Nope. Not really, Atleast not yet. Only been talking/hanging out for maybe 3 weeks?
Isn’t that it’s own red flag? She’s too good.
Like, what’s she hiding, behind all of these non-abnormalities?
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I don’t know everything about her lol. I mean there’s stuff I may not like, but none of it is real breakers. Still plenty more to learn but fuck. I’m super into her
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No stress man. I’m just kidding a little based on a previous conversation with my therapist about an medium-long term ex-gf.
I was saying stuff like “Her family is too nice. Like, they take family vacations together and pictures where they’re all wearing the same shirt. Who the fuck does that? How can I trust people that I don’t understand?”.
They’re actually very nice people.
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Speaking of Training Day and guys trying to whack Hawke’s character, I always remember that Cliff Curtis, who is from New Zealand, made a successful career in Hollywood by portraying a go to “ethnic” character in almost every role, whether it’s a Mexican gangbanger, an Iranian priest or The Rock’s brother.
On the second date I took my wife to a Michelin-starred restaurant. I wanted to leave the best impression possible. Things were going so great that she wondered out loud what’s wrong with me - as she recalled later, I was in great shape, well-travelled and educated, had a successful career and apparently a great sense of self-deprecating humor.
As I was driving her back to her place we stumbled upon an extraordinary sight - an older woman was standing on a curb, apparently trying to break a window of a parked car with a fire extinguisher while shrieking and hurling insults at a man at a nearby balcony, challenging him to “come down with that whore of his and be a man for the first time in his life”.
My then wife-to-be wanted us to stop the car, help the woman, call the police or something. I refused, saying it would be super creepy of me to introduce her to my aunt and uncle after only a second date. She laughed out loud, once again pleasantly surprised by my sense of humor.
I was not joking.
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Relatable. Introducing to family can be tricky, and may require some prep work like “Did you see that story on the news a while back…”.
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Oh I had that as well 
Maybe Trump is his actual father…
sorry, sorry 
I’m wary of ppl who are “too nice”
I feel like I always have to put on a face not to alienate them and it’s exhausting
If I don’t feel comfortable making joke about corrupt governments, soviet casualties or offshore bank accounts around them, it’s going to hard for me to be very close to them
Gym buddy had this problem and it’s a large reason I rejected him. I also thought my friend (that one) also had this problem but turns out I was wrong. Either that, or I converted him.
One of the things my now-husband won me over with was his response to my disclosures about having been a dropout, street kid, etc. He said “Well, you clean up real well.” No shock, no dumb jokes. Just a sweet compliment.
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Wow… I’ve learnt something new.
Can’t believe this exists. Rule 34 truly is miraculous.
Nah … Some people really like humiliation. It’s not a healthy paradigm though. Generally not a constructive dynamic for a relationship to flourish.
Some guys also like getting kicked in the balls.
he’s probably just a horny kid who is either a narcissistic prick who doesn’t care about those he is close to OR he lacks emotional intelligence, as many young people do
Nope, I highly doubt this will become the case. Had a recent mate whose long term GF wanted to turn the relationship into a polygamous one… He broke up with her over that.
Men for the most part aren’t going to accept polyandry, I sure as hell wouldn’t. I’d rather stay single for the rest of my life if the ultimatum was “but I need to allow my partner to sleep with multiple male partners but I’m not granted the same opportunity”. Even if I was, I wouldn’t be comfortable with that because I think swinging for MOST people mediates jealously and resentment.
I think it’s a domination/humiliation fetish. Reverse traditional norms, make the man feel helpless etc. god knows what goes into the development of such a fetish.
I’d argue within our society this is already occuring to a degree absent of any cuckolding. There are still many cultures that oppress women in brutal and barbaric fashion, but secular society doesn’t align with these ideals.
Australia (or America) is not Saudi Arabia, I wish people could differentiate between the two as when I bring up Shariah law as a representation of true oppression I’ll sometimes get the response “bUt tHaT’S thEiR cUlTurE”.
Not all cultures are great.. look at how much the Taliban sucks for reference. There are savage and civilised cultures in this world. If I call out a culture for engaging in diabolical practices like mutilating vaginas to ensure a woman only feels pain during intercourse that doesn’t make me a racist. I don’t like circumcision either, but if I bring that up I’m called a self hating Jew.
Some have even more absurd fetishes, there is some seriously odd stuff out there. I’d rather stay out of it… I don’t particularly care if someone is into automobiles, getting kicked in the crotch, roleplay, being slathered in Nutella etc. I might not understand it, but I’m not here to take that away from people.
Cuckolding is an odd one, I’m not sure what to think about it from an ethical point of view. I believe such a dynamic is conducive for the long term breakdown of a relationship, but I certainly don’t believe someone is a bad person if they’re into that. What if the guy/girl doing the cuckolding feels a connection with Chad number 6969 and ends up breaking off a long term relationship due to it… That’s a little bit sad isn’t it?
As to pregnancy… If you take adequate precautions it’s quite difficult to fall pregnant. Depo provera shot is like 99.6% effective, couple that with condoms and no one is falling pregnant. There’s also plan B (emergency contraception)
Don’t be an idiot and it’s fairly difficult to get pregnant. Not to say it doesn’t happen, but it’s rare.
