Sex Before Marriage a Sin

[quote]Krinks wrote:

[quote]The Other Titan wrote:

[quote]clip11 wrote:
Couldn’t God have designed us so that we didn’t have any sex drive until after marriage, and even then, it was only directed towards our spouse? [/quote]

I am proud to be an atheist and therefore can enjoy sex free of any and all guilt. That is a good question Clip, I don’t know why your God would want to torture his people so. I can say there is an easy answer to your sex drive question if you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint.
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*** Atheist means “No God” as in if one declares themselves as such they are either a moron or they don’t understand what the word means. You do know you can’t prove a negative? Hence those declaring themselves as atheists are gullible for propaganda that says atheism is “cool” without really understanding to declare themselves as such is a form of insanity. [/quote]

I am very aware of the definition of atheism. Nope, you can’t prove a negative. The day someone “proves” that there is a god I might be willing to rethink my position on this topic. Until that time I will continue to believe in science and hard evidence. And for the record, I don’t need to say I’m an atheist to be “cool”… I’m a friggin’ titan.

[quote]Krinks wrote:

[quote]The Other Titan wrote:

[quote]clip11 wrote:
Couldn’t God have designed us so that we didn’t have any sex drive until after marriage, and even then, it was only directed towards our spouse? [/quote]

I am proud to be an atheist and therefore can enjoy sex free of any and all guilt. That is a good question Clip, I don’t know why your God would want to torture his people so. I can say there is an easy answer to your sex drive question if you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint.
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*** Atheist means “No God” as in if one declares themselves as such they are either a moron or they don’t understand what the word means. You do know you can’t prove a negative? Hence those declaring themselves as atheists are gullible for propaganda that says atheism is “cool” without really understanding to declare themselves as such is a form of insanity. [/quote]

The way I see it, there are five levels of belief/disbelief in gods.

The first is gnostic theism: “I am convinced beyond all possibility of doubt that God exists, and anyone who believes otherwise is a fool.”

The second is agnostic theism: “I believe that God exists, but I can understand why some people don’t. In my case, my faith is enough to convince me.”

The third is pure agnosticism: “There may be gods or there may not be. I don’t think it’s possible to know, so I won’t commit to either side of the discussion.”

The fourth is agnostic atheism: “I don’t believe that gods exist, but I can understand why some people do. In my case, I see no convincing evidence for their existence.”

Finally, gnostic atheism: “I am convinced beyond all possibility of doubt that gods do not exist, and anyone who believes otherwise is a fool.”

The first and fifth positions are exact mirror images of one another, and are irreconcilable as they are untenable. Ironically, they both require a lot of faith and very little critical thinking.

The second and fourth positions are not so different from one another, and indeed it is not unreasonable to expect that with some diligent study and introspection, a proponent of one position might migrate to the other side. In either direction.

As for the third position, well, that’s just a pussy cop-out.

[quote]dmaddox wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

[quote]Quasi-Tech wrote:
They have no reason to feel guilt and can simply enjoy whatever they like. As Titan stated, its only “our God” that’s limiting us.

As animals - from an evolutionary standpoint - have no issue with doing whatever suits them or meets their instinctual needs, there are clearly no limitations on atheists. Morals are for religious folk. Just do what feels good for you. True freedom.[/quote]

All social primates feel a form of guilt or shame if they act out of accordance with the rules of the group. Fear of retribution for misdeeds and anticipation of rewards for “correct behavior” is as much a feature of societies of Celebes macaques, Sumatran orang-utans, mountain gorillas, chimps and bonobos as they are in our own societies.

Sexual behavior is highly regulated in these societies as well, even among the famously promiscuous bonobos. Even in these societies brother-sister incest is frowned upon, and in the more strongly patriarchal societies of macaques and chimps, adultery is not tolerated: you don’t fuck the boss’s wife without severe consequences. This is not to say that adultery never happens.

I once watched a pair of macaques, the boss macaque’s young mate and one of her young lovers, sneaking behind the bushes out of sight of the boss for some afternoon delight. They started going at it, but every fifteen seconds or so there would be a rustling in the bushes, and the female would freeze, with a look of absolute guilt and fear on her face. Her boyfriend would wait until she had realized that her husband wasn’t going to burst out of the bushes, then they’d start in again. Until another snapping twig would interrupt their fun once again.

