Tipping - Good Idea or Bad Idea

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
people who do not tip are assholes.[/quote]

Fuck you running if you want to be a lazy asshole and not read the thread.

Blessed be! =)[/quote]

I did read your thread honey.
and even had I chosen not to… well shoot that’s my perogative isn’t it?

You’ve always been bizarrely aggressively bitchy towards me.

The first time you quoted me on TNation you reprimanded me for" fixing" a quote. You were extremely rude and condescending about it.

In the ask anything thread I’m pretty sure you called me a retard.

And now you’re blessing me with" fuck yourself" and" lazy asshole"

What exactly is your problem with me OG?
I haven’t noticed these bitch maneuvers directed at anyone else.

For all I know, maybe you ARE a cunt to other people too. Either way, third times a charm so i’ll suggest that perhaps you are the one that needs a good fucking. From yourself or elsewhere your disposition could use some improvement.

Dear.

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You aren’t that special. Apparently I am as you have memorized my every post. I’m okay with my disposition. Works for me.

It is good to be king.

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I’m not that special? Okay so you ARE a bitch on the regular. Not directed at me in particular. Got it.

You are very special to me OG. Very.[/quote]

Not on a regular basis but I do seem to have my bipolar moments especially when fueled by tequila. As you may, or maybe not have noticed I carpet bombed this thread. Fueled by tequila shared with a friend who is divorcing her cheating husband. Everyone was an asshole and sometimes even a fucking asshole.

But no, not directed at you in particular, I was pretty much hurling grenades at everyone yesterday.

[quote]PonceDeLeon wrote:

[quote]majik wrote:
Easy there kids.

There being 17 pages of this and I am too damn lazy to go through it all, has anyone yet mentioned what TIPS stands for? [/quote]

To Insure Proper Service!

I thought someone wrote that, but if not, I just did.

OG,

Enough with the “stupid assholes” comments; you posted a topic that you knew would polarize people and it makes you upset? You’re way too riled up over this shit.

And if you say you wouldn’t mind paying the same gratuity “built into” the price of food, then I have to ask: Why does it make a difference how that money comes out of your pocket? You’re still paying for it. Is it that you feel guilty for NOT tipping, and that built in guilt trip upsets you?

My mom and sister went to Europe a few years back. They were either in France or Germany and went to a restaurant for lunch. They said the server lagged for 40 fucking minutes, got the orders wrong, and never checked back. They wanted to not leave him a tip so he gets the point, but then remembered that, in Europe, people don’t usually tip the server; the servers don’t rely on tips.

Hence, their server had no incentive to treat them well.

Many sales people are paid a base salary plus commission. If you think they had a great single month, and that one month was due to the annual rush for a certain product/service, you better believe their base salary is BARELY enough (in many cases, not all) to put food on the table/support their lifestyle. That’s why sales people have to hustle so much.[/quote]

I already said I wasn’t sure if it was just a distinction without a difference and I have already stated that I do tip.

I don’t tip at Starbucks, I don’t tip at 7/11, I don’t tip at the Circle K.

It’s just the proliferation of tip jars everywhere that is just getting to be too much.

So that sparked this thread along with the article where a restaurant is discriminating against foreigners by adding a tip to their receipt to ensure they leave a tip. You really don’t think that restaurant is telling the persons with the added tip that it is optional do you?

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
people who do not tip are assholes.[/quote]

Fuck you running if you want to be a lazy asshole and not read the thread.

Blessed be! =)[/quote]

I did read your thread honey.
and even had I chosen not to… well shoot that’s my perogative isn’t it?

You’ve always been bizarrely aggressively bitchy towards me.

The first time you quoted me on TNation you reprimanded me for" fixing" a quote. You were extremely rude and condescending about it.

In the ask anything thread I’m pretty sure you called me a retard.

And now you’re blessing me with" fuck yourself" and" lazy asshole"

What exactly is your problem with me OG?
I haven’t noticed these bitch maneuvers directed at anyone else.