Many a times you see teenagers on the pill falling pregnant “but I was on the pill”
You need to take the pill daily, each dose literally 24 hours apart. Take the pill at the wrong timing intervals and it’s not nearly as effective, miss a few days and it’s also not particularly effective. What proportion of teenagers are responsible enough to adhere to taking the pill correctly? I’d think most would screw up every once in a while and think nothing of it.
Those on the pill falling preggers aren’t getting pregnant because the pill is ineffective, 99%+ of the time they’re falling pregnant because they were irresponsible.
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He also starred in one movie as JESUS LMAO!!! I can’t even remember the name of that fucking pile of crap. I only watched that movie because it was directed by the guy who made Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves and The Count of Monte Cristo.
I only remembered him playing a terrorist in Collateral Damage and a gangbanger in Training Day at that time. I didn’t even know what his name was. Can you imagine how shocked I was when I saw the dude appear as Jesus?
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Ok, this was the movie I’m talking about:
Don’t bother watching it. It’s horrible. I watched it in the cinema on it’s opening weekend because I saw that it was directed by Kevin Reynolds and I wanted to walk out halfway. I only stayed because I was sure they were going to show Jesus’s Ascension from the direction the script was heading. It did happen but it was still crappily executed.
If anyone here wants to watch well made movies about Jesus, go find the ones starring Robert Powell. They used to show them to us during Catechism classes. I think it was because of the language barrier since I had to be placed in the adult sessions and almost all the boomers where I lived couldn’t speak English well and neither could the old priest who was from Belgium. At least the movies had Chinese subtitles.
I still don’t understand how this takes place. Does the “cheating” spouse do it with a 3rd party while the other spouse watches or do they record a sex tape with the 3rd party or some shit like that and play it while both spouses are fucking? If this is the case, why not just pay for a male/female whore?
If there isn’t at least any documentary evidence of the act of cheating involved, can’t they just secretly roleplay by making up stories about how he/she cheated? You know, like one spouse coordinating with a friend by sending lewd text messages to each other or something and letting the other spouse see them without knowing it’s all fake?
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I tried googling but I’m still not sure how all this works although I did find out that the UK is at number one when it comes to this fetish. Our colonial overlords are the number 1 cucks in the world?
I guess it’s be like live action porn???
If I’m being honest though I’m not sure I’d be opposed to a future partner of mine sleeping with other women in front of me or telling detailed stories.
That’s just me though. I find sex extremely interesting but have no desire to actually engage in it
That’s pretty much it, obviously I don’t like idea of it. But what about those who do? They’re not bad people, but I’d be willing to wage the percentage of relationships like this that eventuate in divorce is fairly high.
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It’s WAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY more interesting once you do it enough to get good at.
Academic understanding or knowledge is utterly superfluous without application.
I’d find it intriguing if I were in a casual relationship that I don’t really take seriously. I mean, I’ve literally found out that one chick I was dating really did have a drunken affair with some dude one night but I didn’t even really care. All I really felt was mild irritation because I had to do extra shit on top of my studies and work like breaking up with her and having to find a new chick.
It was like “fuck now I have to follow convention and break up with her since she was spotted by a friend who would probably already have told and discussed this with other friends already before he decided to tell me although I don’t really care as long as the dude she fucked was wearing a condom”. I initiated the breakup with the revelation that I knew about the chick’s affair and she got so scared I was taking it so lightly and displayed such nonchalance she actually went and asked all my friends that she also knew if I was planning to fuck with her in some way lol.
But my reaction wouldn’t be similar in the least if it were my wife. If it’s someone you really treasure, a whole array of issues are involved. Betrayal, self-esteem, jealousy, anger, destruction of the dynamics of a relationship etc.
You’ll probably get it when you find someone fit for you. I thought in a similar way before I met my wife.
However, this is NOT the same as some Chinese women I know who have accepted that their husbands visit whores from time to time and just pretend they don’t know as long as this doesn’t affect the way they take care of the household in any form. They understand that it’s only casual sex and not actual relationships. It’s probably remnants of cultural stuff like polygamy. One really smart chick I know actually went and engaged a private investigator to get evidence and used it in a divorce proceeding several YEARS later lol.
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That’s what I’m leaning towards.
You’re leaning towards accepting your future husband doing this? That is an insanely unhealthy dynamic
Think of the kids if/when they find out (provided you adopt). How will that influence their views about relationships?
Just find an asexual dude or don’t get married. This advice may be cruel, but I think it’s warranted.
You can’t expect everything out of a normal relationship with a man… Minus the sexual intimacy. I can’t stand adultry, but at the same time I can understand and even sympathise with a man or a woman who turns to cheating when they’re stuck in a marriage entirely devoid of physical intimacy. A marriage wherein it appears as if one partner is rejecting the other.
There are dating services for asexuals. Look into that
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You shouldn’t unless you explicitly state that you will tolerate such things when you sign the marriage contract. While I don’t really like involving “morality” in topics which I consider to be more pragmatic in nature, it would be a moral betrayal (amongst several other things) if your future spouse violates the terms you signed both implicitly and explicitly when you got married.
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