At another time, I watched a family of orang-utans playing out a hilarious love triangle drama worthy of a TV sitcom. The family consisted of Dad, Mom, Junior (a six-month-old baby) and Auntie (Mom’s younger, hotter sister). The story begins with Dad, trying to relax under a tree. Junior comes bounding over wanting to play. Dad clearly wants nothing more than to get a few more minutes of sleep, but Junior is insistent.

“Dad! Dad! Dad! Dad! Let’s play, Dad! c’mon, Dad! Dad!”
“Uggghhhhh. Not now. Go away.”
“But Daaaaaad…”

At this point Mom intervenes.

“Why won’t you play with your son? Are you going to just lie around all day?”
“Ughhh. I don’t need this shit.”
“Come on, Junior. Leave your father alone. He’s too busy to devote any time to us right now!”

Fifteen minutes later, with Junior and Mom off doing something else, Dad is up in a tree with his wife’s sister. Auntie is smoothing Dad’s hair, caressing him, soothing his temper.

“It’s okay. I know, my sister can be a bitch.”
“She didn’t used to be this way. It’s like, ever since the kid came along, that’s all she cares about.”
“Well, if you ever get lonely, you can always swing by my place.”

He caresses her face. He’s just about to kiss her when he hears Mom and Junior approaching.
“Oh, shit. Shit! They’re coming. Look, I gotta go. I’ll see you, though. Soon.”

Dad swings down and goes off with Mom and Junior. Auntie watches wistfully, then sighs and starts masturbating.

This actually happened. The dialogue, of course, I imagined, but it was clear by gesture and facial expression that this was going on.

I have no idea what Macaque or Orang-utan religion is like. I don’t know the names of their Ape gods, nor have I read the holy Ape scriptures which command them not to commit ape-dultery. What I do know, though, is that they adhere to (or pretend to adhere to) very strict sexual mores, which mirror human mores very closely (or more accurately, ours mirror theirs).

The only difference is, they probably don’t believe that their morality and laws came from anywhere but the consensus of the group. [/quote]

So, where do you think this moral code comes from? Was it put into us by ourselves, or maybe a creator?
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Our moral code is simply the rules that have allowed us to interact with each other in groups since our earliest beginnings.

Our moral code is more refined than that of a chimp, because we have a more sophisticated social structure than a chimp has. But the same basic Commandments that define our moral code (thou shalt not kill, steal, covet or commit adultery) seem to be rules that govern their society as well. The difference is that what we call in ourselves “morality”, we call in chimps “behavior.” Can’t call it instinct, because a baby chimp has to be taught the rules and taboos of social interaction within his society, same as a human.

And in chimp society, the wages of sin are very often death.

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

[quote]dmaddox wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

[quote]Quasi-Tech wrote:
They have no reason to feel guilt and can simply enjoy whatever they like. As Titan stated, its only “our God” that’s limiting us.

As animals - from an evolutionary standpoint - have no issue with doing whatever suits them or meets their instinctual needs, there are clearly no limitations on atheists. Morals are for religious folk. Just do what feels good for you. True freedom.[/quote]

All social primates feel a form of guilt or shame if they act out of accordance with the rules of the group. Fear of retribution for misdeeds and anticipation of rewards for “correct behavior” is as much a feature of societies of Celebes macaques, Sumatran orang-utans, mountain gorillas, chimps and bonobos as they are in our own societies.

Sexual behavior is highly regulated in these societies as well, even among the famously promiscuous bonobos. Even in these societies brother-sister incest is frowned upon, and in the more strongly patriarchal societies of macaques and chimps, adultery is not tolerated: you don’t fuck the boss’s wife without severe consequences. This is not to say that adultery never happens.

I once watched a pair of macaques, the boss macaque’s young mate and one of her young lovers, sneaking behind the bushes out of sight of the boss for some afternoon delight. They started going at it, but every fifteen seconds or so there would be a rustling in the bushes, and the female would freeze, with a look of absolute guilt and fear on her face. Her boyfriend would wait until she had realized that her husband wasn’t going to burst out of the bushes, then they’d start in again. Until another snapping twig would interrupt their fun once again.

