So last night I went to a party and I see some old friend I used to know. I go and have a chat with him, were both drunk and we start joking around with each other. Everything goes great but then later on we see each other again and this time, The dude calls me a "dumbass(with a mad face) I assume he got mad over something I said earlier when we were joking. I didn't want to ruin my friends party so I just walkaway and go home not even answering his insult. The guy pretty much bullied me, and I could have definitely kicked his ass. I did the right thing ... but I feel like I should have kicked his ass.
You could have
- Answered him to see what the problem was
- Accepted that he was probably joking…I threaten my friends all the time. You havent seen him in years, maybe his humor changed over time.
As long as you were willing to deal with the fact that because of his insult, had you “kicked his ass,” you could have been either seriously injured, or charged with a plethora of assault charges, ended up in court, had to hire a lawyer, and go through the legal system hoping that they at least used some lube before they fucked you as hard as they could.
All over some insult that you don’t even know what it was about.
So if you’re willing to go through all that to show him that your dick was bigger, than yes, you should have kicked his ass.
Good decision. Getting your ass kicked ain’t good. duh
[quote]FightinIrish26 wrote:
As long as you were willing to deal with the fact that because of his insult, had you “kicked his ass,” you could have been either seriously injured, or charged with a plethora of assault charges, ended up in court, had to hire a lawyer, and go through the legal system hoping that they at least used some lube before they fucked you as hard as they could.
All over some insult that you don’t even know what it was about.
So if you’re willing to go through all that to show him that your dick was bigger, than yes, you should have kicked his ass. [/quote]
makes sense… very hard pill to swallow.
It all depends where you’re from, if you’re in Ireland, you should have kicked his ass. If you’re in America, I think you did the right thing.
[quote]RynoSmash wrote:
It all depends where you’re from, if you’re in Ireland, you should have kicked his ass. If you’re in America, I think you did the right thing. [/quote]
LOL. This is true.
If the guy bullied you growing up, why do you consider him an “old friend”? At what age were you guys when he bullied you? Just curious. My general rule of thumb is if I didn’t consider you a friend, much less an acquaintance back then, I’m not going to be too eager to get acquainted now. His behavior falls into that category. You did alright by just leaving it alone. Not really worth the time or effort to get your hands dirty.
Invite him over for MMF. patches things right up
Your story makes no sense.
Aren’t you like 19? You don’t go to parties at 19…you go to someone’s house and drink a bunch of shite beer…here’s how to tell if it’s really a party…if there’s girls there in greater numbers than guys…then it might be a party…if not…it’s a waste of your time being there.
Anyway…have a good life living with your cowardice.
you should of headbutt him for looking at you funny.
I probably would have at leasted probed a little. Whats up brah? Why so hostile all of a sudden? Unless you took his “dumbass” comment to be a last warning of sorts, like his next move is to swing on you, you would have been well within your right to ask him if there is something wrong. Misunderstandings happen, just talk calmly with people, tell them if you have somehow offended or upset them that it was unintentional and you would greatly like to clear the air so everyone can continue to enjoy the evening. You don’t need to be a pussy and instantly walk away everytime someone raises the heat on you a little. I’m not saying thats what you did, I wasn’t there, I’m just saying, if someone is pissed at you and possibly runing a little lip/ starting trouble, there is no harm in talking calmly.
Story time. I had just gotten into my fraternity, it was literally one of the first nights as a free man and there were a large group of us out tearin it up. This Girl who is one floor above me in dorms, her friends and all my friends are friendly/ hang out in the dorms or at the bar whatever. She has a boyfriend from back home who seems ok, have hung out with him at least a handful of times. Always pretty friendly to me personally. So I’m tryin to get a drink and I see this girl at the bar, she is like next in line for a drink so I go up to her and hand her a 5 and ask if she would order me a corona at the same time since it’s going to be forever till they get back to me. Anyways, so in like 30 seconds she hands me my beer, I tell her leave the rest for tip. I turn around to walk away and her BF is standing there with the most pissed off look on his face.
Now I had done absolutely nothing wrong so Ifigured he must be pissed about something else, I say hi to him ask, whats up, he starts mumbling under his breath, like “motherfucker this, motherfucker that” he is visibly very angry. Now I’m like is he mad because he thinks I just hit on his girl? Then I thought maybe he doesn’t realize it’s me. I’m like, You, it’s me dude, whats up why you so mad. He’s like don’t you talk to her. Now at this time looking over HIS shoulder I see like 3 or 4 of my brothers “noticing” whats going on, I make eye contact and give them a little, I got it head nod, and then I continue to talk down the BF. It was a hard 5-10 minutes because he was so angry, turns out he was a very possesive dude and it had been running amok in his head being away from her that she was out banging other dudes, so he WAY over reacted to a simple interaction her and I had.
But thats the whole point, once in a while, there is going to be something YOU do that is completely harmless, yet, for another person involved, it can become something very major. Being calm and reassuring all while not showing fear is a good way to at least probe for a peaceful solution.
