Horatio - were we talking about men here? When I want my man to feel special and loved I may take him out to dinner and follow that up with a nice hour long blow job. Perhaps I’ll write him an explicit email, and then follow up when he gets home. Or I rent a movie and cuddle for a while… the possibilites are endless for a guy just as much as a girl. I am well aware that many men find physical affection satisfying and I am perfictly happy to accomidate that, just as he is willing to accomicate my need for ‘special’ attention. All women need to know that their partner thinks they are special…JUST like men do! Some men want physical attention and some don’t! Oh my God! Not every man is a horn ball!! (Not that I’ve ever dated one, but there must be some out there somewhere) Oh and for those of you who are slamming ‘Mr T-Vixen’ that would be the man I am speaking about… he is not pussy whipped in the least. And his name is meant to be a joke… we have a deal, I take his name when we marry, he takes mine on the forum grin Lighten up Francis. And Huck? Some women, myself included, like to take their men out. There are many reasons for it, but mostly I like to take him out for the same reason he likes to take me out… to make sure he know how special he is and how much I appreciate him.
So, Horatio, I’m pussy-whipped? Why? Because I read my partner’s emotional needs and I deliver? Some guys call that being a REAL MAN. Incidentally, I chose this screen name for a couple of reasons. First, I’m secure in my masculinity. Sorry, Horatio, if that bothers you, but you must ask yourself “why”? Second, it instantly lets everyone know who I am in relation to Michelle (her partner), and where I’m coming from. I could have just as easily posted under “Michelle’s boyfriend”, but that just doesn’t have the pizzazz or humorous tone of “Mr. T-Vixen”. I would really appreciate it if the LADIES (hear that, Patricia?) would respond to Horatio’s post. Well ladies, based on his attitude, (i.e. any guy who leaves love notes is not a “real man”) would YOU date this guy?
- Yes, every man is a horn dog. Even gay guys are just horn dogs for other guys. 2)HOUR LONG BLOW JOB??? I’m not sure who impresses me more, you or your honey.
grin Well, I enjoy it, as does he… so why end it quickly? It’s all about timing and practice… (lots of practice, which he is always willing to let me do, SUCH a nice guy!)
Touch a nerve? No, but obviously i did, since rou rehashed my entire post… And what does having a woman buy me dinner have anything to do with my financial status? Absolutely nothing, I do just fine. And a guy named Horatio shoud not be making fun of other peoples names especially if its just the name they post with and not their real name.
You didn’t really touch a nerve, I just didn’t care for your characterization of my wife. And the income remark was tounge in cheek. I am sure you are doing well – you can afford a PC, right?
Actually its a mac. I did not mean to rip on your wife but on these guys who refuse to acknowledge that there are women out there who are not the"normal" girl who needs to be bought.
Funny joke. OK guys leaving your wife / girlfriend a “gift” is a sign that
you took time out in your busy day to think about “her”. It’s doesn’t have to be
expensive, jewelry, etc … it’s the thought that counts. Remember this, a card, a rose,
note, diamond, fur coat or new car all have the same “meaning” to her. Try leaving
her favorite song on a CD single in her car one morning and watch what happens.
IF giving these “gifts” make us pussy whipped … I’m guess I’m up to my ears in it.
T-Vixen man, or whatever, you’re a fruitcake. You “read your partners needs”. In my best Norm McDonald voice “you’re eh…gay”
Michelle, those things you listed that you do for your man, I don’t know any straight man who wants any of that.
Aw shucks… Strass, you’re right! What was I thinking? What guy in his right mind wants frequent blow jobs and dirty emails? I’ll have to stop that right now. I can’t believe I ever thought he liked that stuff… Thanks for straightening me out.
KO - I liked Patricia right from the start, and now I KNOW you both rock! Woo Hoo! another Mac user! (Oh, yeah and you have your head on straight about relationships too! grin) MikeH - glad to hear from someone else who understands the entire concept. The rest of you, when you learn that material good are not the point, you’ll get it. I’m as happy with a cd as a postit note on the mirror… a phone call is as good as dinner. THINK! ‘Gifts’ are not necessarily material things… they are small tolkens that say ‘You are special’ and YES you should get the same from her. For God’s sake, cleaning her car off for her without saying anything is a gift! It is a gift of your time. Everyone likes that type of gift, you’re full of shit if you deny it.