At another time, I watched a family of orang-utans playing out a hilarious love triangle drama worthy of a TV sitcom. The family consisted of Dad, Mom, Junior (a six-month-old baby) and Auntie (Mom’s younger, hotter sister). The story begins with Dad, trying to relax under a tree. Junior comes bounding over wanting to play. Dad clearly wants nothing more than to get a few more minutes of sleep, but Junior is insistent.

“Dad! Dad! Dad! Dad! Let’s play, Dad! c’mon, Dad! Dad!”
“Uggghhhhh. Not now. Go away.”
“But Daaaaaad…”

At this point Mom intervenes.

“Why won’t you play with your son? Are you going to just lie around all day?”
“Ughhh. I don’t need this shit.”
“Come on, Junior. Leave your father alone. He’s too busy to devote any time to us right now!”

Fifteen minutes later, with Junior and Mom off doing something else, Dad is up in a tree with his wife’s sister. Auntie is smoothing Dad’s hair, caressing him, soothing his temper.

“It’s okay. I know, my sister can be a bitch.”
“She didn’t used to be this way. It’s like, ever since the kid came along, that’s all she cares about.”
“Well, if you ever get lonely, you can always swing by my place.”

He caresses her face. He’s just about to kiss her when he hears Mom and Junior approaching.
“Oh, shit. Shit! They’re coming. Look, I gotta go. I’ll see you, though. Soon.”

Dad swings down and goes off with Mom and Junior. Auntie watches wistfully, then sighs and starts masturbating.

This actually happened. The dialogue, of course, I imagined, but it was clear by gesture and facial expression that this was going on.

I have no idea what Macaque or Orang-utan religion is like. I don’t know the names of their Ape gods, nor have I read the holy Ape scriptures which command them not to commit ape-dultery. What I do know, though, is that they adhere to (or pretend to adhere to) very strict sexual mores, which mirror human mores very closely (or more accurately, ours mirror theirs).

The only difference is, they probably don’t believe that their morality and laws came from anywhere but the consensus of the group. [/quote]

So, where do you think this moral code comes from? Was it put into us by ourselves, or maybe a creator?
[/quote]

Our moral code is simply the rules that have allowed us to interact with each other in groups since our earliest beginnings.

Our moral code is more refined than that of a chimp, because we have a more sophisticated social structure than a chimp has. But the same basic Commandments that define our moral code (thou shalt not kill, steal, covet or commit adultery) seem to be rules that govern their society as well. The difference is that what we call in ourselves “morality”, we call in chimps “behavior.” Can’t call it instinct, because a baby chimp has to be taught the rules and taboos of social interaction within his society, same as a human.

And in chimp society, the wages of sin are very often death. [/quote]

So maybe the 99% of all species ever created that are now extinct did not have that code? I think it is more than that. I believe we are created by God, and God put that moral code into His Creation.

I doubt it was by accident.

[quote]dmaddox wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

[quote]dmaddox wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

[quote]Quasi-Tech wrote:
They have no reason to feel guilt and can simply enjoy whatever they like. As Titan stated, its only “our God” that’s limiting us.

As animals - from an evolutionary standpoint - have no issue with doing whatever suits them or meets their instinctual needs, there are clearly no limitations on atheists. Morals are for religious folk. Just do what feels good for you. True freedom.[/quote]

All social primates feel a form of guilt or shame if they act out of accordance with the rules of the group. Fear of retribution for misdeeds and anticipation of rewards for “correct behavior” is as much a feature of societies of Celebes macaques, Sumatran orang-utans, mountain gorillas, chimps and bonobos as they are in our own societies.

Sexual behavior is highly regulated in these societies as well, even among the famously promiscuous bonobos. Even in these societies brother-sister incest is frowned upon, and in the more strongly patriarchal societies of macaques and chimps, adultery is not tolerated: you don’t fuck the boss’s wife without severe consequences. This is not to say that adultery never happens.

