Yeah, this is public school in a nutshell.
No good deed goes unpunished, and fucktards get promoted.
This cheating scandal runs deep. Rampant on Long Island, expect to see a Newsday article any day.
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I disagree with 2, 3 and 4. Damn snowflakes lol.
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I see this shit all over, the notion that all these ordinary people are so special and have just that many resources that others are ābringing them down,ā just like old Suicidal Tendencies and Pantera songs in which Muir and Anselmo barked and bellowed as if the weight of the world was on their shoulders. 
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Actually, IME, a lot of people do try to bring you down when you achieve something, or are working towards achieving something above what the average person thinks theyāre incapable of and it looks like youāre going to succeed. My point is that if you donāt develop skin thick enough to tolerate this, you probably wonāt succeed.
Perhaps I am lucky enough to have never encountered such people.
However, who I have encountered regularly, at every job I have had, are people that I believe are envious or vindictive of those who take their jobs seriously and are in positions superior to them or better paid. Where are I have encountered such people are in the lower-skilled though needed positions. Granted they are in positions in which they can get their jobs done while whistling dixie and joke around pretty much all day. They are not the majority though. Most low-skilled workers I know keep their head down and are cordial and caring.
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Eh, I see this as good advice in general. Mostly when I come across it itās aimed at women and reminding them not to tolerate shitty relationships. Seems silly to have to say it, but women do seem to tolerate some shitty relationships. Iāve certainly kept people close who exhibited a good 3/5. Hard to say what ādrag you downā and āuse youā mean, but the rest happen all the time.
Iāve been trying to pull into focus a thought Iāve had about this thread and stuff you talked about years ago regarding the relationships around you, @BrickHead. I recall you determining with some shock that although the guys around you talked big regarding hot women, most of them settled down with what you called āaverageā wives. My sense at the time was that you felt that theyād been dishonest with themselves and you, and you were frustrated by it somehow.
Some of your Cyborgs are genuine; they just love experimenting with themselves and trying to maximize whatever it is theyāre after. I do the same, though like you Iām deeply average. But I am always after ābigger, stronger, leanerā in one regard or another in my own small, average way. Others are trying to create an industry. Iāve started a private practice and in putting things together was listening to podcasts. The podcasters are after things I have no interest in, and I noticed they all rotate through each othersā podcasts interviewing one another, which brings in ad dollars. Cool. I, too, can have a āhigh six figure incomeā by expanding into blogging, public speaking, podcasting, and coaching and running clinics aboutā¦you guessed it! Earning high six figure incomes. Itās bullshit, sort of, but whatever - if they want to chase big money talking about chasing big money, more power to them. Iām content with a robust caseload and self-determination, in pursuit of which the podcasts were helpful. I donāt want to work any harder. I have other interests, which include maximizing my diet and workouts - but only to the level I want, not to the level of the biggest, leanest, and strongest. However the big and lean are talking and writing about it, as the āhigh six figure therapy practiceā people did, and theyāre making helpful lists and schedules that I can utilize in becoming just a little bit better than average.
My goal is to match my former salary including benefits, but work a little less intensely. That said, I also want to be considered the best in my area at what I do. I want, and have, people in related professions trying to get their family members in to see me. I engage in professional development well beyond what is required. I want to continue to be one of the fittest women my age that I know, but not necessarily THE fittest, because thatās more work than Iām willing to do. I read a lot of recipes and articles on nutrition because I want to eat tasty, healthy food. I donāt seek to cook at the level of Alton Brown and I donāt need to understand my nutritional process at the level of CT. When I had young children raising children well was a passion of mine.
Social media makes it possible to gain info a/o motivation from these powerhouses, but weāre not required to buy into their messages. My sense is that youāre at war with yourself somehow. Like you feel compelled to compete at the highest levels in all arenas, but donāt actually want to. I suspect most of the people you note as average and living their lives without this constant striving are completely uninterested in it. They donāt read it, donāt listen to it, and donāt miss it. You should just take what you need and donāt worry that some asshat with a youtube channel says you can do better if you just put your back into it.
In all honesty, people who come to me for therapy hear me talk about maximizing gains in whatever regard, but they are under no pressure to actually do anything about it. I found, and now have hanging on my office wall, a greeting card that says on the front āSEIZE THE DAY,ā then in small letters āif you feel like it.ā Inside it says āGO FOR IT,ā and then a tiny āor donāt.ā
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Listened to Dave Tateās Table Talk with JL Holdsworth and then the next one with Wendler, they talked a lot about being āall inā and what going all in actually looks and feels like, it was pretty interesting and touched on some of the stuff youāre talking about @BrickHead they talk about how there are a lot of people in the industry (especially with the social media platform) that like to talk about being all in or giving 100%, but that unless youāve actually gone there you donāt really know, and the rest is just smoke. (At least that was my take away)
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Yeah, not really bullshit. @BrickHead lives on Long Island, and a six figure income is pretty average here - itās an expensive place to live.
Noice!
FWIW, my brother has a seven figure income, no social media, no podcasts.
Iād be happy with a smaller income and less stress, just saying.
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This is the litmus test for knowing if people are worth their salt - if they lost their SM or podcast following, would they still have income!
Otherwise-
Ferris, Altucher, JRE, etc all pass. That annoying Rocket guy, not so much.
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Is he running a multi-therapist practice?
Iām in a low population density area, so therapists who eschew insurance in order to charge more per session have trouble maintaining their caseloads and arenāt able to charge much more than the insurance companies pay.
That said, I make in the 90th percentile for my credential, which is enough. I neither want to live in the city or 'burbs nor want to spend my life chasing money. I like there being only one traffic light on the 25 minute drive to work. That limits opportunity, but Iām comfortable with limited opportunity.
Nope. He owns a pellet mill and a few bars, and is buying a golf course.
Made $1.4M last year doing that.
Is running a practice your goal, or is making money your goal?
Finalpix? You have his website handy? Asking for a friend.
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Oh. I thought you meant in a private therapy practice. LOL
Making a living as a competent, successful therapist is my goal.
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Hard to make seven figures doing that.
But, he bought and sold Home Care of Washington - bought it for $2M, sold it for $13M five years later.
New money.
Yeah, I was feeling pretty small when I thought someone was doing it! Fucking Cyborgs, man!
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Iām surprised he hasnāt sold out to Traeger (or whomever Traeger sold out to)
So, heās had offers, but the numbers donāt work - heās an accountant.
TMI?
Thanks for this thoughtful response. I will try to respond by the end of the week.