What to Do with My Life

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You’re what? 18? Dude, who gives a flying fuck about whatever relationship you’re in. There’s a strong possibility the girl already cheated on you a few times over and if not, stay with her long enough, eventually she’ll be like “well I’ve been with pushups since 18, is this it for me?”

This is why you don’t bother being in a relationship at all in your teens. You should be out there slaying as much ass as you can possibly slay until after 25, or if someone comes a long that you’re ready to impregnate and buy a house with.

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Listen to @atlas13, OP. Or any of the men who are (I believe) happily married with children. They made it this far.

@greenboy - Do you really think having sex with as many women as possible is ever a good solution? I’m not saying you can’t have sex with multiple people or that you need to stay with your high school girlfriend, but 1). I would disagree that we can assume she’s probably cheated multiple times, or even once and 2). What exactly does getting as much pussy as possible achieve? Genuinely curious to hear your thoughts.

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Oh I dunno satisfying that primal urge every single man has? Did you have to go on TRT or something? At 17 I had the desire to fuck almost every girl that walked by me that wasn’t fat.

It’s built into us to spread the seed. It’s instinctual. At a certain point that settles down somewhat or so they say.

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I’m 19. I have a pretty great sex life with my girlfriend, which is just to say that yes, I understand being young and horny. I constantly see girls I find attractive, but I do wonder if this:

is ever really good reasoning? I think a lot of people get a lot of urges that shouldn’t necessarily be carried out.

I dislike the way you approach subjects, dude. Take that as you will, but you first assumed I was a middle aged man who must’ve needed medical treatment for my assumed lack of libido (for which there is no reason to be ashamed of) and then used your logic that you seem to use for every discussion you get in, that you want to or have fucked any girl (under 35 I presume) you see.

Not every guy finds his pride in wanting to or having had sex with pretty women. Some dudes’ wives are not of super model caliber, yet they remain happy and content. Some dudes are single and don’t have much sex, but are also not incels or whatever the hell they’re called, they’re just good with whatever level they’re at. Some dudes even wish to remain virgins until they’re married, and then to only have sex with one woman for the rest of their life.

Everyone’s got different opinions, desires, and beliefs. You’re perfectly entitled to your’s, but the OP brought up a real problem for him. Whether or not it’s something he needs to worried about, everyone else gave advice regarding actually being in a relationship and how you deal with those struggles that almost every couple has. Just telling him that the “love of his life” has probably fucked 5 other guys so far and he should make the next few years of his life centered around chasing tail seems like something that one of his peers would tell him.

EDIT: Shoot, I’m actually 20, if that matters at all. My birthday was a couple weeks ago and it usually takes me 1-2 months to actually begin saying my correct age.

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Good thinking. The first time you want exposure to all the complexities of dealing with a relationship is when you are in your mid-to-late twenties. That’s definitely going to make you a great prospect to a potential mate.

If you are not careful, you’ll spend 10 years trying to work out how to be in a relationship and then what? You’ll be left with one of those run down looking woman in her 30s you keep talking about

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The way you present yourself online does you a massive, massive credit.

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You know, I was just thinking the same thing. @jshaving has become one of my favorite posters to read.

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Thanks @dagill2 & @EmilyQ ! First Flip, now you guys. I’m starting to feel pretty cool.

Honestly though, from what I can tell of your anonymous, online selves, I respect and like you guys, so I appreciate it.

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That’s understandable, I’m pretty awesome.

But in all seriousness, you’re right @EmilyQ is a awesome, definitely one of the posters I always sit up and take notice of.

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You’re only 20??? Wow! I think just set a new standard for maturity

Where are you going for uni? What are you studying?

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I go to Northern State University in South Dakota. Go Wolves!

It’s not an esteemed school at all, or one anybody not from the region has heard of. I’d thought about going to Notre Dame but NSU is cheap and close to family, which for me, is a bigger priority than the name of the school. Sometimes I do wish I’d see what a big one is like though.

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Long distance aint easy… How often do you see your gf?

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Cool! What are you studying?

Rankings are completely overrated. Even arbitrary factors such as yield rate and dorm quality that have nothing to do with the actual learning environment.

Again, maturity…

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The last time I saw her was 2 weeks ago, which was the first time in two months. Last year around this time before thanksgiving, it had been four months since I had seen her.

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Same. That’s why I go to UIC now. What are you majoring in?

I’ll be 19 next month. I’m majoring in electrical engineering.

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I’m not saying you’re wrong, completely, but this is debatable. Waiting does have it’s benefits.

The downside of getting into a relationship early is that it is a big distractor for other more important things you should be focusing on at that age. Also, if you don’t have a good relationship (which a majority are not) it can leave you jaded for a long time.

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Such hard hitting nuanced analysis like this is why i keep coming back. Great story GB … compelling and rich. Way to go slugger.

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Yeah, advice for the future: don’t tell your girlfriend you’re dying to fuck random women. Either break it off or don’t, but too much honesty is a thing. My long distance relationship in high school dragged into college and ended there because I broke it off due to exactly that reason. So many girls. Soooooooo many girls.

I also really regretted breaking it off, so there’s that.

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The best part of all this will be when she hits him up with “I’m seeing someone else”

lol

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During the summer before I started college when I was 18, I dated a girl who was going into her second year of college. I had very little experience with women, no experience living away from my parents, and had no real idea of what college would be like. The day before I left for college, I was still set on ‘making things work’ semi-long distance with the girlfriend at the time (not even that far, like 45 minutes away). We’d only been together for a few months, but at the time it seemed important to me. And I legitimately thought it would work.

The day I arrived at college and moved into my dorm room, I called the gf and broke up with her. I had zero intention of cheating, and knew there was also zero chance of being faithful in that environment. I did the right thing.

If you can look at the situation you’re in, and say ‘you know what? I can accept this level of temptation. I’m on a college campus full of beautiful women, but I love MY woman, and the temptation won’t get to me’, then stay with her. If you truly do love her, you’ll get through it.

If, however, you’re pretty sure want to to date other people, you should do that. You’re 20 years old. At most you’ve been dating for what… 5 years? You’ve got DECADES ahead of you, if you want, to try to replace whatever your current gf brings to your life. And you’ll live through those decades with much more understanding of yourself and what really makes you happy.

I think every young person should date around and figure out what really makes them happy. It’s very easy to settle early, because it’s hard to understand that there are likely better things out there. Sometimes the high school gf works out. But more often, staying with that girl will get you cheated on, and it will lead to a less successful relationship than what you could have had.

You’ve got big dreams, my man. Don’t get tied down until you’re absolutely, truly ready. You have NO moral or ethical commitment to stay in that relationship. So don’t stay out of obligation. Stay out of love if you need to, but only for that reason.

Anyway, good luck either way.

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