Starting a Fight

[quote]texasguy2 wrote:
Avocado wrote:
texasguy2 wrote:
Spry wrote:
Someone once said never start a fight - only ever finish one.

If you (or someone else you feel the urge to protect) is in danger then go nuts.

Finish the guy as efficiently as possible. That means no silly rules. That also means you better have a good explanation for the police when the other guy is in hosiptal on life support.

Otherwise ‘trash’ talk is not a good reason. You are not in danger.

Threats are a different matter - they place you in danger.

The repuation remark is interesting. What can one really say about you that would hurt your reputation? People know what you are like already. Some loud mouth who calls you mean things is not going to change that.

Nothing but self-defense is a good reason.

I would suggest blowing trash talk off for the the most part or just returning it and being snappier. But if you are in public and getting clowned repeatedly with out doing anything about it, your reputation will certainly be damaged. Shit talkers do tons of damage in social settings. It’s not necessarily about a loud mouth saying mean things.

Loose lips sink ships after all. I say when “the line” has been crossed, rough the guy up a little. Just enough to put him in his place. You don’t have to break his jaw and kick his unconscious body. There is no need to take emotional abuse.

In some senses I roughly agree with this. Certain people really need a fast swat in the teeth. I am not one to go around “handing them out” like bernie mac but there is an instance when I have smoked a dude for being a cunt. But the key is I got him to touch me first. I would only recommend swatting a guy that has ‘assaulted’ you first. If you can get him to physically interfere with you in any way then you can beat him pretty good in most areas of North America.

the key is i got the guy to push me after an afternoon of asshole smack talk (he was a buddy of an acquaintance). I told him he was a bitch-ass trick that only had the balls to run his mouth and was too lady-like to man up and really fuck with me. And this was the first thing I ever said back to him all afternoon. The rest of it i had ignored and nodded off up till now.

Then I insulted his sexuality in a very long-winded but funny (according to me) way. After this he pushed me and then I basically tortured him, without ever hitting him once, for the better part of 15 mins. Fortunately, people in australia (where I was) are still into letting guys have “fair fights” so it was different than a ‘streetfight’. Nothing puts someone in their place better than ‘palpating’ his kidneys.

-chris

It sounds to me like you instigated, or at least elevated the situation. Then took it too far.

I’m saying that if you are being clowned a little too much you should just rough the guy up a tad, and there is no reason to talk back. When it gets to that point, just ask if he has a problem he’d like to handle. If he keeps yakking, pop him in the mouth.

No need to beat him senseless or magnify the shit talking if you can minimize it before you boil.

Generally, “fair fights” are accepted in Texas too, but the severity of the beating allowed by onlookers directly relates to the offense. A 15 minute beating is a little much for trash talk. It would most likely be broken up at the first sign of blood or one sidedness. But it would be allowed.

Molest a guys girlfriend while drunk at a bar though, and your teeth, facial structuring, rib cage and health in general are up for the taking. [/quote]

After giving him 4 hours to quit being an asshole and telling him several times that I wasn’t a fan of his comments? I just said one thing, one, back to him. Every other comment out of my mouth previous and afterward was polite as a princess. So I don’t think my one comment was considered instigating or elevating. If anything I tried to de-escalate for over 3 hours until it was clear he wouldn’t stop.

Also, note i said I didn’t even hit him, once, ever. He hit me several times in his defense but I just took him down and sat on him for a bit. I made him name ten chocolate bars while flicking his ear. It also turned out he was ticklish, this only made it more fun. And as I said I gave his kidneys and bladder a good palpating. So in reality I didn’t even hurt him. I just embarrassed him for 10-15 minutes. Even his friends didn’t object, knowing he had it coming. They laughed as hard as anyone else.

So he went away with more dignity damage than anything else. A few people said they were surprised I didn’t give him a bit more “what for”.

I feel you on the g/f molestation thing. If I knew of or saw anyone fuck with my gf I would likely end up saran wrapping them to a table and torturing them into an untimely doom with power tools. The thought of anyone fucking with any women I even know is raising my blood pressure.

So that is the exception I would rape someone if they fucked with a woman who could not defend herself. But I have seen some chicks defend themselves quite effectively.

-chris

[quote]Spry wrote:
So you were the dickhead who started a fight without just cause (self-defense)?

You provoked the guy!

This is an example of what not to do.

I’ve never had someone insult me that badly to take any notice. I’m just too nice for anyone not to like!

I have been ‘asked’ to leave a pub by its manager. When the other 3 guys and myself ‘declined’ 4 bouncers appeared soon enough.

We finished our beers and left. Don’t be a dickhead![/quote]

see above. If anything I gave him a three hour shot at quitting provoking me. I’m the farthest from a dickhead IMHO. Everyone is shocked and awed when I take on an attitude of anything besides contentedness and chilled.

I suppose I didn’t explain myself enough. He was being a cunt and had all the opportunity in the world to quit at my behest. Not a soul protested his just desserts. And I’ll remind you that I took about half a dozen punches from him while not hitting him at all.

-chris

De-esclate for 3 hours? Sounds like you knew this guys friends or something.

You sat on him and tickled him?

I think we have crossed wires. You didn’t hurt the guy.

