I am do not believe transgender is fake, but it’s (that is the increase in those showing signs of gender dysphoria) behaving like a social contagion in some cases. See the book * Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters* by Abigail Shier. The title seems like something that would be written by the most southern baptist type conservative possible, but it’s not (she is a liberal reporter) and does a good job taking a step back and trying to understand the situation as a whole.
I also recommend this book for a scientific perspective
My biggest issue is that the treatment plans for gender dysphoria are defaulting to significant hormone changing drugs and puberty blockers. Those of use who are lifters and have either used or investigated the use of AAS know how detrimental using hormone altering compounds can be. Additionally, I have yet to see research that says that puberty blockers are safe for brain development (I do not see how they would be since hormones in puberty and brain development are intricately linked).
I have two young daughters, if either of them tell me they think they should be a boy or feel like they may be trans - I will be getting them the best therapist I can afford but they will not be allowed on hormone altering drugs or to get “top surgery” until they are 18. At that point they are legally an adult and I won’t stop them making decisions regardless of how I may/may not feel about it at that point. My wife and I are in agreement on this.
I firmly believe the treatment for gender dysphoria is currently causing more issues than the disorder itself. That and assholes who are unsympathetic and disrespectful to their fellow humans.
I’ll answer: he cares a lot about what other people think and feel because it allows him to avoid thinking about himself and his issues regarding his father. In other words, he can focus on how others react to him rather than his need to have people react to him. Attention of any kind for any reason is the only way they can feel validation. These people don’t get validation or a sense of worth from family, culture, religion, history, education, employment, friendship, etc. They are free from those “bonds” but in exchange they are slaves to their vanity and narcissism as the world revolves around them.
They don’t have the sense that stable people have which is that there is something bigger than them. Happy people know they aren’t the most important thing in the universe by virtue of simply existing. They know their value comes from what they bring to the world and their connections to others. The bonds they make and strengthen with family, friends, their culture, etc. The people who think their existence alone makes them special are always going to be miserable as the universe won’t ever give in to their demands.
I believe that some, very few, people do have brain wiring, chromosomal situations (there are more combinations than xx and xy), hormonal and sex organ differences that can cause internal “confusion” and conflict. These are biological matters that they are not responsible for and we should show empathy and understanding. We should accommodate them as much as possible.
With that said, there was a time when boys thought about how one day they would be men. Their role models were their fathers, athletes, soldiers, astronauts, politicians and characters on tv and in film. Many of these role models could be considered “macho” but some weren’t like scientists. There was however a general concept of what it meant to be a man. Take Atticus Finch for example. He wasn’t a John Waynesque character but he was still an example of real manhood.
To get to your quote, girls who want to be boys aren’t thinking about one day being men. They think they will remain in a perpetual state of boyhood like some K pop star. It makes sense as boys today tend to not act like boys used to act. They are effeminate and androgynous. We don’t see the same kind of men on tv and in film that we did in the past. Look at how fathers are portrayed. They are no longer Lucas McCain, Ben Cartwright or Ward Cleaver. But this also reflects reality as men these days don’t want to grow up.
I believe that applies to many people, not just cross dressers, and their number appears to be growing at an alarming rate as American society unravels, partly from radical individualism and numerous social pathologies.
In general I agree with this. Maybe I should have rephrased to say think they are male ( you have to be so picky with word choice these days).
I don’t think fostering more empathy in young men is bad thing, but society now tells us anything inherently “boy” or “man” is a perpetuation of the patriarchy and therefore must be stopped.
I seriously want to know who in the US is actually being kept down by the patriarchy in a real measurable way. Yeah there are asshole men out there who believe women should be subjugated and not equal, but I think these folks are the minority now.
I hadn’t thought about this one much before, but I think you are onto something. Everyone does what’s best for themselves only. It’s inherent human nature, but in the past societies were forced to work together as groups just to survive. This likely let individuals see past differences in others and work together to accomplish a greater goal.
We are in the 21st century spoiled for choice on how to go about our lives and that definitely has a detrimental effect in some cases.
The majority of violent criminals on the streets and in prison have two things in common: they grew up fatherless and had a single mother raising them.
Masculinity is supposedly toxic (let’s be honest, people will use toxic as a qualifier but they really believe masculinity always manifests itself as toxic) and the so-called patriarchy is oppressive and evil. Yet, a man in the house helps produce stable, well adjusted men, and I would argue women as well, who don’t prey on the weak or kill each other in the streets.
The Greeks said never say a man is happy until he’s dead. Everyone seems happy on social media and that’s another part of the problem as it sets unrealistic expectations, or just expectations that create a sense of entitlement, regarding happiness.
It’s not cause of who you are, but c’mon, is that the portrayal of yourself you want floating around the internet? That being said I have no idea what your socials look like, maybe that’s common.
That’s the issue though, everyone shrugs it off and ignores the problem.
The netflix documentary (The Social Dilemma) on the social media stuff was interesting. The former execs of those companies will not let their children use it. That should tell you a lot. Best thing I ever did in terms of online stuff was get rid of facebook. Still have instagram mostly because I am trying to set up a brand and you can’t do it without something out there (I refuse to get to TikTok and Twitter).
Don’t get me wrong Mr. Cyclone, I know the harmful effects of social media, and I see why you would care so much about them too considering you are a father.
I only said shrug because I don’t particularly care how most people use social media, that’s their problem for seeking validation. Now if it’s someone I know or close to me, then I would care and bring up the issue.
Unfortunately, other people’s problems become our responsibility. I see a lot of little children with autism who are in the foster care system, which we ultimately fund, because their mothers couldn’t stop using drugs while pregnant. These kids bounce around from foster home to foster home and will be a burden on the system for life.
The number of kids who have been diagnosed with some form of mental illness these days is ridiculously high. Social media plays a role in that. And we end up paying for it.
Going to call you out on this one as an autistic person. Most autistic people are not that way because of drug use (every autistic person I know their parents never used drugs). And as far as I know there is no correlation - it’s like saying vaccines cause autism (hint: they don’t).
We have way too many kids in the foster system for a large number of reasons.
That’s correct. And speaking of dress, I believe this radical individualism is shown by those who present as near nude in public these days or wear clothing showing the formation of their breasts, backsides, and genitalia or just outright exposing them. This was expressed by a poster in the thread about flirting in gyms. In other words: “I don’t care if reasonable, well-mannered, civic- minded people consider this offensive; I’m going to do it anyway.”
This is one of those things that bothers me about the trans movement, especially when it comes to kids. The surgeries/hormones to change appearance are inherently expressly for societal norms. You are shortening someone’s life, generally sterilizing them, removing healthy body parts, est. in order to achieve a desired reaction from other people. That’s fucked up. It’s very similar to the “devil” or “alien” people getting tats, implants, and other modification surgery to achieve a reaction from others. Difference being that the trans modifications are generally FAR more extreme, far less reversible, and far more damaging to health. It would be less extreme to allow a 10 year old to get eye tats to black out the whites of her eyes than to remove her breasts.
It’s even crazier when the research tells up that something like 80% of trans kids grow out of it and the majority end up gay. In all likely hood the trans movement is carving up, disfiguring, and sterilizing what would otherwise be a large population of healthy happy gay people.