[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
Fulmen wrote:
sdspeedracer wrote:
dollarbill44 wrote:
Aleksandr wrote:
OctoberGirl wrote:
You can’t just let 6 year-olds run free in the neighborhoods any more. It’s sad, really, because having that freedom at such a young age allowed us to develop moral courage and expand our physical limits.
DB
Is that really true, though, or has the media simply put a scare into us that’s not rational? I mean, what’s lurking out there that our kids can’t do what we did? We didn’t have warnings on our swings, rode bikes without helmets, lived with lead paint, and drank from the garden hose and we turned out just fine. Why do we assume our kids can’t?
I don’t necessarily disagree – I’m not saying we should or shouldn’t, but what’s made the world so different than it was 30 years ago besides more information about how aberrant some of our behavior is. But hasn’t it always been? Aren’t we just more aware of it? My group of friends and I discuss this often and we’re still no closer to an answer about why we’re so much more protective than previous generations were. I think we do our kids a disservice for exactly the reasons you lament – they need to discover the world for themselves and we keep them from it in a way.
Anyway, just curious about others’ thoughts. We can take it offline if this is just a hijack.
I grew up believing that if I got hurt, it was my fault. My kids are going to be raised the same way. I didn’t get a helmet riding a bike. We had see-saws that would flip us off if we pushed hard enough. We had dirt mounds that begged to be ramped. We had tress to climb.
It is illegal in most jurisdictions for kids under 13 to not wear helmets on bikes. In my town, it also applies to scooters and skateboards.
I blame absolutely everything on bad parenting. The fatasses. The accidents. The stupid ass behavior.
Everything is crystal clear until you have kids of your own.
DB
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I know this is going to be like poking a stick into a hornets nest but here goes: I don’t really think we as parents are that much more “scared” or “over-protective” of our kids. But kids don’t spend a lot of time roaming the neighborhoods, riding their bikes around etc because they are in day care or some other form of after school supervision. The moms all work now.
When I was a kid all the moms were at home. The moms all knew each other. You got home from school around 2 or 3 in the afternoon and you had a few hours to kill. You ran around the neighborhood. Today, the parents retrieve their children from after school care at 5 or 6 or later. There really isn’t a lot of time left. Kids do most of their “playing” at the after school program. That’s just how things are.