Ok, good, thank you. I wish your marriage well, too.
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My woman saw a video for kids our daughter was watching on her tablet. Apparently, one of the characters asked if “Daddy was cheating on Mommy.”
She felt that wasn’t an appropriate topic for a 4 year old and threw away the tablet and banned unsupervised Ewe Tube viewing.
Kiddo complained for a day or two, but got over it pretty quick.
Since then she’s been playing outside more, messing with the dogs more and just generally using her imagination for fun a lot more often.
She still watches kid shows and movies, but zones out and moves on to a new activity pretty quickly. Its got to be something Great to hold her attention like BS ewe-tube videos used to.
Anyway, I was messing up, slacking by letting her get sucked in. I underestimated how captivating mindlessly clicking video after algorithm suggested video was. Thanks for the timely, dad to dad heads-up Andrew.
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You act so level headed on here and then post stuff like this that reads as so out of left field and extreme to me…
Unless this is massively condensed for brevity and shock value I just can’t imagine you agreeing that child abuse didn’t exist before feminism started ? Or that stalking isn’t a real thing and was invented by feminist? HUMAN TRAFFICKING was “invented by feminists”?
I agree with lots of the stuff you post here but this is so disagreeable, almost every sentence, it reads like satire.
Help me understand the context or meaning behind it please
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On to the next Fatherhood Issue:
My daughter says the books I try to read are boring. Even when I pick books she likes to read with her mom. And that I’m boring when I read to her.
How can I be more fun and engaging and get her more into book time?
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Have her read to you. Her favorite story of all time, ever.
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I suppose we would have to know why she thinks its boring, assuming you arent reading war and peace to her here. Are you reading things in a “fun” way, like having Silly voices for the characters? Theres videos on youtube of people reading kids stories, maybe watch one or two and see how close it is to how you read yours
Also, Can you tell if you and your wife read the same way, or are you doing it differently. Kids are VERY routine based, so if mom has “the right way” to do it and you deviate that might be the source of the problem.
@SkyzykS had a good idea, if shes old enough to read. Although I had read one book to my daughter so many times at one point she could literally recite it from memory and turn the pages as if she was reading it when she was 4-5ish s even if she cant read she might be able to pull it off if the book is easy enough
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As a mom who is the preferred reader, I can tell you that I do a lot of non-verbal excitement building. Making eye contact and widening my eyes as I end a page, then going to the next page as if it’s a big reveal (but you know, subtly). I also point out funny stuff in the pictures.
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My Grandson is 3-1/2. When I read to him, the hand I’m not holding the book with must be placed just so. If I move it, he’ll move it back , again, and again. Never says a word or gives a look. Gently reminding me I’m in his world now.
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You have to do fun voices when you read. Although, my proclivity for mocking accents has made me the go to Barbie player. Mommy doesn’t ever play Barbies because she can’t do the voices. LOL
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We had a few books like that too. My kiddo started identifying words and reading pretty early though too, and was super excited to be the one who reads.
Even when he’d get stuck we’d use that as a jumping off point and put our own parts in like "The big blue elephant… [farted and knocked the monkey out of the tree!] " and hilarity would ensue.
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Thanks everyone!
It seems like maybe I’m too focused on Finishing the book, and expecting attentiveness. Instead of using the book as a way to have fun, together.
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You could really notch it up by making it “Read To Dad” night like on friday or saturday night too.
Then its Really special.
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Not War and Peace, but in addition to kids stuff, I did try out The Hobbit for a minute.
I was first captivated by it around her age, but I think it was a little much for her right now. Or maybe girls aren’t into fantasy as much?
Hey, I understand. I’ll try to get to this tonight. Gonna be busy. One has to understand the context. I might be irresponsible in not including it.
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Making it more of an event, good idea. Maybe I could make cookies or something?
I think its a trial and error thing. Some kids are gonna get sucked in and some wont. I think thats a universal parenting thing, hoping our kids love the stuff we did as a kid and then having a little “awww man” moment when they dont.
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That would be exceptional! Read to dad night, and he makes Cookies!
Man that might cause spontaneous bouts of “You need to sit here while I read you this story.”.
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I won’t lose hope!
The woman wanted kiddo to do dance, and she wasn’t into it and didn’t participate the first time.
When she tried again months later she loved it, and has been involved in dance ever since.
Maybe there is still a chance for Bilbo!
I guess I shouldn’t be pushy though.
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If youre willing to shell out a $3 a month I use something called “Safe Vision” (I think maybe only on apple/ipads) That is basically is a locked down youtube app that gives you 100% control over what they see
For starters You have to greenlist videos/channels as opposed to blocking them. Only the channels you add are viewable to the kid as opposed to the whole of youtube you have to filter out one channel at a time. It also lets you see how many other parents have added the channel which can be nice for “influencers” you might not be aware of (my kid likes to watch game reactors, so if 1,000 other parents have added the person its probably a safe bet the person is alright)
I just have a bunch of science/animals/educational channels and a few of his game channels and he seems to enjoy it without any chance of getting sucked into any “daddy was cheating on mommy” nonsense.
It also blocks adds, which is like a $15/month “feature” from youtube premium.
You can also set a watch time limit.
Would be nice if it were free but at $3/month it seems like a worthwhile spend to make sure the kid is being raised right 
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OMG you straight up triggered me with this comment. We have them everywhere and it seems like for my wife the number of plants we need is defined by the formula n+1 where n is the number she already has. I sometimes feel like Mr O’hare from the Lorax
My wife comes from a challenging family history and one of zero communication or emotional support. This translates into she will never admit fault, like never. She will die on that hill. I am OK with saying when I did something wrong and quick to move on (a bit like you wife) and quick to move on when others are in the wrong but I do like people to at least show they know they were in the wrong. I have learnt over 30 years to care less about who was wrong and these days I just fix things.
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