I’ve been out of the country and just got back a week ago. Since I don’t know anyone where I returned to (Orlando) I decided to try this internet dating thing out figured I don’t have much to lose.
It is amazing how bad the conception of a girls proper weight is. Perhaps this is where a lot of the obesity stems from - social networking sites allowing girls to determine their weight themselves. Not only do the girls never state the truth but its almost always dumbed down into nicer lingo.
Girls that are fat become ‘Average’
Girls that are a borderline obese are ‘A little extra baggage’
Girls that are morbidly obese are ‘More to love’
It should say it how it is your fat, your obese, and your on your way to diabetes and heart problems. Maybe then people wouldn’t be so damn complacent with their bad health.
It should also automatically determine it based on inputting weight and height. OR it should allow men to rank you and let them decide just how fat you are. We can do the same thing for men who I’m sure are probably just as wrong as the women.
I’d love to hear from some of you strong women on here to get your opinions on this as well. I really don’t mean it as an asshole but I don’t want to date an “average fat chick” that doesn’t share my desire to improve both physically and mentally.
I don’t really get the big deal. You should be able to tel from their pictures whether they are fat or not. Having the ‘more to love’ changed to ‘really fat’ or something like that isn’t going to suddenly inspire that person to be skinnier. Having the fatness level automatically determined from height/weight would make muscular people labeled as obese. Having a user rating system is open for abuse and mostly worthless.
Again, I think you should completely ignore the label and just look at the pictures. Your eyes will tell you everything you need to know.
The way to handle this is, tell them you’re a doctor instead of a janitor in the hospital. Put up a picture, not of yourself, but of a stunning male model (I recommend Sic Abs from this site). The purpose of this is to intimidate the all the uglies so only babes will respond to you. Good luck.
I know, ED, that head shots can be deceiving. I have certainly met people who didn’t look so big on their pictures and actually have little commitment to fitness but made it sound the opposite. I did have someone tell me very straightforwardly that he was pretty overweight (yeah, chubby head shot) and noticed I mentioned fitness and healthy lifestyle being important. I felt kind of shallow deciding not to meet him, he was nice, but this is important to me.
Look at it this way, people will portray themselves in other ways that aren’t exactly on the mark and this goes beyond fitness exaggerations. So internet dating is full of pitfalls, players, and posers - not the bodybuilding type posers. Sure would like to get my hand on someone to play pose for me.
x2 Squiggles.
Great idea, OE, and then Dr. No can meet Ms. Oh No! who also put up a fake photo!
Exactly what my first thought was. Love the guy as an author. The Light of Other Days was superb, and was the first sf book to really make me think, aside from the Ender’s books of course.
