[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]Testy1 wrote:
I offered, but my wife said she didn’t want me having that much influence on our kids.
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wow[/quote]
She was joking, but I can see her point, they are twisted enough with the exposure they do get.
[quote]Tex Ag wrote:
[quote]Kanada wrote:
I had a nanny till I was 9, when my dad retired. Don’t let kids get in the way, they’ll be fine if your not there[/quote]
So, as long as you can afford to pay someone to stay home with the kid you do not need to do it yourself - is that what you are saying?
So, is someone home with the kids important?[/quote]
We both worked, but payed my Mother in-law to watch them when they were younger. Win for everyone involved.
I could never, and will never be jobless. I’ve had a job since I was 12. I was briefly unemployed for 2 months the summer after I graduated college and it sucked. I felt like a worthless piece of shit. I will never do it again. I’ll be working in some way until I die.
Besides, unless you have 3 or more kids at home, there is no reason for either parent to stay home. There simply isn’t enough to do to require it. If you don’t know anyone you trust that is available to watch the kids (for free or otherwise), then that is another thing entirely.
^^^^^ I once thought this, but then the economy had other plans. Did the stay at home dad thing for 9 months, once I got my ego in check it was awesome. The only hard part was not having enough disposable income for things like pl gear, supplements, etc.
Back at work now making way more than before, now it’s the wife’s turn.
I learned a lot about patience, and have utmost respect for anyone who does it. Amazing how many friggen dishes and dirty clothes one or two kids make in a day.
One child is a peice of cake. Thats why my wife and I stopped at one lol.
I worked alot of shift work and was laid off for periods of time so if anything I have spent more time raising him than my wife. The worst was when I was working midnight shift and we didn’t have him in daycare yet. I would work all night, get home, my wife would hand him off to me and go to her day shift job which ment I had to stay up all day with him till she got home at 5:00 pm then I would stagger off to the bedrooom to get a few hours sleep before starting the loop of hell all over again lol. My parents took care of him the odd day but I wanted to do it myself, did that for three months…it shaved two years off my life I’m sure of it.
I could be a stay at home dad in a heartbeat. No fuckheads at work to deal with is a good thing isn’t it?
I did get lucky in the fact that our son is pretty mellow and laid back, he’s the one that calms me down. I’m very gratefull that he’s not wound up tighter than a fuckin’ clock spring like his old man lol.
I’m way closer with my son than I am with my own father. I belive this is because of a generation gap, not because I spent less time with him growing up.