It amazes me that some individuals will create stress out of absolutally nothing at all. It truly is sad.
If only they were that important.
Helping people get better that’s what it is all about.
Being helpful … Not hateful
Just being me
Jim
It’s a gift. Like knitting sweaters out of dryer lint; creating something from nothing.
So true my fellow Canadian
something out of nothing…
something;
-a man who ends a relationship with you via text, moves 1300 miles away, comes back a week later
-who tells you he broke up with you because he wants to get closer to God and can’t do that while in a relationship with you.
-who, after hearing the advice you give him, based on your experience in a Baptist church, breaks down crying and admits that the excuse above was a lie.
-the real reason is that he was afraid he’d screw up the relationship, so he bailed, but realizes now how awesome you are, and wants you back
-so you tell him that no, you dont want him back, 1) because he lied, 2) because he ran away from his IMAGINED problems, and you wont spend the rest of your life wondering when he’ll run again. you dont want him as a friend or a lover.
-he doesnt understand this, and begins a 3 week barage of begging, crying phone calls that last for 45 min at a time, untold numbers of text messages, punctuated with assurances that, “I’m fine. I won’t bother you anymore.”
-in one night, even tho he knows you’re on the phone with someone else, he calls you 10 times, leaves 7 voicemails, and sends 60+ text messages. WITHIN ONE HOUR.
-recognizing obsessive tendencies, you tell him you dont want to talk to him anymore. at all. ever.
-after repeated texts, calls, and emails, one day he decides to send flowers to your work, a shirtless pix message to your cell, an email to your boss AT WORK, and an email to your father. thing is, he doesnt KNOW your fathers email address, he has to look it up and go thru 3 channels to get it.
-at this point your lawyer friend helps you draft a warning letter so that there can be no confusion about whether or not its a good idea to talk to you. It’s posted in your log, and emailed to him, his parents, his bosses, his friends, your parents, brothers, bosses, and friends.
-the attempts at contact don’t stop, even after repeated phone calls from police and notices from a lawyer.
-not only do the attempts at contact NOT STOP, Jim has been posting in every single log in Powerful Women so that I know he’s around, and watching, and toeing the line.
None of our mutual friends anticipated the obsessive behavior. No one can tell me that he’ll stop. No one can tell me that this isn’t a stepping stone to my physical harm, or harm toward anyone I date.
Notice how I’ve been single since november and havent posted shit about dating anyone? not like I havent, just haven’t felt safe doing it.
I check my car before I get in it, someone always knows where I am, and I worry constantly about getting a surprise visit. My bosses at work make sure someone knows I’ve gotten to my car safely, and my father installed a camera above the parking lot at my apt.
If I drove to Kentucky and prosecuted Jim would be guilty of Second Degree Stalking, verified by a lawyer friend of mine.
so yeah, I’d disagree that’s something, rather than nothing.
It amazes me that some individuals will create drama for no good reason at all. It truly is sad.
mods, i’d love it if you would sticky this, please.
I admit i went through i tuff time yes. I think all of us have done some silly things when ending a relationship.
But the nuclear option was way overkill.
I have never in anyway said or ever implied any harm at all or would I.
i have never said anything hateful or mean to anyone.
that def can not be said for the other party.
if anything i was reaching out to someone who i thought cared about me for help. What I got instead nothing but hate. Which made we want to make things right.
I have not emailed, texted, or contacted this person in anyway since I was warned not too in December.
I have been called several times but the police call for no reason at all.
i enjoy helping people and that is why i am on here.
and so that people don’t think i am the freak show you have painted me to be.
i have moved on with my life and I am doing well
i wish this person all the best.
it is time to move on.
i follow her blog so i know when she is in town so i can stay far away from her.
it is too bad the nucelar option (emailing my friends, my work, my family) was used over flowers and phone calls when this all could have been settled over a cup of coffee and a third party.
Jim
Nothing could have been settled over a cup of coffee, because you don’t understand what, “Don’t call, text, or email me anymore.” means when it’s said OVER THE PHONE, EMAIL, AND TEXT MESSAGE.
you didnt get it, any number of times when i told you to seek professional help.
shit, some of your friends won’t even talk to you about me anymore because you’ve lost control.
I never said anything hateful. I never called you names, told any hurtful stories, or made fun of you. I told it as it happened. I could start doing that, however, and I could be much, much more embarrassing if I chose.
Look up “delusion” in the dictionary.
I have a file of paperwork that proves you’ve tried to contact me since I chose that, “nuclear” option. I waited too long to do that, anyway.
I never said you said you would harm me. I said no one can tell me you wont. You can’t tell me you wont, either, because of how many times you’ve said, to me and to others, that you’re “fine now,” and that you, “won’t bother me anymore.” And you keep doing it.
I know too many police officers and lawyers and this is EXACTLY how too many crimes, up to and including, rape/murders happen too often. It’s gone step by step.
You wanna push it even farther? keep posting.
No Claire I just want to move on with my life which i have done. i wish you all the best.
I did enjoy all the good times we had thank you.
Jim
I have not contacted you at all since I was warned on dec 24th not to contact you at all anymore.
if you had moved on with your life, you wouldn’t have been reading my log to know I was stressed about it.
Nor would you have posted in your log about it.
Nor would you have posted a thread in PW about it.
Try again. Logic fails you.
i follow your blog because I like to see how you are doing with your training.
so i know when you are in town so i can stay far away from you
I havent told anyone the last 4 times I’ve been in town.
If you like to see how im doing with my training, YOU HAVEN’T MOVED ON!!!
it’s easy when you don’t get online for a day or two lol
your a great lifter and i enjoyed coaching you. I can have an interest in your lifting alone
this is silly.
Yes i had a ruff couple weeks. i wish you all the best
I am not going to try and come see you I am not going to contact you. besides you are way too good of shot lol 
it would really suck to get shot with the gun I gave you. That is why I am staying far … far … far … away
I’m going to bed
goodnight
Jim
I have responed to some questions about me in a discussion in the link below. Hopefully this will lead to understanding which will lead to calm.
I will will not be spending anytime on the site except to update my blog. It is not my desire to cause anyone to be stressed in anyway. I would be more than happy to help anyone with your training please feel free to stop by my Traing log Forums - T Nation - The World's Trusted Community for Elite Fitness
you ladies in powerful women that are doing meets please stop by and give me an update on how you meet went.
Thank you all for your understanding and I wish all of you nothing but the best in the future
Jim
Thanks Jim.
I admire both you and Cbear immensely and I hope things smooth over for the both of you.
I’ll def check in on your log 
[quote]Mascherano wrote:
Thanks Jim.
I admire both you and Cbear immensely and I hope things smooth over for the both of you.
I’ll def check in on your log :)[/quote]
couldn’t of said it better mahself.
ditto, ditto, and ditto.
Thank you ladies