You did what ever big brother does to their little brother.

Very well done. I’m impressed.

You did what Segal would do - restrained the guy rather than causing him harm.

Out of curiosity what was he saying?

“You’re a big fat stupid head. na na na na!”

or maybe

“You smell, you big fat smelly douche. na na na na!”

?

[quote]theflowjob wrote:
When do you guys think is an appropriate time to start a fight? For instance when someone is talking shit to me i basically am the most chill person and then once it comes down to them actually wanting to fight me then ill fight with out even thinking about it. What im askin though is if someone is talking down to you or something like that when is it time to throw down?[/quote]

The best time is to fight after you have been hit. Personally I would rather kick someones ass and go home than kick there ass and go to jail that night.

The answer is never. Once someone starts talking shit the fight is on, that’s when you bust that asshole in the face. Threats are for the weak. So if someone threatens you or starts to talk shit then they have already started the fight. It’s now your turn to finish it. I know sticks and stones blah blah crap. Never ever under any circumstance let someone take your manhood. That’s what shit talkers try to do. Have respect for yourself. If someone else starts the shit talking then the fight is on cause that’s where it is going to end up anyways.

[quote]theflowjob wrote:
When do you guys think is an appropriate time to start a fight? For instance when someone is talking shit to me i basically am the most chill person and then once it comes down to them actually wanting to fight me then ill fight with out even thinking about it. What im askin though is if someone is talking down to you or something like that when is it time to throw down?[/quote]

If you dont want to fight,then dont.
If you want then get into it with no hesitation…and ENJOY!!!

I agree with Spry and that’s the same thing my dad told me: “Never start a fight, but always finish one.” A fight starts when a punch has been thrown (whether or not it lands is another matter). Words do not count. I’ll take a lot of crap before I even consider throwing a blow, especially if it’s a perfect stranger. As has been mentioned, we adults have to consider the strong possibility of jail time if you hurt that other person.

Also mentioned, you don’t know who’s got a knife or a gun, or maybe a blackbelt and is out looking for someone to beat the tar out of. You also don’t know HOW MANY FRIENDS that guy has. You see a punk talking shit to you at the bar and you can take him out. You don’t see his two 6’6" giant friends playing pool behind you.

My uncle was a cop and a security guard and had more fight stories than was healthy (actually had a stroke on one side of his face from a particularly nasty one). Anyway, he explained to me after telling me a story about getting ganged up on by six guys in a bar fight that “If you ever want to get into a bar fight, don’t.”

[quote]Carnak wrote:
“Never start a fight, but always finish one.”
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Exactly what I was going to post.

[quote]
“If you ever want to get into a bar fight, don’t.”[/quote]

Wise man your uncle.

If you have to ask when to start a fight I suggest you don’t, you’ll lose.

[quote]texasguy2 wrote:
Molest a guys girlfriend while drunk at a bar though, and your teeth, facial structuring, rib cage and health in general are up for the taking. [/quote]

I have to say that if you hit someone in the face to the extent that facial bones are broken, you are asking for someone to take revenge on you(normally revenge is much worse than the original beating).

Most guy’s have got to a state of drunkeness(at least once) that they didn’t know what they were doing.
If you meet someone whose acting rowdy in part because they are so drunk, you should just talk to them to calm them down and get them ejected from the bar). Otherwise things can end up real bad at the end of the night.

If some drunk touched my girl I would likely just grab him and take him to one side and tell him to fuck off.

Actually I got absolutely slaughtered 4 weeks ago at the students union(university club) and started grinding with some guy’s girlfriend, she didn’t seem to mind but her boyfriend was getting ready to sucker punch me lol.

Luckily one of my mate’s was in the vicinity and so I guess he didn’t try or maybe he realised I was crazy drunk and it wasn’t a great idea to fight me.(I don’t even remember this, its what my friends told me the next day).

I’m never getting that drunk again!

Fighting is a last resort. I would only fight when i had to.

Granddad used to say

Theres 2 types, Talkers and fighters. Talkers dont fight fighters dont talk. If a guy is talking sh*t he dont wanna fight.

Only fight when you must

Fighting is for the weak. Dance-offs are what real men use to settle differences.

Who’s Bad?

DB

[quote]Spry wrote:
A more simpler answer is:

What would Steven Segal do?
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He’d snap off the offender’s arms and use them as nunchucks to beat the shit out of the asshole’s friends. This is pretty much always your best move. Here’s the approach I’d suggest – and don’t forget to unbutton a bit.

I don’t think there is ever a good time to start a fight. However, I can think of several good times to finish one.

[quote]theflowjob wrote:
When do you guys think is an appropriate time to start a fight? [/quote]

When the guys turns his back in disgust…then wham! Ya smack him in the back of the head.

[quote]dollarbill44 wrote:
Fighting is for the weak. Dance-offs are what real men use to settle differences.

Who’s Bad?

DB[/quote]

Good point, but can you imagine the ensuing carnage that would result from a “RickRoll” if you pulled something like that at club?

It would be cataclysmic.

As soon as, you walk out of restroom.

You`ll know when the time is right. And by that,when you no longer have the threshold to control your fist to their face.