The optimist in me wants to agree with this and urge you to push it, but we’ve been here before, and so the optimist in me is wondering if you’ve gotten to a place where you can have a crush (@Spock81, not @jskrabac, lol), but then intuit “no” and simply move on without battering at yourself. At least it doesn’t sound like you’re battering at yourself, so I optimistically assume you’re in a better place than you ever have been and that’s really good.
Although I saw the puppy and make room for the possibility that you’re simply so smitten and exhausted, you don’t have the energy to express not being in a better place.
Spock, have you read @jskrabac’s thread about weird dating problems (was it “Keep Getting Friend Zoned”?)? Like you, he’s got an exceptional physique and is good looking, but was being treated like a player. Not exactly your problem, but still, maybe something close enough? He made changes and fixed it. You should check it out if you haven’t already.
Edit, here it is: The Anti-Friend Zone