Even a basic understanding of sexual reproduction would raise suspicion. “Hmmm, I screwed that other guy about 9 months ago…” She may be unaware that he is the father, since she hasn’t notified him and given him the opportunity to find out. But she’s damn well aware that she screwed someone else around time of conception. Come on. “Oops, gosh, I’m so surprised. How’d that happen? Can you imagine my embarrassment!” Really?
How have they ‘mended’ their relationship if the woman has yet to even be honest about something so crucial, letting the man makes HIS choice.
Well, no one is suggesting that a nurse should offer a paternity test of her own accord. It would also be recommended.
Genetic morbidity for cuckolds is similar. The real difference is you care more about children than cuckolds. That’s actually pretty normal. It should just be acknowledged.
Kind of a threadjack to the discussion, but related. You guys know that they recently identified a the Golden State killer through Ancestry site testing, where some of his relatives had had their DNA done?
There’s not such thing as anonymity with sperm donation these days, so people who once donated anonymously can be found. With 23andMe and the Ancestry type tests, the donor doesn’t have to be in the system, just needs to have a relative who has been tested. Back in the early days of IVF, many families did not inform their children that they were conceived by sperm donor.
Also, this one where it turns out the fertility doctor was the sperm donor, sometimes after he told the parents that the husband’s sperm was used. There was a similar case in the US where the fertility doctor’s name popped up on an Ancestry DNA test.
It’s funny, because if a man was to lie to a woman in such a way, to portray himself and their situation falsely, as to make her feel obligated to stay, or to at least continue the relationship…Some would call that rape.
Who is making such a screening recommendation (I doubt it is the ACOG), and on what basis–with respect to what specific, health-related condition–is this recommendation being made?
“Truly” is not a standard amenable to evaluation.
Marriage is a very complex relationship; there is no ‘one size fits all’ way to characterize it. If you claim that, under any and all circumstances, you would want to know whether a child you raised was not biologically related to you, fine. But I would point out that such an opinion is not so widely shared as to warrant mandatory screening.
I have honestly forgotten the original question. Is it worth re-dredging?
Well then let the burden lie on the liar. Not the poor son of a bitch that spends year upon year, working away his youth and the only life he will ever have for a choice he was never allowed to be part of. For a friggen lie.It isn’t good out of some altruistic sense, not fessing up. It’s out of plain cowardice.
From Google
in·cu·bus
ˈiNGkyəbəs/Submit
noun
a male demon believed to have sexual intercourse with sleeping women.
a cause of distress or anxiety.
“debt is a big incubus in developing countries”
archaic
a nightmare.