For all I know, maybe you ARE a cunt to other people too. Either way, third times a charm so i’ll suggest that perhaps you are the one that needs a good fucking. From yourself or elsewhere your disposition could use some improvement.

Dear.

[/quote]

You aren’t that special. Apparently I am as you have memorized my every post. I’m okay with my disposition. Works for me.

It is good to be king.

[/quote]

I’m not that special? Okay so you ARE a bitch on the regular. Not directed at me in particular. Got it.

You are very special to me OG. Very.[/quote]

Not on a regular basis but I do seem to have my bipolar moments especially when fueled by tequila. As you may, or maybe not have noticed I carpet bombed this thread. Fueled by tequila shared with a friend who is divorcing her cheating husband. Everyone was an asshole and sometimes even a fucking asshole.

But no, not directed at you in particular, I was pretty much hurling grenades at everyone yesterday.

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I was really hoping this thread would turn into a huge cat fight. Dammit!!!

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
I’m gonna go ‘‘free market’’ on ALL your asses! LOL Tipping is what makes America great.

It embodies the entrepreneurial spirit that this country was founded on. Choosing a service profession (waiter/bartender/etc…) is a RISK. Why? Because the wage is SHIT. YOUR efforts are directly responsible for what you earn. If you can’t cut it, you quit because no one will tip you. If you give outstanding service, you can retire early. IT’S UP TO THE INDIVIDUAL.

People dine out/go out for drinks because they want a POSITIVE EXPERIENCE! Not because they want to pay 5 x the cost of what ever they are eating! A server that can provide a positive experience, a good environment, ambiance and has that certain ‘‘je ne sais quoi’’ is worth their weight in GOLD if I’m trying to seal a deal with a client (or trying to charm the pants off a supermodel). Whoever made the ‘‘all they do is bring me my food’’ comment is certainly missing out on the finer things in life if they can’t recognize the value of good service. If all you want is someone to bring you your food and have the most efficient business transaction with the owner as possible, go to fucking McDonald’s. You’ll have EXACTLY what you want. A restaurant owner isn’t JUST selling food, they are selling AN EXPERIENCE.

A good server can make a HUGE difference in the outcome of a meal. They’ll have the gift for gab when appropriate and if it isn’t appropriate, they’ll be almost INVISIBLE and you won’t have to worry about them interrupting anything important. They’ll KNOW this with out you having to explain it to them.

In my business, I entertain clients fairly often. I take my top 20 ‘‘referral sources’’ out quarterly for a meal/party that I often spend several thousand dollars on. The business they bring to me is worth MANY times that, so I reward it. I have three places where I have the relationships established and I TRUST that the evening will be seamless. I don’t take them any where else. I have TIPPED the servers/bartender team there more than $800 for doing such a good job… And they are worth EVERY PENNY. No client has EVER has to ask for a drink, or a refill, or has to look for another napkin or utensil because they dropped it, or has to repeat their order, or any of a number of things they go above and beyond for. As a host, their service is DIRECT reflection on ME. I spare no expense to guard that reputation. And THAT’S how you cement referral relationships.

I can’t imagine how much business I would have lost if I ‘‘half assed’’ it and took them to a place with bad service, or if I didn’t reward the staff to go that extra mile. People remember that shit.

There are COUNTLESS examples I could give about what servers and bartenders do OTHER than just bring me food or pour me a Tanqueray and Tonic (which I don’t have to even ASK for)…

The smart service professional KNOWS this and does an outstanding job and is rewarded - THAT’S why they take the risk, because they believe in themselves and are savvy enough to seize the opportunity. With the good comes the bad, and they know this. Sometimes they’ll get a cheap bastard. The servers I know and am friends with would NEVER stoop to tainting that miserable person’s food, though. They respect themselves too much for that. People that fear people fucking with their food need to reconsider how they view other people (or chose their venue more wisely).

