It also skewed beauty standards for both men and women. We see the beautiful people the most. They are the ones followed by the masses. I think if you see that all the time, average starts to look worse.
I’ve caught myself out at things like the state fair thinking where did all these ugly MFers come from. But those that is a lot more representative of what we should expect people to look like.
Apparently on dating apps over 80% of the women only go for @ 10 % of the guys. Beyond delusional
It kinda works for them. Depends what they want. If they want a relationship then they are usually delusional for matching with those guys. I think the error is thinking because a really attractive guy will match with you that he is a maybe for a relationship, when that chance is basically 0. He is in it to get laid.
@marine77 I’m genuinely curious. In your ideal world, how would gender roles play out in society.
Men and women balance each other. Per nature. The masculine and the feminine complete each other.
What would a perfectly balanced society look like to you?
That’s a lot to unpack. Im anti social too. But… I think people should pursue what makes them truly happy and content. To put it very simply.
Stop trying to rebel against your nature
What do you expect though? If you had the ability to openly pursue women who were 8-9-10/10 on the scale of attractiveness AND the odds of success were almost 100%, why would you bother with plain looking women?
It’s one of the unintended consequence apps like tinder have brought upon society. Not all women use these apps, but for those who do… provided said woman is decent looking, guys who look like Chris Hemsworth are now at arms length 24/7.
I’d be more than ok with apps like tinder disappearing from public domain… forever!!!
I want Tinder to stay around long enough for me to be able to study it.
so give or take 5-15 years, depending on when I get into grad school and how permissive my future advisor/job market outcome is
I have sometimes thought about jumping on an app just to see what it’s all about
Not about expectations but acknowledging reality… I do just fine.
Unfortunately i think it ultimately destroys women far more than men
Extrapolate
How so? Are we referring to the unrealistic expectations a woman may attain through use of these apps?
That’s… very cold…
If anything destroys women, OnlyFans does!
Someone who went to one of the schools I went to high school at created an onlyfans
She made hundreds of thousands of dollars within a year, I believe Connor Mcgregor followed her at one point (could be mixing things up though)
Of course it was leaked to everyone who went to that school… At 18 she was living in a luxury apartment.
I have a cousin who has said “i’ll just make an onlyfans if I need money!”. It’s a stupid, stupid, stupid idea but they aren’t wrong. Men want to see attractive women naked, and lonely men in particuar can be easily manipulated through platforms like onlyfans
It’s worse than porn in that one can interact with the models if they’re willing to pay.
Too many end up riding the carousel, paradox of choice, etc
How does one go about figuring out if someone is taken without being invasive?
Are you talking about a stranger or someone one sees regularly, like at work, for example?
Suppose this is a casual acquaintance that you hope to not be so causal
Context: I’m collecting strategies
Also, what any thoughts on the strategy of “assume taken unless proven single”
@wanna_be id love to hear your input too. You seem to have had some luck at the gym
Taken people usually will mention their partners some time in everyday conversation. Example: “My boyfriend and I went to a concert this past weekend.”
Anna, why worry about identifying romantic targets when a romantic relationship is largely repulsive to you? Why not just continue to nurture friendships and collegial relationships?
In other words, why not tell your mother that you are not interested in a boyfriend at this time and simply be who you are?
Oh, the above question isn’t for me.
Im collecting strategies and seeing if I can map it to an economic model of some sort.
Romance is the perfect Econ meets psych topic. The others are finance and marketing