I once watched a pair of macaques, the boss macaque’s young mate and one of her young lovers, sneaking behind the bushes out of sight of the boss for some afternoon delight. They started going at it, but every fifteen seconds or so there would be a rustling in the bushes, and the female would freeze, with a look of absolute guilt and fear on her face. Her boyfriend would wait until she had realized that her husband wasn’t going to burst out of the bushes, then they’d start in again. Until another snapping twig would interrupt their fun once again.

At another time, I watched a family of orang-utans playing out a hilarious love triangle drama worthy of a TV sitcom. The family consisted of Dad, Mom, Junior (a six-month-old baby) and Auntie (Mom’s younger, hotter sister). The story begins with Dad, trying to relax under a tree. Junior comes bounding over wanting to play. Dad clearly wants nothing more than to get a few more minutes of sleep, but Junior is insistent.

“Dad! Dad! Dad! Dad! Let’s play, Dad! c’mon, Dad! Dad!”
“Uggghhhhh. Not now. Go away.”
“But Daaaaaad…”

At this point Mom intervenes.

“Why won’t you play with your son? Are you going to just lie around all day?”
“Ughhh. I don’t need this shit.”
“Come on, Junior. Leave your father alone. He’s too busy to devote any time to us right now!”

Fifteen minutes later, with Junior and Mom off doing something else, Dad is up in a tree with his wife’s sister. Auntie is smoothing Dad’s hair, caressing him, soothing his temper.

“It’s okay. I know, my sister can be a bitch.”
“She didn’t used to be this way. It’s like, ever since the kid came along, that’s all she cares about.”
“Well, if you ever get lonely, you can always swing by my place.”

He caresses her face. He’s just about to kiss her when he hears Mom and Junior approaching.
“Oh, shit. Shit! They’re coming. Look, I gotta go. I’ll see you, though. Soon.”

Dad swings down and goes off with Mom and Junior. Auntie watches wistfully, then sighs and starts masturbating.

This actually happened. The dialogue, of course, I imagined, but it was clear by gesture and facial expression that this was going on.

I have no idea what Macaque or Orang-utan religion is like. I don’t know the names of their Ape gods, nor have I read the holy Ape scriptures which command them not to commit ape-dultery. What I do know, though, is that they adhere to (or pretend to adhere to) very strict sexual mores, which mirror human mores very closely (or more accurately, ours mirror theirs).

The only difference is, they probably don’t believe that their morality and laws came from anywhere but the consensus of the group. [/quote]

So, where do you think this moral code comes from? Was it put into us by ourselves, or maybe a creator?
[/quote]

Our moral code is simply the rules that have allowed us to interact with each other in groups since our earliest beginnings.

Our moral code is more refined than that of a chimp, because we have a more sophisticated social structure than a chimp has. But the same basic Commandments that define our moral code (thou shalt not kill, steal, covet or commit adultery) seem to be rules that govern their society as well. The difference is that what we call in ourselves “morality”, we call in chimps “behavior.” Can’t call it instinct, because a baby chimp has to be taught the rules and taboos of social interaction within his society, same as a human.

And in chimp society, the wages of sin are very often death. [/quote]

So maybe the 99% of all species ever created that are now extinct did not have that code? I think it is more than that. I believe we are created by God, and God put that moral code into His Creation.

I doubt it was by accident.
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Definitely not by accident. Nothing in nature is an “accident”. Everything happens deliberately, and even predictably. Just not always the way we’d like it to.

We have a sophisticated moral code, with intricate sexual taboos (even people who have never heard of Yahweh, Jesus or Muhammad), because we have a complex social structure. We have a complicated social structure because we are social predatory animals who live in close proximity to one another. We are this way because we have intelligence and the capacity for oral and visual communication. These things are a result of our large brains, the positions of our larynges and the workings of our forelimbs. Which we got from these traits being naturally selected over hundreds of millennia.

Did a creator set this all in motion? Maybe. Probably. If so, then I suppose one could say that our moral code, such as it is, came from such a creator… but only insofar as the works of Shakespeare came from the Phoenecians, who gave us the genesis of our alphabet.

[quote]Varqanir wrote:
but only insofar as the works of Shakespeare came from the Phoenecians, who gave us the genesis of our alphabet.
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This is a leap of galactic proportions.

