Whatever happened to “Would you like to meet for a coffee/coke and chat a bit?”
Direct, non threatening, very little commitment.
‘No.’ - move on.
‘Yes.’ - if you are both interested while chatting, it will go where it goes.
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Agreed, but neither is going into a caloric deficit to lose weight… yet we still see high obesity rates, even amongst those who have enough $$ to buy healthy food, join a gym and maybe even hire a trainer
From the other posts you’ve made, you come across as an extremely rational and self aware person. Not everyone is like that, especially when it comes to emotionally laden topics like asking someone out
it sells
Edit: I do agree with you though
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Oh yeah! They get real chatty after a couple of bumps!
(I know, that’s probably not what you meant)
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You know me - ol’ tooting treco. haha
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Bro, not everybody is jacked with golden luscious locks and a killer stache. Some of us out here just struggling to look like a normal human 
you’re experiences don’t count lol
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I was there. This must be considered.
I was a supervisor at a plant where I worked and in the downstairs office worked a secretary that I was highly attracted. She and I would flirt almost daily. I never knew exactly how she felt toward me, but I had a good idea. I never asked her out and really wanted to. Ultimately I never took the step because I didn’t want to deal with the potential problems should things go wrong.
Some time later I became engaged and subsequently in one of the conversations between the secretary and myself I informed her of my engagement. She appeared to be hurt. Her response hurt me too. She told me how she felt about me. It was a very sad period for me.
I often wonder to this day, “What if…” I had strong feelings for her.
As to my career, I retired from there after 41 years. It was probably the correct business decision.
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I am just saying girls initiate more than a lot of guys think. I am not saying it happens every time I go out. Just it does happen, and if a woman sees a guy she likes, why not. I don’t think most guys are going to be like well I can’t date this girl, she initiated.
Being borderline autistic, I probably would have never talked to my wife if she hadn’t initiated.
Off topic, but I think the whole idea of game for a guy is silly. If she isn’t into you, game will hardly ever work. If she is into you, it will feel like you have game as conversation will be easy (in most cases). Terrible jokes will be funny. It is a lot more useful to figure out how to tell if a woman is interested in you, than to work on game, and approach women who you don’t know are into you. Just my $0.02 on the topic. I suppose they aren’t mutually exclusive. I am just to autistic to ever have game lol.
BTW, you are jacked. I don’t think most women would disagree.
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Oh I agree, just giving you a hard time you sexy beast you
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Your log title claims “DYEL”, but IMO, your standards for DYEL seem quite skewed
I see lots of DYEL and DL (definitely lifts ) all the time. If you workout and there are still plenty of humans who look like you who don’t workout, it’s solid DYEL territory.
But this is about @Spock81 and DYEAHO (did you even ask him out) lol
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I’ll just pop in here to express regret for not banging a young tenant of mine. She asked for “help setting up her new bed”, which turned out to be just a mattress on the floor, easily moved without my help.
I foolishly put business before pleasure and ignored her obvious seductions. I asked “Are you all set?”, even though she obviously wasn’t, and then left.
She ended up moving a couple months later, presumably to find a landlord who wants to bang.
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I had a young girl work for me who asked me if I could help her move a washing machine. Turned up at her flat half expecting her to offer me a drink only to find out that she actually did have a washing machine that she needed moving. Damn thing was heavy too, I carried that thing down a flight of stairs on my own only to then find out she had a new one that was delivered downstairs and needed to go back up. LOL I had bruises on my thighs for days after. She did shout me a couple of pints next time we were in the pub though so it was all good in the end.
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Couldn’t agree more. This year was a breakthrough year for me in making a promise to myself to no longer expend ANY mental energy on hypotheticals. If I’m unsure how a person feels about something, I don’t try to extrapolate from an unrelated text or conversation, I just ask. If I want to know if a girl is feeling me, I ask her out. If I think a dude is cool, I ask for his number in first 5 min of meeting him and try to hang out with him again.
Already this thread is full of 95% hypotheticals and not reality–cuz realistically we have next to zero relevant information. This thread is akin to a newbie coming on here asking for the best workout plan, then questioning every suggestion thrown his way cuz well maybe squats will hurt my back! or what if 4 days a week isn’t optimal!!! but what about protein synthesis!!! WHAT IF THE GYM’S POWER GOES OUT AND I DROP A WEIGHT ON MY HEAD!!! THE GYM OWNER…HE SAID “HEY GOOD TO SEE YOU!” IS HE INTO ME!!! I CAN’T WORKOUT AT A GYM WITH A PERVY OWNER!!! FFFFFFFUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKKKKK!!!
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ASK
HIM
OUT
But after he returns from Vancouver! It’s obvious he wants to not text during his vacation. That’s the only clear thing.
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IME most people are weird aboot text flirting.
AND, how do you know that there is some thread out there with him as the OP stressing aboot asking out some hot new chick that just moved into his buildings?
We are only on this rock for a short time, I say hit that thang.
My $.02
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Loving your Canadian accent there
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In text or person…. “Hey, it seems we have things in common and I enjoy talking to you, if you would like to go out, you have my number “ And leave it at that.
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Just trying to fit in with our neighbors from the Great White North….
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Hello here is my boring update:
He’s all formal and no more flirt and is not into me at all whatsoever:)
I bought a puppy so I’m too sleep deprived and busy having my feet bit to care.
Based off my history I’ll get another crush in roughly 4.5 years so maybe THAT one will be something with a more enchanting tale.
Until then my friends
I thank you and wish you good night
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