circumstances and is/has pushed through ‘it’ and reached the next step.
That, to me, makes it possible to move forward; the fact that someone has either already done it or is currently doing it opens up that door of possible success as lighting an unseen path that is guaranteed to take you from A to B.
Go read the Mad Man on the Couch thread. I posted something I had gone through last spring, and believe me I even failed several classes due to the time off from school I had to take. I pushed through it, I moved on.
You are not being ‘weak.’ Feeling overwhelmed is natural, but resigning yourself to a fate of being ‘stuck’ is a trait that will always work against you. There is always a way out.
