So I’ve noticed that trying to be healthy and staying in good shape one most make certain priorities. Most people don’t give two shits about what type of food they eat or think about their training as a priority. Sometimes it seems like I alienate my-self to achieve goals, not that I really care because I like this life-style but sometimes it gets annoying when people make their stupid comments. Perhaps today my friend went up to a carnival and I didn’t really feel like going because there’s going to be shitty food and plain and simple I wasn’t interested, I’ll simply rather stay home making some food for the week and resting. My aunt came home and asked me why I didn’t go…in the end she calls me an “alien”. Little things like that just make me rip heads off!!. Most of the time it’s easy to brush off but sometimes it gets old, specially from someone like your own aunt.
I wish I could live by my self and have friends that had the same goals and priorities as me. To be “normal” these days is to go out every weekend and get pissed drunk then head to McDonald’s and stuff your face with fries and milk-shakes. It pisses me off that people are less “socially successful” because they have a better mind set and higher goals than the “average” I don’t want to be fucking average and every time I hear stupid comments like the one above from the fat out of shape average person all I want to say is…I DON’T WANT TO BE A FAT LAZY FUCK WHO HAS SUCH WEAK MIND-SET TO NOT BE ABLE TO STICK TO MY GOALS. Most of these people try to diet and fail miserably because they don’t have the mental strength to make improvements. They just don’t understand that this is a life-style, not some kind of 2 week plan…IDIOTS.
Don’t get too bent out of shape about it but maybe you should start cultivating new friends. In the meantime, don’t alienate your old ones. If they are good friends, they will have your back regardless or your lifestyle choices.
You appear to be fairly young. I’ve no doubt that is part of it. Very few of my friends live the same lifestyle I do. However, they are mature enough to think my choices are cool and I’m mature enough not to browbeat them about theirs. Don’t be afraid to compromise from time to time.
If you are too rigid, you could pull a groin Go to the fair. Just don’t eat the crap. If I go to a bar with a friend, I drink tea. People kid me about it, but really, no one cares. Wait a few years and it may be easier.
[quote]ronaldo7 wrote:
My aunt comes home and asked me why I didn’t go…in the end she calls me an “allien”. LIttle things like that just make me rip heads off!!. Most of the time it’s easy to brush off but sometimes it gets old, specially from someone like your own aunt.
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Perhaps you should kill them.
But, don’t get caught. Because then you’ll get thrown in jail and have to shower surrounded by folks who want to goat fuck you in ‘teh pooper’.
Then, you’ll wish you didn’t wish those nasty little things you wished and that you learned to just ignore folks who annoy you (and that you learned to spell better). A life sentence in a little cell and getting gang goat fucked everyday makes for a long time to regret not learning to spell better.
Unless of course you like to receive goat fucking by prisoners. Then, it was all worth it.
Oh, these are the kind of people I like to surround myself with:
Yeah I’ve really been noticing this in my circle, they just don’t get it. They always go a long the lines of but just one wont hurt but then they have another ‘one’ then another ‘one’.
they are happy in their ways, and I’m happy with my way. They give me shit for not eating starch filled foods or not getting pissy drunk like i have for the previous 2 years. And just for the record since may i’ve only had one night out (drinking) and had a six pack and called it a night.
The biggest thing is i looked at something and go will this bring me one step closer to my goal? or take me one step back? They don’t think like that and it’s kinda sad at times cause they are good and loyal it’s just a few of them are on their way to getting diabetes.
[quote]ronaldo7 wrote:
Sometimes it seems like I alienate my-self to achieve goals,[/quote]
I think you’ll find that most people that take this seriously, do.
You should learn not to care. Those people won’t ever get it and they’ll suck the life out of you. Also, stop caring about what other people say. If you spend your time worrying about what everyone else is saying, you’ll be miserable.
Do your own thang and who cares what anyone else says or does.
To this day I am greatful that I chose the life style I did. You to will smilie all your live long days. This is for life, not just a moment in time. The rewards are unbelievable, so never give in and never look back. It is good, this thing you do!
If you are having a hard time with social acceptance, change who you socialize with. Surround yourself with people who share similar goals and achievements.
You will have better luck going with the flow when the flow is going where you want to be.
I find an easy way to be able to go out with my friends and have a good time without anyone hassling me is to volunteer to be the DD. Then no one cares that I don’t drink lol.
I do understand your desire to find some people to be around that share similar goals though.
[quote]streamline wrote:
To this day I am greatful that I chose the life style I did. You to will smilie all your live long days. This is for life, not just a moment in time. The rewards are unbelievable, so never give in and never look back. It is good, this thing you do! [/quote]
Well, for a while the people I was around gave me hell for the lifestyle.
Then you learn to make it truly a part of your lifestyle, and they accept it.
When you go out to eat, you order a salad with beef so you can get your protein, fats, and veggies. When you go out, you be designated driver–your friends will love you for it. When they look like shit at the pool, you’ll look great–then they’ll definitely respect you.
Family will accept you after a while. If your friends aren’t total assholes, they’ll accept everything you do and won’t even take much notice of it. It’ll just be one of your “quirks” to them. Everyone is different in a group of friends.
They probably bust your balls since you make a big deal out of it. Once or twice a month I’ll eat at a restaurant or whatever that isn’t exactly ideal (and adjust my intake for the rest of the day accordingly) – it doesn’t make or break you. Live a little…
[quote]pachell wrote:
They probably bust your balls since you make a big deal out of it. Once or twice a month I’ll eat at a restaurant or whatever that isn’t exactly ideal (and adjust my intake for the rest of the day accordingly) – it doesn’t make or break you. Live a little…[/quote]
I don’t.
I live ALOT. Obviously I enjoy doing this so what do you mean by live a little?. Yes sometimes you can “live a little” as you say however that’s not what I’m getting at here. It’s the fact that some people don’t respect different choices.
They don’t have to eat what I eat or do what I do but at least they should shut up and not give me shit for MY choices. Like I said , most of the time it’s easy to brush off but it can get annoying.
[quote]ronaldo7 wrote:
pachell wrote:
They probably bust your balls since you make a big deal out of it. Once or twice a month I’ll eat at a restaurant or whatever that isn’t exactly ideal (and adjust my intake for the rest of the day accordingly) – it doesn’t make or break you. Live a little…
I don’t.
I live ALOT. Obviously I enjoy doing this so what do you mean by live a little?. Yes sometimes you can “live a little” as you say however that’s not what I’m getting at here.
It’s the fact that some people don’t respect different choices. They don’t have to eat what I eat or do what I do but at least they should shut up and not give me shit for MY choices. Like I said , most of the time it’s easy to brush off but it can get annoying.[/quote]
Oh, I thought you were extolling the virtues of bodybuilding, that’ll tick most people off (many people are envious of our strength/dedication/etc.).
I know what you mean about the lazy bastards though, they can be a pain in the ass. The course of least resistance usually works best, after time they’ll hopefully shut up.
Don’t let it get to you man, whenever you accomplish anything challenging, there will always be a host of people talking shit (actually strokes my ego most of the time). This is especially true with bodybuilding, something that takes years of hard work and discipline. That’s life.
Go to the fair. Just don’t eat the crap. If I go to a bar with a friend, I drink tea. People kid me about it, but really, no one cares. Wait a few years and it may be easier.