But make no mistake about it: When you go to a restaurant in America, you are entering an unwritten social contract to TIP the person serving you. If you fail to tip (I’ll even go as far as to say if you start breaking out the cell phone calculator to get 15% down to the penny) then you are a cheap bastard. If you don’t like it, MOVE TO FUCKING EUROPE OR STAY HOME.

Cheap bastard challenge: Choose a restaurant that is nice. Go there three times in a row on the same night of the week and tip 20%. See if you don’t have better service and if the extra FIVE BUCKS broke your wallet.[/quote]

This was very well-stated.

I can accept this argument, and I will keep it in mind when I have to explain this aspect of American culture to my Japanese students.

To keep the discussion moving, hopefully in a civil and constructive manner, what about tipping hairdressers and the equivalent?

I would consider hairdressers to be professionals, as in, performing a service that requires specialized training. They set the price for this service, which the customer pays. Where is the need for a tip here?

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

No, actually I do the 20% standard thing. Nice assumption though. I’m also pretty laid back when it comes to the standard of service too. I understand that when th place is jumping and there are parties of 12 getting their colostomy bags in a bunch over the taste of water that the orders may take a little time.

If the service is actually bad enough to not tip, I just skip the unpleasantries and go straight to the manager. That way there is no doubt as to whether or not I’m a cheapskate or unhappy, or what ever else may be bothering someone.

I strongly believe in weeding out the weak quickly. As a manager or owner, you probably don’t like or tolerate sandbags who bring down the morale and up the workload on the rest of your crew either.

Just doing my part. [/quote]

And I will also say, for the record, that this is how I approached tipping when I was still living in the US.

I am in this thread for the discussion, because I know that there are many business owners here and I enjoy hearing their experiences and learning from them. Of course, that doesn’t mean that I’m not going to challenge them on their statements, but I will happily stand corrected if a compelling enough argument is made.

[quote]therajraj wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
people who do not tip are assholes.[/quote]

Fuck you running if you want to be a lazy asshole and not read the thread.

Blessed be! =)[/quote]

I did read your thread honey.
and even had I chosen not to… well shoot that’s my perogative isn’t it?

You’ve always been bizarrely aggressively bitchy towards me.

The first time you quoted me on TNation you reprimanded me for" fixing" a quote. You were extremely rude and condescending about it.

In the ask anything thread I’m pretty sure you called me a retard.

And now you’re blessing me with" fuck yourself" and" lazy asshole"

What exactly is your problem with me OG?
I haven’t noticed these bitch maneuvers directed at anyone else.

For all I know, maybe you ARE a cunt to other people too. Either way, third times a charm so i’ll suggest that perhaps you are the one that needs a good fucking. From yourself or elsewhere your disposition could use some improvement.

Dear.

[/quote]

You aren’t that special. Apparently I am as you have memorized my every post. I’m okay with my disposition. Works for me.

It is good to be king.

[/quote]

I’m not that special? Okay so you ARE a bitch on the regular. Not directed at me in particular. Got it.

You are very special to me OG. Very.[/quote]

Not on a regular basis but I do seem to have my bipolar moments especially when fueled by tequila. As you may, or maybe not have noticed I carpet bombed this thread. Fueled by tequila shared with a friend who is divorcing her cheating husband. Everyone was an asshole and sometimes even a fucking asshole.

But no, not directed at you in particular, I was pretty much hurling grenades at everyone yesterday.

[/quote]

I was really hoping this thread would turn into a huge cat fight. Dammit!!![/quote]

Ditto

[quote]PonceDeLeon wrote:

[quote]Otep wrote:

I got great service in the far east, where the waiters don’t work for tips. Maybe Europeans are just slothful, indolent creatures?[/quote]

Or perhaps because HOSPITALITY IS VIEWED DIFFERENTLY IN THOSE CULTURES?

No, no. It couldn’t POSSIBLY be that! :slight_smile:

Dude, my Spanish friend, whom I adore and is an incredible woman, once went to Cairo for a short vacation. The cab driver offered her his last stick of gum. She was OFFENDED and found it “weird.”