BTW, not only did I avoid the kid swinging on me, I avoided him going out in an ambulance. He doesn’t have any friends there and I had 30 drunk brothers with me, he isn’t walking out of that one. I avoided any of my friends or myself getting charged with assault or worse. Also I reached a new level of respect with the BF and we shared a shot and wen’t about having a good night. I also happened to reassure him that things would get mentioned around the circle of friends and I was 100% sure that she was faithful to him, I also gave him some bullshit about all of us guys knowing she is off the market and treating her as if she was a sister, looking out for her etc… Which in a large part was true, I mean if some d-bag was being rude or harassing her, any one of our friends would step in.
Learn to use the most powerful tool you have, your brain, to solve problems. That is why humans are superior to every living thing, not because we punch the hardest or run the fastest.
V
V, you should know better than to write that WALL OF TEXT.
NMW - walking away from petty shit is part of being a man. Get used to it.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
V, you should know better than to write that WALL OF TEXT.
NMW - walking away from petty shit is part of being a man. Get used to it.[/quote]
I used paragraphs. Besides it’s monday and I have been busy, so I had a lot of pent up posting energy I needed to release. It’s like a 3 day load.
V
[quote]Vegita wrote:
I probably would have at leasted probed a little. Whats up brah? Why so hostile all of a sudden? Unless you took his “dumbass” comment to be a last warning of sorts, like his next move is to swing on you, you would have been well within your right to ask him if there is something wrong. Misunderstandings happen, just talk calmly with people, tell them if you have somehow offended or upset them that it was unintentional and you would greatly like to clear the air so everyone can continue to enjoy the evening. You don’t need to be a pussy and instantly walk away everytime someone raises the heat on you a little. I’m not saying thats what you did, I wasn’t there, I’m just saying, if someone is pissed at you and possibly runing a little lip/ starting trouble, there is no harm in talking calmly.
Story time. I had just gotten into my fraternity, it was literally one of the first nights as a free man and there were a large group of us out tearin it up. This Girl who is one floor above me in dorms, her friends and all my friends are friendly/ hang out in the dorms or at the bar whatever. She has a boyfriend from back home who seems ok, have hung out with him at least a handful of times. Always pretty friendly to me personally. So I’m tryin to get a drink and I see this girl at the bar, she is like next in line for a drink so I go up to her and hand her a 5 and ask if she would order me a corona at the same time since it’s going to be forever till they get back to me. Anyways, so in like 30 seconds she hands me my beer, I tell her leave the rest for tip. I turn around to walk away and her BF is standing there with the most pissed off look on his face.
Now I had done absolutely nothing wrong so Ifigured he must be pissed about something else, I say hi to him ask, whats up, he starts mumbling under his breath, like “motherfucker this, motherfucker that” he is visibly very angry. Now I’m like is he mad because he thinks I just hit on his girl? Then I thought maybe he doesn’t realize it’s me. I’m like, You, it’s me dude, whats up why you so mad. He’s like don’t you talk to her. Now at this time looking over HIS shoulder I see like 3 or 4 of my brothers “noticing” whats going on, I make eye contact and give them a little, I got it head nod, and then I continue to talk down the BF. It was a hard 5-10 minutes because he was so angry, turns out he was a very possesive dude and it had been running amok in his head being away from her that she was out banging other dudes, so he WAY over reacted to a simple interaction her and I had.
But thats the whole point, once in a while, there is going to be something YOU do that is completely harmless, yet, for another person involved, it can become something very major. Being calm and reassuring all while not showing fear is a good way to at least probe for a peaceful solution.
BTW, not only did I avoid the kid swinging on me, I avoided him going out in an ambulance. He doesn’t have any friends there and I had 30 drunk brothers with me, he isn’t walking out of that one. I avoided any of my friends or myself getting charged with assault or worse. Also I reached a new level of respect with the BF and we shared a shot and wen’t about having a good night. I also happened to reassure him that things would get mentioned around the circle of friends and I was 100% sure that she was faithful to him, I also gave him some bullshit about all of us guys knowing she is off the market and treating her as if she was a sister, looking out for her etc… Which in a large part was true, I mean if some d-bag was being rude or harassing her, any one of our friends would step in.
Learn to use the most powerful tool you have, your brain, to solve problems. That is why humans are superior to every living thing, not because we punch the hardest or run the fastest.
V[/quote]
thanks veg.
[quote]Vegita wrote:
I probably would have at leasted probed a little. Whats up brah? Why so hostile all of a sudden? Unless you took his “dumbass” comment to be a last warning of sorts, like his next move is to swing on you, you would have been well within your right to ask him if there is something wrong. Misunderstandings happen, just talk calmly with people, tell them if you have somehow offended or upset them that it was unintentional and you would greatly like to clear the air so everyone can continue to enjoy the evening. You don’t need to be a pussy and instantly walk away everytime someone raises the heat on you a little. I’m not saying thats what you did, I wasn’t there, I’m just saying, if someone is pissed at you and possibly runing a little lip/ starting trouble, there is no harm in talking calmly.
