It all depends on how well you get along with your parents. I first moved out when I was 21, but moved back home on two separate occasions. The first time was because I went back to school and the second time was because I got really sick and basically needed someone to take care of me. I got some pretty helpful parents, but I always paid rent when I moved back home and did a lot of work around the house, even cooked dinners sometimes. I always took the dogs for walks and fed them too. If you are doing your part around the house it shouldn’t be a problem.
The only real problem is girls. I was always really hesitant on bringing girls back to my parents place unless I was really serious about them. If you can find a girl who lives out on her own then this shouldn’t be a problem though.
I moved out at 18, once college started.
When I turned 18, I was given three choices. In 6 months: 1) join the military, 2) go to college, 3) find a job and my own place. There was no option to stay at home. When I left college a few years later, I lived at home for about a month before moving into my own place.
Figuring out how to make it on your own is an important experience. You have it easier than I did, and I had it easier than a lot of these other posters. Nevertheless, what you learn in that process, the good and the bad, will help you grow as a person.
Now, from a financial standpoint, it does makes sense to stay home, pay off your loans, then move out… but I’d still move out ASAP.
You need to know how to do this on your own.
[quote]StevenF wrote:
stay as long as they’ll let you and save as much money as you can. [/quote]
I agree with this. Stay as long as you can and get financially righted with money saved if possible. The real world can suck.
18, I moved five and half thousand miles away and got married. Best decision I ever made honestly.
Lol Im similar situation OP except Im making 50k and no rent lol( i told them I’d pay they said nope…). Fuck these guys, if you were a dropout/slacker/etc I get what these guys are telling you(me coincidentally) but were not so fuck it. Id let my kid stay free as long as he was progressing in life.
Besides that extra spending money is nice for buying mah Trenbolone.
cough
[quote]optheta wrote:
Lol Im similar situation OP except Im making 50k and no rent lol( i told them I’d pay they said nope…). Fuck these guys, if you were a dropout/slacker/etc I get what these guys are telling you(me coincidentally) but were not so fuck it. [/quote]
What do you mean by that?
I was making 65k at 24, 80k by 26, so I’m not sure how that advice really applies to “dropout/slackers/etc”.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]optheta wrote:
Lol Im similar situation OP except Im making 50k and no rent lol( i told them I’d pay they said nope…). Fuck these guys, if you were a dropout/slacker/etc I get what these guys are telling you(me coincidentally) but were not so fuck it. [/quote]
What do you mean by that?
I was making 65k at 24, 80k by 26, so I’m not sure how that advice really applies to “dropout/slackers/etc”.[/quote]
I think the term burnout would’ve been more appropriate than dropout. Would you consider what you were doing during that period slacking?
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]optheta wrote:
Lol Im similar situation OP except Im making 50k and no rent lol( i told them I’d pay they said nope…). Fuck these guys, if you were a dropout/slacker/etc I get what these guys are telling you(me coincidentally) but were not so fuck it. [/quote]
What do you mean by that?
I was making 65k at 24, 80k by 26, so I’m not sure how that advice really applies to “dropout/slackers/etc”.[/quote]
I think the term burnout would’ve been more appropriate than dropout. Would you consider what you were doing during that period slacking?[/quote]
I don’t follow.
I had a lot of mental energy and I wanted to get out and do stuff with it. College was holding me back. I had several meetings with advisors and professors trying to convince them to let me take more classes or at least let me take my current classes at an accelerated rate. No go.
So I sort of said fuck that, I can do better than this. Dropped out with a 3.8 GPA and straight As. Lived at home for a month, worked as a cashier part time while spending the rest of my day searching for software positions and working what little network I had back then. Landed a job at a small software house, making almost no money at first (13/hr around 16 when I left), but I used that job for experience and connections.
Then put it all on the line again and moved 500 miles away for a better job which more than doubled my salary. And so on and so forth.
It’s only now I’m starting to get burned out.
I suppose that doesn’t answer the question directly, but maybe fills in a few gaps.