I told her that in most Middle Eastern countries, the idea is that ANYONE can be a good host (being attentive, sacrificing your food/amenities so your guest can be comfortable) and that doesn’t require money, so the idea that you were a BAD host is pretty damning to your and your family’s reputation. At a table, your guest eats/servers himself/herself FIRST in case they want a certain cut of meat or a big portion. You don’t complain; that’s how it’s always been.

But she didn’t care. She thought it was weird that a stranger would offer her GUM. Warped.[/quote]

I mean, it could be that. But I didn’t know that being a horrid host was part of European culture.

I kid, I kid. I know what you’re saying, but it seems irrational that the middle/far east would have good service due to cultural reasons, but Europe would have bad service due to economics. I’d like to think both are due to economics, and the Chinese wait-staff knows they can be easily replaced, and those in Europe know they cannot.

[quote]pushharder wrote:

[quote]Otep wrote:

…Maybe Europeans are just slothful, indolent creatures?[/quote]

Who possibly could be incentivized were tipping customary?[/quote]

Maybe, but why are you arguing for the government to overhaul the hospitality industry and TELL its patrons and producers how to organize its market? I thought that was kinda not-your-thing?

:slight_smile:

Okay well I do NOT tip at seven eleven that’s just ridic!

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
Okay well I do NOT tip at seven eleven that’s just ridic![/quote]

Not as ridiculous as your double posting…whoops, that was out loud.

Yeah, I never understood tipping at a Starbucks or whatever. Fuck, Starbucks has (had?) some of the best benefits for employees, so fuck them! But my buddy who used to work at one long ago said he made roughly $50 a day in TIPS. Fuck that noise.

I’ve also changed from tipping $1 per drink at a bar to tipping in small amounts here and there IF I am ordering multiple drinks. If the tab is open, I’ll tip 10% or 15% if they bartender was awesome. Food service is different (to me at least).

Really? This was the end of it?

Okay then I claim victory that tipping should be abolished!!! =)

I do kinda think the Crimson Lily’s post about taking extra tables or fewer tables was a better explanation of the whole tipping system then some of the others I read.

Also… Crimson Lily, do not serve my table if you are not feeling well. Gross to think of servers as being sick all over my food.

Still think tipping is stupid and unnecessary. Unique is unique until folks get tired of it.

It is very rare that I see a professional server at a restaurant, in
the US anyway. The proprietors of most places I go seem to fill the
position with the lowest cost solution that they can squeek by on and
it usually shows, even in some higher end places. Even had to show one
lucky guy how to open a champagne bottle one night. My date loved that.
Point being, I do not tip professional servers, they are well paid and
are almost always spot on in their profession. They get tipped with a word
of appreciation and compliment. I “will” tip what I call transient servers
if they do a good job. And, OG, don’t tip if you don’t feel like it, save the
victory lap for something more important.

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

Really? This was the end of it?

Okay then I claim victory that tipping should be abolished!!! =)

I do kinda think the Crimson Lily’s post about taking extra tables or fewer tables was a better explanation of the whole tipping system then some of the others I read.

Also… Crimson Lily, do not serve my table if you are not feeling well. Gross to think of servers as being sick all over my food.

Still think tipping is stupid and unnecessary. Unique is unique until folks get tired of it.

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If you think this would be considered a win for not tipping you must have a hard time following sports.

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

Really? This was the end of it?

Okay then I claim victory that tipping should be abolished!!! =)

I do kinda think the Crimson Lily’s post about taking extra tables or fewer tables was a better explanation of the whole tipping system then some of the others I read.

Also… Crimson Lily, do not serve my table if you are not feeling well. Gross to think of servers as being sick all over my food.

Still think tipping is stupid and unnecessary. Unique is unique until folks get tired of it.

[/quote]

It’s unnecessary IF the system CHANGES, but it won’t or at least not for a long time. It’s a cultural thing: the customer is always right; hey, I PAID for it, I deserve good product/service…it’s the mentality of the consumer that firm’s have accepted as part of business culture (i.e. how to do business). It’s “customer service,” which pretty much any foreigner I’ve spoken to has admitted to experiencing the best in America. That’s how we roll.