It´s pretty boring to wait. I am not a fan of religion and think that these kinds of thoughts only make problems for so many people that want to be sexually experienced before they get married.

Yeah I’d agree with that for the most part except for the ‘social structure’ part so much,
but the ‘social’ part does have a great influence on morality, good OR Bad I may add.
If one grew up among the Viking Families, hung out in Pompeii, or grew up among the Cannibals, I’d say you’re gonna grow
up with not the best of ‘moral codes’ as we know them today…But overall in creation, does a Tiger need to go ‘‘Tiger School’’
to become a Tiger? Does a Mouse need to go to ‘‘Mouse School’’ to become a Mouse?
NO, The entire Animal Kingdom does just fine without ‘‘instruction’’, for the most part.

So it’s kind of ironic we, apparently the highest, most intelligent of earthly creations, Human beings, need ‘‘instruction’’ even
into PRESENT DAY, adding Pharmaceuticals and ‘‘Religion’’ in the traditional sense into the mix, sorta proving right
there that we are ‘Fallen’ somehow, and apparently accountable to a higher being down the road because of the
‘‘dominion’’ we were given here.

[quote]kongenavtys wrote:
It´s pretty boring to wait. I am not a fan of religion and think that these kinds of thoughts only make problems for so many people that want to be sexually experienced before they get married.[/quote]

They have certainly made for a lot of new husbands who don’t know what the fuck they’re doin’ in the sack. Lots of disappointed brides, methinks.

[quote]dmaddox wrote:So, where do you think this moral code comes from? Was it put into us by ourselves, or maybe a creator?
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Society, men, women, parents, grandparents, etc.

“Morals” have changed over time and have been different in different societies all over Earth.

I don’t believe in God. I don’t do shitty things. Some people who don’t believe in God do. Some people believe in God. Some do shitty things.

Correctness of behavior (which is what morals are to me) can be seen by anyone of any faith, non-faith, etc. Nothing special about it.

From Titan’s first post, he stated that it was belief in a religious system that limited people on sex, and that he was “free” to have sex as he felt inclined.

I was responding to his post, which was clearly lacking and meant purely as an eye poke, which is common when people want to try to make religion look bad.

Morality is defined by the individual. My sense of morality is different from your own. As much as religion, society, family might impart their morality or ideals upon you (generality), it is you who ultimately defines what you feel is moral and what isn’t. In Titan’s case, he thinks senseless fucking is moral and acceptable - or he feels its not to be identified as part of “his” morality at all - its just instinct and he has to answer to his dick, not the other way around. In my case, I find it irresponsible and lacking in respect for both self and the other that partakes, moreso lacking in chivalry, which is something altogether lost in modern society. This has nothing to do with marriage, it has to do with lack of self-control and understanding the purpose or intent of sex - but again that goes back to religion, morality, and what you believe.

[quote]Karado wrote:
Yeah I’d agree with that for the most part except for the ‘social structure’ part so much,
but the ‘social’ part does have a great influence on morality, good OR Bad I may add.
If one grew up among the Viking Families, hung out in Pompeii, or grew up among the Cannibals, I’d say you’re gonna grow
up with not the best of ‘moral codes’ as we know them today.[/quote]

The Vikings, the Romans in Pompeii and even cannibal societies each had their own complex codes of morality and behavior. They may not have been the same as ours here in the Christian West, but they worked for the societies in which they were developed.

I once lived among the Batak people in Northern Sumatra. Traditionally they had been cannibals, until the late 19th century when they were converted to Christianity (all of the cannibal tribes of Indonesia choose Christianity over Islam, for two reasons: one, because as Christians they can still eat pigs and dogs, which may not be human but they’re close enough, and two, because they instinctively understand the concept of the Eucharist). The Batak kingdom had a very highly developed code of honor and justice, and though they might be viewed as promiscuous, lewd and thieving by the standards of their Muslim neighbors, their moral code made sense for their society.

Cannibalism was highly ritualized, and was typically used as a penalty for capital crimes such as murder, rape or incest. The perpetrator was lashed to a pole in the center of the village and eaten alive by the villagers: in this way every member of the community got directly involved in the business of punishing a malefactor. Not nearly as harmful to the environment as burning people at the stake, and far less wasteful of perfectly good meat.