My only sorta-regret is that I should have moved to a different city immediately after college instead of where my parents were. There just weren’t enough opportunities.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]optheta wrote:
Lol Im similar situation OP except Im making 50k and no rent lol( i told them I’d pay they said nope…). Fuck these guys, if you were a dropout/slacker/etc I get what these guys are telling you(me coincidentally) but were not so fuck it. [/quote]
What do you mean by that?
I was making 65k at 24, 80k by 26, so I’m not sure how that advice really applies to “dropout/slackers/etc”.[/quote]
I think the term burnout would’ve been more appropriate than dropout. Would you consider what you were doing during that period slacking?[/quote]
I don’t follow.
I had a lot of mental energy and I wanted to get out and do stuff with it. College was holding me back. I had several meetings with advisors and professors trying to convince them to let me take more classes or at least let me take my current classes at an accelerated rate. No go.
So I sort of said fuck that, I can do better than this. Dropped out with a 3.8 GPA and straight As. Lived at home for a month, worked as a cashier part time while spending the rest of my day searching for software positions and working what little network I had back then. Landed a job at a small software house, making almost no money at first (13/hr around 16 when I left), but I used that job for experience and connections.
Then put it all on the line again and moved 500 miles away for a better job which more than doubled my salary. And so on and so forth.
It’s only now I’m starting to get burned out.
I suppose that doesn’t answer the question directly, but maybe fills in a few gaps.
My only sorta-regret is that I should have moved to a different city immediately after college instead of where my parents were. There just weren’t enough opportunities.[/quote]
What didn’t you follow? You just answered my question lol. I wasn’t calling you a burnout if that’s what you thought. That’s pretty cool though, man.
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
What didn’t you follow? You just answered my question lol. I wasn’t calling you a burnout if that’s what you thought. That’s pretty cool though, man.[/quote]
Oh, I know you weren’t calling me a burnout. I just wasn’t sure what exactly you were asking. At least I somehow answered it though, shotgunning the answer, lol.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]spar4tee wrote:
What didn’t you follow? You just answered my question lol. I wasn’t calling you a burnout if that’s what you thought. That’s pretty cool though, man.[/quote]
Oh, I know you weren’t calling me a burnout. I just wasn’t sure what exactly you were asking. At least I somehow answered it though, shotgunning the answer, lol.[/quote]
Ah I see. I misinterpreted your post this morning.
This is the worst place to ask this question. because you are going to get a whole lot of biased answers with a few logical ones. The simple answer is to do whatever the hell you want to do. If you’re happy then stay, if not, try living on your own. It is no more complicated than that. People want to place mystical meaning to moving out “on your own” and being a man. Whatever.
The best advice I saw was to pay off all of your debt and get some investment property… I would do that if I were you.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
I moved out at 18, once college started.
When I turned 18, I was given three choices. In 6 months: 1) join the military, 2) go to college, 3) find a job and my own place. There was no option to stay at home. When I left college a few years later, I lived at home for about a month before moving into my own place.
Figuring out how to make it on your own is an important experience. You have it easier than I did, and I had it easier than a lot of these other posters. Nevertheless, what you learn in that process, the good and the bad, will help you grow as a person.
Now, from a financial standpoint, it does makes sense to stay home, pay off your loans, then move out… but I’d still move out ASAP.
You need to know how to do this on your own.[/quote]
Would get the degree…
People are weird that way.
[quote]orion wrote:
Would get the degree…
People are weird that way. [/quote]
Thanks for the reminder. I need to look back into that.
It’s not been a priority (or a necessity) for the past several years, but it probably will become one in the next 5 or so.
[quote]LoRez wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
Would get the degree…
People are weird that way. [/quote]
Thanks for the reminder. I need to look back into that.
It’s not been a priority (or a necessity) for the past several years, but it probably will become one in the next 5 or so.[/quote]
If you have your shit together its a “cut down on bullshit device”.
No more, but no less.