And Crimson Lily is hot as fuck, so she can handle whatever she wants…especially that roll of quarters in my pocket…I MEAN, roll of FIFTY CENT PIECES.

(almost walked into that one)

[quote]PonceDeLeon wrote:

It’s unnecessary IF the system CHANGES,
[/quote]

I’d still tip. I prefer to give more than 15% especially at all you can eat buffets and bills under 20.

[quote]Otep wrote:

[quote] AMIRIGHT wrote:
Because tipping a teacher gives them a bias… basically thats the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my life… even if you aren’t serious. A teacher is supposed to carry themselves with dignity and class… your goal is to shape the future… you are the people that control what happens generation after generation.

A teacher expecting a tip is a person that doesn’t deserve to be a teacher… something that would so obviously create a bias has no place in the profession. If you can’t see that then I fear for the children in your classes.

Also if some of you people can’t grasp the difference between a certain profession/service… then I stand by what I said earlier… and no longer understand the other “side” [/quote]

Here we have Amiright suggesting that tipping in the education profession would give them a bias… which would be inappropriate, because they are suppose to have ‘dignity and class’… and because our goal is to ‘shape the future’.

[quote] Big Banana wrote:
If teachers weren’t so overpaid and overpensioned for their part time babysitting jobs and showed real interest in the students perhaps parents would tip them.

Teaching is a fine example of people being too comfortable in their jobs and not feeling like they have to hustle. If they worked for tips perhaps the outcome would be better [/quote]

Here we have Big Banana suggesting that we are overpaid, and that our job is not that important at all (babysitting, I think he refers to it as). He suggests if we worked for tips our jobs would be done better.

Its interesting to note you share similar views on tipping for waiters, but different views on tipping for teachers. I’m sure you’re both intelligent people; doubtless, we can discuss the broader context of tipping in service industries without denigrating either I or my current profession.

Amiright, I don’t ‘shape the future’. Neither I nor parents want me to have that that responsibility. I teach math. I do this for money. If waiters can prioritize their work-schedules based on maximizing their paycheck (servicing larger tables, wealthier clients, working largely for tips) why can’t I? The ‘dignity and class’ argument is poor, because there are many waiters that conduct themselves with dignity and class, and they manage to work for tips. I agree that if parents tip teachers, teachers will be biased to help those students. I don’t see whats morally wrong with this, though. After all, those that don’t tip are ‘small dicked, no tipping scumbags’.

Banana… I get the feeling you don’t like education, due to your apparent dislike of teachers and engineer pay. Cool. I appreciate your consistency.[/quote]

I believe you brought up the subject of teachers working for tips so please do not try to deflect. I like education just fine, that is why I spent so many hours in class rooms and labs and night school to get my degrees.

I think US public education is a disgrace and an sick and tired of teachers complaining about pay.

I also have worked with many very smart skilled people that haven’t had the luxury of a university education. They are far brighter and more motivated than many college graduates.

I think it is a shame so many in the US are educated past their intellectual capacity and they look down on others. It shows a lack of class and wisdom.

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:

[quote]OctoberGirl wrote:

[quote]Hallowed wrote:
people who do not tip are assholes.[/quote]

Fuck you running if you want to be a lazy asshole and not read the thread.

Blessed be! =)[/quote]

I did read your thread honey.
and even had I chosen not to… well shoot that’s my perogative isn’t it?

You’ve always been bizarrely aggressively bitchy towards me.

The first time you quoted me on TNation you reprimanded me for" fixing" a quote. You were extremely rude and condescending about it.

In the ask anything thread I’m pretty sure you called me a retard.

And now you’re blessing me with" fuck yourself" and" lazy asshole"

What exactly is your problem with me OG?
I haven’t noticed these bitch maneuvers directed at anyone else.

For all I know, maybe you ARE a cunt to other people too. Either way, third times a charm so i’ll suggest that perhaps you are the one that needs a good fucking. From yourself or elsewhere your disposition could use some improvement.

