Are you still interested in him?
I am, but I also used to think he was sorta keen on me too, I don’t really sense that anymore. I’m not sure what happened. His text replies are now landlord texts and so are our conversations lol.
I’m sure people will still say hey go for it, be confident, but I don’t want to anymore. Its not very exciting when the flirting is all gone
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He pulled a reverse V trap.
The D trap!
Sonofabitch. I’m kinda envious of this guy in a respectful sort of way.
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I think he might be playing the “don’t shit where you sleep” card.
Maybe he started off thinking you were a good friend, then realized where it was going, and shut it down to prevent it from potentially causing problems in the future
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If he’s anything like the people on the left coast these days…
He’s probably afraid that you’re trying to set him up for a lawsuit, so he figured that porn and masturbation is a viable alternative to getting sued.
Crazy world we live in these days.
My $0.02
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You only have yourself to blame if you haven’t invited him over to take a deep dive into Jethro Tull’s sonic masterpiece, Thick as a Brick. I’m listening to it right now, imagining future female tenants I can ensnare in my web.
How? Easily.
Through our mutual appreciation of Jethro Tull’s artistic mastery.
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I stopped reading after this…jk, but it really is all that matters. We could come up with infinite hypotheticals how he is still into you, or how he’s not at all. Our brains can make up any story we want with limited information and fill in all the gaps where necessary. Only one way to truly find out if he’s into you.
The optimist in me can’t resist though…I’m willing to bet money he’ll say yes.
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Ain’t that the truth buddy!!
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Do You like Huey Lewis And The News!?!
Also- I like that whimsical mead and merriment sound, but then they jump abruptly down the Yessongs rabbit hole. It’s too transdimensional for me.
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I saw a ahem movie once, it went something like this:
“Landlord, I am late paying the rent this month and there is water in the bathroom, I think I need a new ballcock.”
It all goes very well from there.
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The optimist in me wants to agree with this and urge you to push it, but we’ve been here before, and so the optimist in me is wondering if you’ve gotten to a place where you can have a crush (@Spock81, not @jskrabac, lol), but then intuit “no” and simply move on without battering at yourself. At least it doesn’t sound like you’re battering at yourself, so I optimistically assume you’re in a better place than you ever have been and that’s really good.
Although I saw the puppy and make room for the possibility that you’re simply so smitten and exhausted, you don’t have the energy to express not being in a better place.
Spock, have you read @jskrabac’s thread about weird dating problems (was it “Keep Getting Friend Zoned”?)? Like you, he’s got an exceptional physique and is good looking, but was being treated like a player. Not exactly your problem, but still, maybe something close enough? He made changes and fixed it. You should check it out if you haven’t already.
Edit, here it is: The Anti-Friend Zone
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Give me your wife’s phone number right now. I’ve decided that since we’re colleagues, we should be collaborating. This can include the wine and food of friendship while also including the cognitive behavioral techniques of therapy – but now discussed in terms of efficacy rather than offered as strategies.
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My wife has learned never to use this phrase around me as it results in me baiting her into saying CBT and then days of me making Cock and Ball Torture “jokes”
Are you sure you want this? 
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Maybe I should wait until I’m eating normally again, now that you mention it. I’m cutting carbs.
Thanks for the shout out! Although I’m kinda embarrassed reading back over that and how much overthinking I was doing then…the very thing I accused everyone of doing in this thread That feels like another lifetime even though it was just January!
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