I’m glad you watched Kids. It is a really accurate depiction of teenage life at the time. I grew up in the in-between where I lived in corn and went to a k-12 rural school, but was only an hour from downtown Chicago.
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A good chunk of my coworkers are from the Midwest, mainly Chicago . My curiosity of Midwest grows almost everyday…I seriously wonder what it’s like living down there.
All I’ve ever really known is the Northeast….I bet it’s peaceful and beautiful down there…at least that’s my perception.
Technically with my career, I can “city-hop” because they will allow you to do so, but since I’m a new homeowner…best I wait til I make more in salary before doing that.
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Congrats!
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I city hopped until I met my boy’s mom, and even after that there was still some consulting involving lots of travel. It’s fun, you learn a lot, but you don’t put down roots.
In hindsight, I missed out on a lot of great sex opportunities on those consulting trips in my early 30’s through my loyalty to my woman. The worst I did was become a regular at the Twin Peaks across from my hotel in Brentwood, TN, where I had a lot of good conversations with the bartenders without ever trying to bang them or playing my ace card.
I actually really liked their food and the bartenders were all pretty smart gals in addition to being smoking hot and wearing very little.
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Thank you! I closed last Friday!
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Hey since you’ve experienced the full “force” of corporate America
Tell if if this is true or not…
To me it seems like you “win” at a corporate job by traveling, switching companies, or just staying for a long time.
Especially the “staying for the a long time” if you’re not an idiot.
That might be a great thread for you to start as I’m sure many here can give you a lot of different perspectives on that.
For a short answer, you will know if you are winning where you are at by your promotion rate. My first employer of 10 years promoted me nearly every other year.
If that isn’t happening, go somewhere else until it does.
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I’m saying men are inherently benevolent. Thats my whole position.
My evidence is that men have created law and order and the safest, most just societies ever to have existed - when they could have just kept raping and murdering.
It requires a concensus, or authority figure to do things for the good of their people - even at their own expense.
There are plenty that have used this authority entirely for their own benefit. I believe if men weren’t benevolent, this would have been ALL authority figures, and we would still be in the stone age. Maybe Bronze age.
I’m not sure in what way you disagree with my position or evidence; it seems like we’re arguing for the sake of arguing and frankly it’s annoying.
Not saying you’re annoying, but that i find arguments as a whole quite annoying.
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You’ll “win” by understanding the goal you were hired to support, owning your role in it and demonstrating value. On top of that decide where you want to be next, understand the goal of that role, how you can provide value to it as well and use the trust and leverage you’ve built doing so in your current role to discuss the promotion.
Your employer will appreciate that you already understand what he needs in that role, will know you’re already familiar with the company itself and will see you as less of a gamble than betting on an outside hire.
Maybe your job requires flights, maybe not. Moot point.
Sometimes moving companies can help if you’re not seeing the upward mobility where you are.
What will stop you is the defeatist attitude you exhibit sometimes, and if you don’t realize you’re doing it start working on introspection.
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Ok. And I’m saying its case by case.
Men are men. I’m one. Sadam Hussain was. You are.
Case by case. We arent some paragon of virtue.
On our best day, we’re only human. On our worst days, still only human.
My evidence is that the documents and principles that they used and the great works that they’ve created have all been attributed to and for the edification of their version of god.
I’m not even a huge bible thumper either. Im just looking at the enduring works of the world. Ancient Greece, Egypt, the south american stuff.
They’re all works of man dedicated to gods.
Hmm…isn’t that strange?
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I think the problem for a lot of these women is that their beauty is all anyone ever talks about. They are told their entire lives how beautiful they are, which becomes their personality and where they find their worth. No other traits were complimented and no one encouraged them to develop in other ways. I think a LOT of men and women from older generations did this to their daughters.
I do not want you to take me home with you.
Any readings re: this? I can see the connection to oppression, but between Marxist thought and the patriarchy, specifically?
She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it…The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
Adam stood by and watched, then tried to pass the blame.
Location matters. Chicago, Detroit, Kansas City, Minneapolis, Denver, etc. aren’t going to feel much different, albeit obviously smaller than NYC, Philly, etc. Similarly, I bet you can find pretty quiet corners in New Hampshire or Vermont or Pennsylvania, where at least your house, neighborhood, maybe even town, have Midwest-levels of peace and quiet.
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Your loss 
I haven’t read any books tackling this specifically, although I’m sure some are out there. It is a connection I make because Marx’s idea of class exploitation has been repurposed to apply to a variety of perceived victim groups. The same basic social dynamic of exploiter and exploited can be applied to every group of humans that exist, and it has been.
That’s why Maine Public Schools now considers it harmful to fail to go along with a child’s whims about their gender identity. We must achieve equity for the victim group.
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Agreed. They found self-worth in being breedable and tied their self-esteems to it. Couple that with the sexual revolution and voila. Decades of good times we got to tap in to, but it seems that’s drying up if some of the younger sentiment espoused online is true.
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Yup. The knockout’s mom puts heavy emphasis on being hot to this day. She’s an attractive older woman and was beautiful back in the day.
What do you mean by bad? Is there neglect, abuse, abandonment?
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I’m always curious to hear definitions of “bad” as well.
Like is he getting drunk and hitting you, or did he load the dishwasher differently than you do and didn’t respond how you wanted when it caused your emotional outburst?
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Right. And are we supposed to believe that decent men become actually bad (abusive, neglectful). Seldom does a good person become bad. They might act poorly here and there, but that’s not a reflection of who they are.
And how did a chunk of women mysteriously wind up with “narcissistic” and “manipulative” (hot terms these days) men out of the blue. 1) These words are just thrown around, or 2) they actually lust for these men because of those traits and after awhile they no longer know how to deal with them. Point 2 is the elephant in the room both men and women don’t want to recognize.
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Not one of them flea brains could define what a “nArcIsSisT” is… only exposes their brain rot and inability to think for themselves.
What will be the next buzz word these buzzards beat to death unironically…
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Yeah, it’s just something they say when they don’t get what they want, as a manipulation tactic to force their view. Because that’s not ironic at all.
In my experience the toxic side of femininity boils down to gas lighting. Every time. And through that lense you can really level set them, or set them off with a tailored response. It can be kind of fun to let them spin themselves. Even the relatively sane ones.