Dear.

[/quote]

You aren’t that special. Apparently I am as you have memorized my every post. I’m okay with my disposition. Works for me.

It is good to be king.

[/quote]

I’m not that special? Okay so you ARE a bitch on the regular. Not directed at me in particular. Got it.

You are very special to me OG. Very.[/quote]

Not on a regular basis but I do seem to have my bipolar moments especially when fueled by tequila. As you may, or maybe not have noticed I carpet bombed this thread. Fueled by tequila shared with a friend who is divorcing her cheating husband. Everyone was an asshole and sometimes even a fucking asshole.

But no, not directed at you in particular, I was pretty much hurling grenades at everyone yesterday.

[/quote]

Make it up to us…

[quote]Big Banana wrote:

[quote]Otep wrote:

[quote] AMIRIGHT wrote:
Because tipping a teacher gives them a bias… basically thats the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my life… even if you aren’t serious. A teacher is supposed to carry themselves with dignity and class… your goal is to shape the future… you are the people that control what happens generation after generation.

A teacher expecting a tip is a person that doesn’t deserve to be a teacher… something that would so obviously create a bias has no place in the profession. If you can’t see that then I fear for the children in your classes.

Also if some of you people can’t grasp the difference between a certain profession/service… then I stand by what I said earlier… and no longer understand the other “side” [/quote]

Here we have Amiright suggesting that tipping in the education profession would give them a bias… which would be inappropriate, because they are suppose to have ‘dignity and class’… and because our goal is to ‘shape the future’.

[quote] Big Banana wrote:
If teachers weren’t so overpaid and overpensioned for their part time babysitting jobs and showed real interest in the students perhaps parents would tip them.

Teaching is a fine example of people being too comfortable in their jobs and not feeling like they have to hustle. If they worked for tips perhaps the outcome would be better [/quote]

Here we have Big Banana suggesting that we are overpaid, and that our job is not that important at all (babysitting, I think he refers to it as). He suggests if we worked for tips our jobs would be done better.

Its interesting to note you share similar views on tipping for waiters, but different views on tipping for teachers. I’m sure you’re both intelligent people; doubtless, we can discuss the broader context of tipping in service industries without denigrating either I or my current profession.

Amiright, I don’t ‘shape the future’. Neither I nor parents want me to have that that responsibility. I teach math. I do this for money. If waiters can prioritize their work-schedules based on maximizing their paycheck (servicing larger tables, wealthier clients, working largely for tips) why can’t I? The ‘dignity and class’ argument is poor, because there are many waiters that conduct themselves with dignity and class, and they manage to work for tips. I agree that if parents tip teachers, teachers will be biased to help those students. I don’t see whats morally wrong with this, though. After all, those that don’t tip are ‘small dicked, no tipping scumbags’.

Banana… I get the feeling you don’t like education, due to your apparent dislike of teachers and engineer pay. Cool. I appreciate your consistency.[/quote]

I believe you brought up the subject of teachers working for tips so please do not try to deflect. I like education just fine, that is why I spent so many hours in class rooms and labs and night school to get my degrees.

I think US public education is a disgrace and an sick and tired of teachers complaining about pay.

I also have worked with many very smart skilled people that haven’t had the luxury of a university education. They are far brighter and more motivated than many college graduates.

I think it is a shame so many in the US are educated past their intellectual capacity and they look down on others. It shows a lack of class and wisdom.[/quote]

No deflection intended. I agree that there is much to be improved in America’s public education system, and glad to hear you have more beef with the system than with the concept.

EDIT: I see where you’re coming from with the ‘deflection’. When I mentioned your consistency, I’m referring to your suggestion that if teachers worked for tips they might do their job better. This seems to be one of your defenses of tipping for waiters as well, which is consistent, as compared with other posters who feel that tipping is acceptable in the waitering profession but inappropriate elsewhere, for reasons that usually boil down to ‘that’s just not the way its done’.

This seems appropriate here.