Oh yes! I see it started subtly in the 1920s, picked up steam in the 60’s, went full blast in the 90s, and now is off the rails.
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By the way I like your posts too.
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I hear you. I try to be both conscientious of other’s sensibilities and also tell the truth as I see it. Not to be all liturgical, but Jesus gave the perfect balance - “speak the truth in love.” Yes, tell the truth, and also have the right motive.
Yes, absolutely! Many believe Communism and Nazism, on a societal level, were practice runs for world-wide totalitarianism. In every aspect - technology, morals, human identity, individual will, laws, biomedical knowledge,
social values and perceptions, and on and on - local and world events are snowballing.
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Thank you, I appreciate it!
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…why would you worry about what overly-emotional children think? Just because they let something that irritates them get in the way of a good discussion and proper growth is no excuse for you to censor yourself. Especially the you of now and the past, say, 3 - 5 years.
There’s more of us here who know you’re not a (something you’re not) than those who’d falsely accuse of such .. and you know we’re vocal.
Speaking for myself, I appreciate your candid, thoughtful posts.
also, get a room you two .. jeeze
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I agreed with everything you said, except for the last line about how very few people choose where they work.
I’d suggest however, that it’s a Dunning Kruger effect. People take on as an identity the characteristic which they see as the most significant. For some, that’s work. Others it’s high school football career, being a victim, family, drinking a bottle of vodka without feeling anything, etc. we all know these people.
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We did! The “Off Topic” room 
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Yes, people definitely take up those signatures. I have a former friend (former for good reasons), who looks at nearly everything through the lens of money and the attraction of women, even though he’s married with two kids. He would likely look down upon 99 percent of posters on this board. My experience has shown me that people who define themselves through such things said are usually very hard to deal with. Hence I don’t.
My social circle has people who earn from mid-five figures to mid-six/seven figures (orthopedic surgeon, marketing executive, accounting firm partner, lawyer). I’m glad they don’t define others by money or job. We don’t get together and go to events and play makeup client-worker games with one another Nor are our incomes and professions on each other’s minds.
I believe only few exceptionally talented people with accolades or people who start businesses have much choice in where they work, especially young, single and childless ones, with much time on their hands. The more anchors set and curveballs thrown in life, the less choice there is.
Some unemployed mid- to low-skilled person with $3,000-plus worth of monthly bills coming in, a wife, kids, isn’t exactly in a spot to wait for a job of top choice. He’ll seek jobs and an employer will choose him.
@TriednTrue
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I don’t either. Had a similar situation where a former friend threw out how much he perceived I made a year, based on working in my specific field. I find people like this amusing, especially if I am sipping on a few drinks. I order specific drinks, based on the type of conversation I’m having. That way my wife knows how serious I am being with this person.
EDIT: you can always tell when someone stops respecting you, based on what they think you’re worth.
I’d equate this to ‘How many people can bench 350 or deadlift 600.’ How much time do you want to put in? How serious are you? There are too many stories contrary to the above.
I’ve had a conversation with a co-worker that falls into this category. She believes the world has screwed her over. After 6 years of listening to her complain, she asked me what I would do. I had a book delivered to her house that has helped her with finances. Then. I told her to sell her house, take the equity and buy a house in cash in another state. Work a blue collar job scanning groceries, for all I care, but her monthly net would be significantly less than it is now. Her counter was family that lives 8 hours away. When asked how often she sees them - it’s been a few years.
People create reasons for why they can’t change their lives. My wife quite her Director job, without discussion with me, bought a computer on a credit card and now makes almost 6 figures.
It’s never been easier to make money, in the history of the world. That’s something I’ll stand behind. People just don’t want to work more than they want to complain about things.
As it’s said: ’ Most people work just hard enough not to get fired and get paid just enough money not to quit.’
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You make all valid points, and I’m not arguing here at all, but you haven’t mentioned the serious factor of inherent ability which of course are is useful with effort. Someone with average ability cannot “put in” for high skill, highly paid work, generally speaking. Again, not arguing. People simply have varying ability.
I do agree with you in that there are more opportunities now, and even in crises, there are ways to make money if people want to give up rigid ways. Sometimes it just happens by luck. My wife has increased her workload considerably because overdue haircuts because of the corona era.
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Did she create a reason for why she can’t, or why she hasn’t yet?
AKA - a reason to hesitate for a while?
That’s huge changes
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While wages have mostly stagnated for all but the top, IMO, many of the financial hardships people experience are self imposed.
They don’t want to drive a $3K used economy car. They don’t want to live in a 1000 sq house. They “deserve” the new purse, sports car, European vacation…
It is easy to say stuff like this, but these are difficult things to do. It is likely worth while, but will people do it? Probably not. I have been over paying on auto insurance for over a year now. I know the issue, I just am too lazy to change it.
Too much work..
Yea.. it is. I’m actually 1-1.5 years from making a hell of a move myself. No one knows and I’m currently the heir-apparent to a company. Ultimately, I don’t like the climate of where I live.
No.. but they can create it. My wife, not putting her down, but she doesn’t have some crazy skill. Instead, she built a website, developed a service, learned the trade and makes very good money.. all in 3 years. Inherit ability is overrated.
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Get an insurance broker and setup a calendar invite between the two of you every six months, right before renewal, to review current policy. Make the invite on a Tuesday or Wednesday. You’ll most likely get an email on Monday saying: ‘I see we have a call to discuss you policy, I’ve reviewed you file and suggest making this move.’
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You’ll probably get around to doing it eventually
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I actually just got a reference to what I was told was a good broker. I’ll set something up. I think if I switch my cars and house over, it could be over a $1000 a year savings. I am being bent over on one of my cars. No accidents or tickets on the record, I am 32, and I am paying like $550 for wait for it liability.
LOL!
I’m two years younger and pay less for full coverage, with $500 deductible. 
you’re agent send lube with insurance cards?
I do save on home insurance with that auto policy (but not enough to make it worth paying $1100 a year for liability on an 06 focus). When I bought another car (sports version of the expensive insurance car), I checked with the home and auto policy to see what it would cost. Still outrageous, and didn’t save me anything on the house. So I went elsewhere for that car. $190 for 6 months with progressive for the same coverage, and that is on the sports model.
No lube sent. I will call the broker.
One thing confuses me though. How does one handle their current insurance? Do you wait until you are about done with the policy dates? I am sure I’ll have to call and cancel it, as it auto pays.
I can’t recall, but I believe you can cancel at any moment.
Just shoot your agent an email and say you’re canceling sevice effective this date. He’ll call and email trying to figure out why and reduce cost. Just say decision has been made and you’re welcome for the tight ride.
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I was referring to high skill work that requires inherent ability from the get-go: STEM, law, medicine. One does not become a physicist without the inherent aptitude. No one with Low intelligence becomes one.