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Yep. You should always be true to yourself. If you feel that you might regret not doing something later on, DO IT. I know that if I backed down in a siuation like that, as you did, and have the same internal dialogue that you’re having right now. “I could’ve kicked his ass… Did I do the right thing?.. I let another man dominate me…” etc etc.
This is the problem with American society, and modern Western culture at large: too passive aggressive. Act passive first, then let your negative feelings marinate inside. Next time, just do what your instincts are telling you to do (i.e. react to provocation).
[quote]Vegita wrote:
I probably would have at leasted probed a little. Whats up brah? Why so hostile all of a sudden? Unless you took his “dumbass” comment to be a last warning of sorts, like his next move is to swing on you, you would have been well within your right to ask him if there is something wrong. Misunderstandings happen, just talk calmly with people, tell them if you have somehow offended or upset them that it was unintentional and you would greatly like to clear the air so everyone can continue to enjoy the evening. You don’t need to be a pussy and instantly walk away everytime someone raises the heat on you a little. I’m not saying thats what you did, I wasn’t there, I’m just saying, if someone is pissed at you and possibly runing a little lip/ starting trouble, there is no harm in talking calmly.
Story time. I had just gotten into my fraternity, it was literally one of the first nights as a free man and there were a large group of us out tearin it up. This Girl who is one floor above me in dorms, her friends and all my friends are friendly/ hang out in the dorms or at the bar whatever. She has a boyfriend from back home who seems ok, have hung out with him at least a handful of times. Always pretty friendly to me personally. So I’m tryin to get a drink and I see this girl at the bar, she is like next in line for a drink so I go up to her and hand her a 5 and ask if she would order me a corona at the same time since it’s going to be forever till they get back to me. Anyways, so in like 30 seconds she hands me my beer, I tell her leave the rest for tip. I turn around to walk away and her BF is standing there with the most pissed off look on his face.
Now I had done absolutely nothing wrong so Ifigured he must be pissed about something else, I say hi to him ask, whats up, he starts mumbling under his breath, like “motherfucker this, motherfucker that” he is visibly very angry. Now I’m like is he mad because he thinks I just hit on his girl? Then I thought maybe he doesn’t realize it’s me. I’m like, You, it’s me dude, whats up why you so mad. He’s like don’t you talk to her. Now at this time looking over HIS shoulder I see like 3 or 4 of my brothers “noticing” whats going on, I make eye contact and give them a little, I got it head nod, and then I continue to talk down the BF. It was a hard 5-10 minutes because he was so angry, turns out he was a very possesive dude and it had been running amok in his head being away from her that she was out banging other dudes, so he WAY over reacted to a simple interaction her and I had.
But thats the whole point, once in a while, there is going to be something YOU do that is completely harmless, yet, for another person involved, it can become something very major. Being calm and reassuring all while not showing fear is a good way to at least probe for a peaceful solution.
BTW, not only did I avoid the kid swinging on me, I avoided him going out in an ambulance. He doesn’t have any friends there and I had 30 drunk brothers with me, he isn’t walking out of that one. I avoided any of my friends or myself getting charged with assault or worse. Also I reached a new level of respect with the BF and we shared a shot and wen’t about having a good night. I also happened to reassure him that things would get mentioned around the circle of friends and I was 100% sure that she was faithful to him, I also gave him some bullshit about all of us guys knowing she is off the market and treating her as if she was a sister, looking out for her etc… Which in a large part was true, I mean if some d-bag was being rude or harassing her, any one of our friends would step in.
Learn to use the most powerful tool you have, your brain, to solve problems. That is why humans are superior to every living thing, not because we punch the hardest or run the fastest.
V[/quote]
I thought it was a good story. Would read again. Hai Vegita!
Dear Nomorewar,
Upon reading this wonderful post, I found fault in your actions. The proper rebuttal to that young chap’s insult should have been to meet his female partner on the second floor of your friend’s humble abode. Then proceeded to assault her pooper, in a sticking manner of course. Once complete dip the tip of your tainted tally-wacker into a glass of the finest beer in the house.
Present this beer to the kind gent, and tell him of the great time you had catching up. On a fortnight after the gathering, send him a lovely hand written letter stating how swell of a time you had. Along with the letter place revenge crabs in the envelope. The post script should read something clever, as to insinuate the uncleanliness of his partner, and for him to enjoy his new pets.
Warmest Regards,
UCTBass Bigginton
[quote]ucallthatbass wrote:
Dear Nomorewar,
Upon reading this wonderful post, I found fault in your actions. The proper rebuttal to that young chap’s insult should have been to meet his female partner on the second floor of your friend’s humble abode. Then proceeded to assault her pooper, in a sticking manner of course. Once complete dip the tip of your tainted tally-wacker into a glass of the finest beer in the house.
Present this beer to the kind gent, and tell him of the great time you had catching up. On a fortnight after the gathering, send him a lovely hand written letter stating how swell of a time you had. Along with the letter place revenge crabs in the envelope. The post script should read something clever, as to insinuate the uncleanliness of his partner, and for him to enjoy his new pets.
Warmest Regards,
UCTBass Bigginton
[/quote]
That was golden!
THX TRAV