Oh gosh. Okeee dokeee. My first resonse for this thing was due to seeing all these past posts regarding relationships. I don’t know, some of you guys seem so…hmmm…backwards. I mean, we are in the 21st Century, right? Ooops, I know I’m gonna furrow some of the thick cromagnum brow bones out there - and for that I apologize. But to answer Mr. T-Vixen: nope, I wouldn’t travel within breathing room of some guy who is so concerned over having to look like a “real man” (like, whatever THAT means, anyways) - means he’s a follower. I don’t need nor want a follower, but a leader - and that’s what Ko is, and then some. He’s my equal - we’re equals. We don’t fixate over who is “in power” or who makes more money. We know there is MUCH more to our lives than that. And that stuff can go poof in a moment. Ko’s the strongest man I know. He’s got the biggest heart and you know, right now he’s getting dinner ready for when I get home. Hmmmmm, maybe I shouldn’t accept the dinner? Or does this mean I have to put out tonight? I don’t restrain my actions and feelings for ideals that were brought about by obvious insecurities many many years ago. Ko and I are much bigger than that. SO, dudes go ahead, keep wearing your animal skins and live in your caves. That’s okay - you don’t know us, we don’t know you. You can keep shouting “pussy-whipped” all you want. Cuz’ it makes us chuckle. Oh and Michelle: Yeah, a nice MAC. And that’s what we work on at my office, too. Which is great. Especially after years of working on PCs’ at work! YIKES!!!
Yet another Mac user and a women who says go Michelle/Patricia/KO/MrT. Do ya think it’s a Mac thing? PS: I’ve got 2 of the very cool new imacs arriving this week at work!!
The differences I see in all the replies concerning “little gifts” for their mates is that of long-term committment vs. dating. From what I have read, those of you who are in long-term relationships have the type of mutual understanding and respect that does not expect gifts, but appreciates them. And just because a guy might enjoy notes and things does not mean he is gay! I don’t consider cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, etc. as gifts for my husband. It’s part of what I do. He does however, and remembers to thank me everytime I wash his clothes. It actually quite amazes me. In return he will wait in line at the car wash to wash my car for me, as well as taking it in for an oil change. No roses or diamonds there, but still very sweet. If you want and expect sex all the time in return for a nice gesture I don’t think you are in the type of relationship that has promise of lasting. Similarly if you expect gifts all the time as proof of affection, that isn’t going to last either. The difference is in wanting TO GIVE something to your mate to express your love for them, and not expecting
TO GET something as their expression of love. I think it’s only when you are firmly committed in something long-term that the selfish aspect of human nature disappears.
P.S. I personally know a man who has been happily married for almost 20 years, has a family and everything, and he LOVES to shop–for home decor, dishes, placemats, etc. He is not gay!
Okay, what you are referring to is the different “love languages.” GET THE BOOK! It’s a matter of finding out what your mate’s love language is and using it to communicate your love, not trying to use YOUR love language. But you are pretty much spot on without knowing it.
A guy who has to pay money in order to get ass is a trick, plain and simple. If you have so little game, that the only way you can get ass is to spend cash…I feel sorry for you. The reason why I’d take a girl out or buy her something, is simply because I feel it’s proper to do things like that for a woman as a sign of appreciation. Just as they should do the same for men…but they rarely do in that form and even if they did, we wouldn’t care too much for it. We’d rather have sex as a sing of appreciation and care and that’s totally understandable…shit we’re men.
BUT, if you have to or THINK you have to buy something for a girl, just to get laid…you need to take a step back and evaluate yourself. But, if you really must buy her something to get ass, then she’s simply turning you in to her trick, and she’s using you. But then again, that’s all some guys can get. I need to start teaching a course on “game”…maybe “Methodology of tossing it up.” Stay up playa! lol