I’ll take the middle road here as well. My beard grows very slowly, but is also very coarse, so to grow out to a length that won’t mutilate my face when I shave, I usually wait 5-7 days. The last day or 2 feels uncomfortable and itchy, and I really don’t like the way I look, but every week I get compliments from multiple women at work that think it looks good on me. A compliment is a compliment I guess, but when I factor in the kind of shitbags these girls date and endlessly complain about, it kind of bottoms out.
That said, I have to agree with the OP about intentionally wearing scruff as some kind of badge of honor. How to tell the difference between functional grow-outs like mine and these tards? If you show up to a formal event where pictures of record are being taken LIKE YOUR OWN WEDDING, and are not clean-shaven or have well-trimmed facial hair, it makes you look like a slob who doesn’t give a shit about his appearance. Serioulsy, a tuxedo on a scruffy-faced guy with gel in his hair looks like someone dressed up a greasy wino for a joke, especially when standing next to a bride with a $1000+ dress on, and hair/makeup/jewelry done to the 9’s. If you know the event if coming up, time it and grow out/trim/shave appropriately.