[quote]But overall in creation, does a Tiger need to go ‘‘Tiger School’’ to become a Tiger? Does a Mouse need to go to ‘‘Mouse School’’ to become a Mouse?
NO, The entire Animal Kingdom does just fine without ‘‘instruction’’, for the most part.[/quote]

Actually, yes. Young animals do go through a period of instruction to “learn their jobs” before they can become adults. Typically the more complex the society in which they live, like say a wolf or a lion or a primate, the longer and more intensive the training period is. Put a chimp who has been raised by humans out into the wild, and they would no more be able to survive in ape society than a human raise by chimps would be able to survive in our society. They wouldn’t know the rules, because nobody taught them.

[quote]So it’s kind of ironic we, apparently the highest, most intelligent of earthly creations, Human beings, need ‘‘instruction’’ even
into PRESENT DAY, adding Pharmaceuticals and ‘‘Religion’’ in the traditional sense into the mix, sorta proving right there that we are ‘Fallen’ somehow, and apparently accountable to a higher being down the road because of the ‘‘dominion’’ we were given here.[/quote]

We hold ourselves to a higher standard due to the “dominion” we have “risen” to, by dint of developing weapons to compensate for our puny teeth and claws.

[quote]dmaddox wrote:

[quote]Varqanir wrote:
but only insofar as the works of Shakespeare came from the Phoenecians, who gave us the genesis of our alphabet.
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This is a leap of galactic proportions.
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Not really. Considering how close Tyre is to London, I’d say it was a leap of continental proportions.

[quote]Varqanir wrote:

Cannibalism was highly ritualized, and was typically used as a penalty for capital crimes such as murder, rape or incest. The perpetrator was lashed to a pole in the center of the village and eaten alive by the villagers: in this way every member of the community got directly involved in the business of punishing a malefactor. Not nearly as harmful to the environment as burning people at the stake, and far less wasteful of perfectly good meat.

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That is both hardcore and epic at the same time. I personally would not be motivated to commit a crime in a culture where you are eaten alive, heh. Though… in your case, I wouldn’t be motivated to live in a canabalistic culture either. Figure you look different from everyone else, might taste different to, like a delicacy of sorts :-P.

That’s about right, it’s only a leap of Galactic Proportions between Tyre and London only if you take
the long route and travel the Milky Way first which would be a total waste of Electrons…er’ I mean energy.


Christian Asmat tribesmen in Indonesia

[quote]Karado wrote:
That is both hardcore and epic at the same time. I personally would not be motivated to commit a crime in a culture where you are eaten alive, heh. Though… in your case, I wouldn’t be motivated to live in a canabalistic culture either. Figure you look different from everyone else, might taste different to, like a delicacy of sorts :-P.[/quote]

That’s likely what the Asmat of Indonesian Papua likely thought when they ate Michael Rockefeller…the only Rockefeller who ever served a useful purpose.

The Asmat are some of the original inhabitants of the Malay Archipelago, an ancient Melanesian race related to the Australian aborigines, nominally Christian to satisfy the Indonesian law outlawing atheism and frowning on traditional animism, but very much still what you would imagine when you think of “pagan cannibal savages” lots of body painting, horns through the nose, drumming and dancing around bonfires and totem poles. They are not even a stone-age culture, for the simple reason that the mangrove swampland they call home has no stones.

Anyway, there’s a great quote by an Asmat chief, who was asked how human flesh tasted, compared, say, to pork or fish.

The old man, a scarred veteran of countless vendetta wars and cannibal raids, responded thus:

“Our own flesh is too tough. The Malay is too sweet. The white man, too salty. But the Chinese is perfectly delicious.”

You attributed that quote to me Varq, that was Quasi… honest mistake I’m sure.

Handsome group of Gentlemen there…Is that Sly Stone second from the right?
I always wondered what happened to him…Interesting info on those culture anyway,
but I wonder how they avoid that ‘‘Mad Cow’’ like disease from eating human flesh,
are they immune to that or what?