I just love all the idealism around why a person should do a certain job or not. The best doc I know did it because it was the hardest thing she could think of. She thought, and still thinks, she had something to prove to her parents. She helps people every day the same as the doc in the next cubicle who did it for his own reasons.
Another doc I know did it because his father was a doc. One other one did it because he liked learning about anatomy and picked his specialty because that’s what was available at the time.
If you are good at it that’s all that matters. I think anyone that puts up with the shit, all the hours, and all the work and still does well at it will find the right place for them.
I was at a huge party once and a random gay dude came over and gave me a big wet kiss on the lips while grabbing both of my ass cheeks. Then my girlfriend broke a beer bottle over his head. She spent the nite in jail for aggrevated assault but the charges were dropped because he knew he was out of line and said I was a good sport about it all. Had I not had a gf at the time I would’ve beat him senseless, plain and simple. With this said I think you took the correct plan of action. The only thing I would’ve done differently was no head shots, if he had taken you up on charges the judge would see his injuries clear as day. Never underestimate the power of a body shot, they hurt like hell and don’t look so incriminating
I just read an article which has some research results from britain that says doctors have a higher usage percentage of drugs and alcohol due to the stress of their work.
Actually, Scrub, if you were the biggest guy there, then there’s a good chance that he chose you because of your body.
Lumpy - while I agree with a lot of your thoughts on this issue, I think you’re assuming quite a bit. For one, I don’t think we should ever judge each other on relationship choices, as all of us make mistakes in that area of our life. If you’ve been in a relationship where you could write down the pros and cons, weigh everything out, and then make your next decision, then I have to say that you’re a cold-blooded bastard that’s much worse of a human being that follows their heart too much. I would hope that you would agree.
Also, I don’t think we should judge his future based on one night’s events. While it may possibly reflect on his maturity at the time, he will learn from this experience and grow from it. I think we should focus on getting him through this time and on helping him learn what we should rather than write him off as a human being.
I think after beating on the guy, Scrub has learned that revenge will not change the fact that he was violated, so I doubt Scrub will take the same course of action when presented with a similar situation in the future (which I hope to God does not happen). While revenge may serve as a deterrent to his attacker, he still is suffering from how he was violated.
Scrub, just an observation but it seems that a lot of your behavior that many others find to be a bit out of line always is preceeded by the consumption of alcohol. Moderation might be a path worth considering.
Well, I am going to back off here and apologize for suggesting that you might not be suited for medicine. I was just trying to get you to examine your own behavior (and how that might contradict your career choice) and it should not be the focus of this thread. I don’t know you and it’s not even on topic, exactly.
I still think you were wrong for taking things into your own hands.
I hope you deal with these events and get some counseling if you think you need it. You didn’t deserve to be violated, and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. You might benefit from talking to someone about other issues like your breakup, as well.
I hope you will settle down and concentrate on excelling in school.
I don’t have an opinion on the story but I do know how to throw a punch pretty good without breaking my hand. For me I make contact with the knuckle on the little finger and ring finger. This gives me the hardest impact and less stress on the hand and wrist. I know everything you read says index and middle finger but when I hit that way it hurts my hand.
Put a roll of nickels, taped up of course, in your hand for better support. Nothing worse than paying off like a slot machine in a Vegas gas station on the second punch…
Lumpy: apology accepted and I know you were just trying to get me to remove my head from my own ass. I’m conscious of the fact that I have a responsibility to carry myself a certain way. I struggled with this for a long time with my ex’s stalker (her ex). He caused $2000 damage to my car when I was out of town and he was charged with menacing, phone harrassment, and she has a restraining order against him. We’ve been to court three times for this and we go back in Sep. It has taken everything I have not to get my boys and some ski masks and wait in the bushes for this bastard. Even the prosecutor’s secretary asked my why I didn’t just kick his ass. I knew that I was the one with something to lose and that he would win if I assaulted him. We’ve been face to face and I told him to hit me but he wouldn’t do it. I’m glad I didn’t give in to him provoking me.
I’m pretty much over my ex and this situation, but it wouldn’t hurt to talk to someone. If anything, I have a problem with whom I choose to associate with. With my ex, there was clearly a maturity difference and I didn’t want to accept our incompatability until it was too late. All of this bullshit, as well as the input from the forum, has made me take a serious look at why I get caught up in things like this. People say that we bring most of our problems on ourselves. Maybe I need to just be more careful about the situations I put myself in. I look around and I see that this type of drama just doesn’t happen to normal people. I guess you live and learn.
